KRISTEN'S BOARD
Talk => General Discussion => Topic started by: Well Behaved Lady on August 29, 2014, 10:18:42 AM
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I was never academically minded in school. I knew things, I took it all in, I just was never very forthright and my teachers obviously just thought I was stupid and concentrated on the other girls in my class. I wasn't alone in this.
I watched a programme last night and it made me realise how much I'd missed out on in school, I didn't fail my history exams by any means, I just never took it all in.
It's given me a kick to look back at what I so apparently missed about this part of history that struck home last night.
It's never to late to learn
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Looking back, I now realize the subjects I had the toughest times in are the ones I can still remember to this day.
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Math....boy did I ever miss out on math. I always passed, barely.
And I don't remember it to this day and I still never want to learn it. :D
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I didn't miss out on any of the required subjects. I took it all in and was an excellent student. English was probably my worst subject.
What I missed out on in high school was the people, my classmates. I was a follower. My best friend was a leader, class president, respected by many. Where he was, I followed. He was the talker, I was quiet. My girlfriend went to another school, so I never really tried to get to know many of the girls. Because of those reasons, I didn't reach out to others. It was at our 5th year reunion that I showed up and realized I hardly knew anyone.
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Math....boy did I ever miss out on math. I always passed, barely.
And I don't remember it to this day and I still never want to learn it. :D
LOL Ditto. Math was like Chinese to me. In fact, Chinese, well, Mandarin would probably have been easier for me! Gimme languages, history, geography, anything! As long as it's not math.
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I didn't miss out on any of the required subjects. I took it all in and was an excellent student. English was probably my worst subject.
What I missed out on in high school was the people, my classmates. I was a follower. My best friend was a leader, class president, respected by many. Where he was, I followed. He was the talker, I was quiet. My girlfriend went to another school, so I never really tried to get to know many of the girls. Because of those reasons, I didn't reach out to others. It was at our 5th year reunion that I showed up and realized I hardly knew anyone.
I apparently missed out on being a wild, rebellious teen. Kept my head down, got good grades...I'm not sure I've ever been grounded. Didn't have a sip of alcohol til I was 21. Still, it's been a good life and I don't really regret it.
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I was very shy in grade school and high school. To say I was naive would be an understatement. I had one girlfriend starting in 10th grade who was a year older than me and I don't think we ever kissed. When she left for college, she found someone else and I never heard from her again. Tough to be a jilted senior. Lonely. I should have brushed myself off and start to date again, but didn't. I missed that and didn't date until I graduated from high school and went off to college myself.
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I'm not sure if I missed out or not (maybe so).
I was involved with horses for most of my childhood (my mom taught me to ride at age six). During high school I was still involved with horses and (I guess) I missed out on the normal HS Social Life. (My social circle's were completely different than the friends that I had at HS).
Love,
Liz
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Cowboys for Christ?
:emot_weird:
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I was in about the 8th grade and in the boy scouts. Madison Wisconsin. our spring project was to sell fertilizer to pay for a 21 day canoe trip thru the lakes in Canada.
sold all my fertilizer, then decided not to go. one of my first decisions, one of the few I regret.
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Like many others here, math was my sore spot. Algebra total fail. Had to write a short bio for our 50th Reunion this past June. At the end I wrote: "In the past 50 years, I can't remember one instance where I ever needed algebra."
That got some good comments from others in the class. The husband of one, who is a math expert of some kind, said he agreed and the only time he's used algebra is helping the kids with homework.
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Apparently my high school graduating class had several after "parties" none of which I remember. lol.. and it seems I am not the only one. :emot_laughing:
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So I wasn't the only one not invited.
Nice to know.
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(A) How can I know what I missed out on since I obviously missed out on it. So I will always miss out on it, have always been missing out on it, and will continue to miss out on it to infinity.
(B) Meanwhile, back on the ranch, I know I have focused on the unattainable long and hard so I have missed the wonderful things that were within my reach on numerous occasions.
if A = < > B go to A
The wheels on the bus go round and round......
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So I wasn't the only one not invited.
Nice to know.
is that the way of it? I recently was asked to join a class group. OMG.. these people still form groups within the group. Your either in or your not. I think I am better of being in the "not" group.
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So I wasn't the only one not invited.
Nice to know.
is that the way of it? I recently was asked to join a class group. OMG.. these people still form groups within the group. Your either in or your not. I think I am better of being in the "not" group.
I'm 47, The fact that there are still groups from school just blow me away.
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So I wasn't the only one not invited.
Nice to know.
is that the way of it? I recently was asked to join a class group. OMG.. these people still form groups within the group. Your either in or your not. I think I am better of being in the "not" group.
I'm 47, The fact that there are still groups from school just blow me away.
LOL...I'm 31 and going to a class reunion is still a sight to behold.
For some unknown reason (even though we graduated ages ago), The jocks all gather at one table, The cheerleaders at another, The overachieving honors students at another. It's like stepping backswards in time and standing in my HS cafeteria before we all graduated, and whats worse is that the topic's haven't changed at all. I'd like to think I've moved past that great football game we had as seniors or that fantastic basketball game. It's scary to think that people live in the past and that all they talk about when they get together at reunions, what happened to the rest of their lives, they must have done "something" between ages 18 and 31.
Love,
Liz
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yes, the worst fate of all would be to wake up when you were 65 and realize you died when you were 25.
this is not a test run, CTL alt Delete does not apply.
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I was a deans list student in mental health admin. until I realized I was just there to try to figure out what ever about myself... college was about sex and pot and something an old GF said when I refused to do her again after we were done .. she said there is an old jewish curse > when you are old you will remember the things you didn't do and forget the things you did. Scotty
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pinhead what I missed out on was having you around and all that might have meant to me
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LOL...I'm 31 and going to a class reunion is still a sight to behold.
For some unknown reason (even though we graduated ages ago), The jocks all gather at one table, The cheerleaders at another, The overachieving honors students at another. It's like stepping backswards in time and standing in my HS cafeteria before we all graduated, and whats worse is that the topic's haven't changed at all. I'd like to think I've moved past that great football game we had as seniors or that fantastic basketball game. It's scary to think that people live in the past and that all they talk about when they get together at reunions, what happened to the rest of their lives, they must have done "something" between ages 18 and 31.
Love,
Liz
I've never gone to a reunion as I really didn't care that much for the people I graduated with. I tended to hang with people two years older or younger than I was.
With that said, what you are describing is pretty much what everyone tells me a reunion is all about. Getting back together with the people you graduated with and talk about all the stupid shit you did or didn't do back then. There is a bit of small talk about where you are now and stuff but really, for one night it's an escape back to being young and dumb. You had the world by the balls and you knew it all. Then the real world came up and kicked you back to reality and we, for the most part, grew up.
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I never went to any official school re-unions... never did very well in exams and hated mixing with the jerks who shone at everything... However... about ten years ago I got a phone call from the police... well from a policeman... we used to go to school together... Hadn't seen him for years...
He was arranging a re-union with about a dozen old school friends who used to hang about together... Well I went and the memories flowed back... had a wild time... but... when we looked back to see what we'd missed out on we all agreed we'd done pretty well and had good, well paid jobs and most of us had happy marriages...
Now we meet up a couple of times a year for a meal and a drink or three to enjoy the nostalgic memories...
vinney
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I was too engrossed in my studying. But had dirty thoughts on having sex with a sexy teacher and a few girls. But was too shy to take a leap. Keeping wondering why i did not take the opportunities, then.
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I like to think the only things I missed out on was due to a lack of hours in the day. rode a harley to college, was a deans list student, best pot on the west coast and an endless supply of curious girls new to the freedom of being away from parents. I do remember thinking that one day I would have wonderful memories and I really only regret the things that I didn't do.....
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Liz, Coach, I hated High School. Hated it. I wasn't a jock, I wasn't a cool kid, I wasn't a goth or a geek. I just didn't want to be there, I wanted it to be over.
I really have no memories of High School. But I am one to get nostalgic, so I completely understand everybody remembering that big football or basketball game or what ever they remembered about those four years that were supposed to be so "magical".
I never got the School Yearbook. Didn't want it then. Funny thing was, I loved Buffy, The Vampire Slayer, and I so wished I had gone to school with Buffy, Willow, Xander, Giles, Oz, Cordelia, so much so when I found this Buffy, The Vampire Slayer Sunnydale High School Yearbook I bought it. It suddenly was a big deal.
If I ever got my Yearbook, who would I track down to sign it? There was this one super cool dude named Jesse. I'd ask him to sign it. But I can think of tons of girls i'd ask to sign it. I was shy but all the girls were nice. One even asked me to the Prom. :P
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Spent so much time in local arenas and on the bus involved in hockey during my high school years, I cannot say I would even know what I missed out on in those formative years. I only played 2 years of organized hockey but became a sought after off-ice official (I didn't mind operating the score board and recording the game stats). Lots of road trips with lots of fun times.
In school, I wasn't very good a algebra but was quite good at calculus and trigonometry. Physics rocked but chemistry sucked. Hated English but did OK and knew more than the teacher in Social Studies (history). With a graduating class of 30, everybody belonged to several groups. The jocks were also the geeks who were also part of the smart asses. Lack of application was my biggest sin in high school. Doing some studying likely would have gotten me into the Royal Military College of Canada. Instead, I became an enlisted member and served for 18 years.
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For Me it was a big "miss out" on _anything_ social. It was a big miss out on sex Ed learning, communication and friends. By jr and senior highs, what few friends (geeky nerds) was only met at school for the most part except for Maybe an every other week meeting for tabletop gaming night. I spent grade school playing with girls at recess (too scrawny to play sports with boys). So jr high hit and these girl "friends" now we're separated from me so I basically was a loner the rest of school. (Girls now starting to look at guys in other ways, and me being still too scrawny to get along with any other ontheguys side.
And sex.. The great mystery (at least for me). Sex Ed was just showing girls have these parts, guys have these parts.. Put them together and you'll get a baby. Not really "how" the parts worked together. My biggest sex Ed was from a classmate.. Big hulking Latino kid (compared to me). He taught me "ya put yer dick in the girl and piss! That's how babies were made! "(Heh)
And I had thought mom didn't give me a birds and bees speech. Well. I found out 4 weeks ago she had tried in her own way. She found a highly technical magazine article in Lady's Circle of how to explain it to kids based on 1969-1970 info. She did what then '70's was an equivalent of make a copy.. But this was 2 full pages of typed out text.
She handed that to me supposedly stating "any questions, ask". (She kept that typeup..I saw it last time I visited..heck even have picture copies of that. )
Hell, I was a kid. That's a lot to just plain read...if I did (don't remember it). She said I didn't ask anything.. (Of course..I ignored the wall of words...).
That was my sex Ed. When I eventually did do date and my only sex attempt..age 18... I had no clue on really doing anything to stimulate, how exactly to physically do it I didn't even know you were to be hard going in and movement,etc to stimulate. (There was no real penetration and nothing really accomplished). Even if I had truly read that article.. It just said things like "stimulate then you will ejaculate" all technical like. Nothing about the stim part meaning or what you and the partner would do to achieve this stimulation.
That's how sex-knowledge brain-dead I was. Wasn't until my 20's when I finally figured out what it all was really supposed to have been (thanks, early Internet).
Back to high school.. Senior year I apparently did have a few girls commenting on me in band.. But I was too socially (and sexually) inept to realize what they were talking about.
And I do know about cliques.. between cliques, and negative-level popularity..I figure that's why there had been zero attempts for the school to contact me for any school reunions. It's now been 31 years..they should have had a big 30 year one not long ago.
Granted...now with my transgender MtF transitioning, it'd be a keckuvva story there now :)
So missing out? A lot. And still affects me today (severe social anxieties from it). Oh, nowadays I get out occasionally to clubs. But I'm still just a wallflower there. I've been heavy pro open-sexuality and LGBT inclusive online, on Facebook, and discussing with friends. Well-studied erotica-wise. Even to investigating and appreciating the kinkier sides thru fetlife, alt.com and such. But none of that actually has resulted in anything physical due to social handicaps. And now, since this will be my year 50 in July, and I'm transitioning..it likely won't ever change.
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WOO.
Thanks for the insight Leo.
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When I was almost 15 I met a "beatnik" couple and they got me stoned .. later she said she bet I didn't even know how to kiss and was my tutor. Maybe I got lucky. It's so easy to be a Monday quarterback but whatever you had brought you here today. Thinking about what you didn't do is silly as trying to remember what you did do. What are you gonna do now ? What will you miss out on NOW seems like an important thing to consider ??? Your/our imagination is a cute thing if you/we use it. What are you gonna do now >??? Tomorrow is an exciting adventure (yesterday is gone - nothing you can do) What are you gonna miss out on tomorrow is the curious question !!! I am so curious about tomorrow and I hope you are too ! Whee
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When I was almost 15 I met a "beatnik" couple and they got me stoned .. later she said she bet I didn't even know how to kiss and was my tutor. Maybe I got lucky. It's so easy to be a Monday quarterback but whatever you had brought you here today. Thinking about what you didn't do is silly as trying to remember what you did do. What are you gonna do now ? What will you miss out on NOW seems like an important thing to consider ??? Your/our imagination is a cute thing if you/we use it. What are you gonna do now >??? Tomorrow is an exciting adventure (yesterday is gone - nothing you can do) What are you gonna miss out on tomorrow is the curious question !!! I am so curious about tomorrow and I hope you are too ! Whee
I agree with you on most of this but want to add another view of it.
Looking back at what you didn't do also helps the mind moving forward for new opportunity's when they come up. Remembering the past changes your future
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Missing out?
Yeah, I did on many things.
Two things, can remember atm,
As both are really similar,
First was watching a movie climax/conclusion scene in the theatre,
Second was looking at the camera during a very big and important group picture,
Both times, my phone ended up distracting me.:facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm: :facepalm:
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What did I miss out on?
1) About a half dozen sexual situations under age 18
2) About a dozen sexual situations after I was 18
3) I was heading up security at a James Brown impersonation event held by a radio station. The prize was an all expenses paid trip to Hollywood. There were only two contestants and they were both terrible. I am a natural mimic and the security guards told the person hosting the event that I could have easily have mopped up the floor with those two. She begged me to get me on stage, pleaded with me. James Brown has never been my forte, U.S. Presidents and other authority figures were. Thing was, my work partner was about to get married. I knew I would need 3-4 days off for that as I was best man. I didn't want to ask my employer for a week off to go to Hollywood and then three days off for a wedding within a month's timeframe so I told the woman no.
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My biggest regret of things I missed out on is not taking the time to talk with people before they die. Old people are the most important in this world as they contain much information from the past that they can share with us so that such things can live on and continue in this world. It is important that we communicate and ask the right questions before we lose the opportunity to gain the knowledge that they had. I regrettably have had many such opportunities pass me by. I think of a question I could have asked them and then it makes me sad that I can no longer ask them what I wanted to.
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Tits ! Never got them still nothing ! >:(
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Tits ! Never got them still nothing ! >:(
Overated. If you got 'em you might want smaller. If you're smaller, you might want bigger. Why can we never be happy? I'm going to just say you're probably the perfect size Alnbren