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concerning work, unfortunately, I am well behaved in the sexual harassment area, and do not ever hit on a lady at work.
my handle, "lostforkate" comes from the show "Lost". I really like the character "Kate", and thought the writers did a great job making her sexy, sometimes bad, and sometimes good. There where two characters in the show, "Jack and Sawyer", and I find myself to have to have characteristics of both characters. Jack is the straight arrow, and Sawyer is the con. My Jack side pays the bills, but Sawyer loves to bad, and is quite a ladies man when he wants to be.
At work, I am Jack.
Recently at work, there is lovely lady, nearly six foot tall, blond milf, and nearly a "D" naturally great rack. She came into my office for a discussion, and she was wearing a top that she was just busting out of. Jack was doing all he could to look her in the eyes, and have a normal conversation, and he was succeeding, while she was constantly tugging at her shirt, trying to cover her cleavage, and there just was not enough fabric. It was very annoying to Jack, who is trying to look her in the eyes, as she kept fixing her shirt.
Does she know I am pervert? Did she want a compliment? Do I flirt? I am dotted line report to her, and she is basically a corporate level higher than me, so Jack says "no-way". Sawyer says "she is hot". I wanted to tell to her "stop tugging on shirt, and go with what God gave her".
So all you more experienced perverts? She is town again next week, if she presents an opportunity to flirt, do I let her meet Sawyer? (Oh yeah, were both married)
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Concerning your question, I would think that the first sentence in your post should give you your answer!
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Just maintain your professionalism. Don't shit where you eat. Also, why would you consider it if you are each married? You said your vows for a reason. Right?
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One of my rules is to never give advice. I don't know you, your wife, your marriage, your employment, etc. I can make an observation or two. One, pursuing her has its costs, particularly in risk to your marriage and your job. You know those risks; I don't. But I think Janus is fairly on point, because we tend to rationalize risks in the face of a desire.
Another: how well do you actually know her? Is she looking for a connection? Is she just somebody who's proud of her form and likes to display it? Is she a tease? Is she looking for an excuse to get you in trouble? I know nothing about her, but you do.
(Yeah, that's a boring answer, but again: do you really want advice from a guy who has no real knowledge of the situation?)
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TY for the replies, as I think about this, it is sort of a lame question I posed.
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No, the question wasn't lame. You were unsure, which is reason enough to get a second opinion.
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TY for the replies, as I think about this, it is sort of a lame question I posed.
An honest question is never a lame question.
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In all my years, I've only ever seen a relationship with a coworker come out well *twice*. The rest have been anywhere from troublesome to an all-out disaster, frequently with one or both participants terminated.
I'm far from "Ask Abby", but I'd recommend against it. There's millions of fish in the sea; why would you look for one that's likely to do little more than cause you grief?
I'm sorely tempted myself on a daily basis, but so far I've kept work and sex separate. It was nearly an inhuman task when I was down in Mexico, but luckily they don't sell condons grande there, so I was forced to keep it in my pants.
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Ride um bareback.....LOL
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It was nearly an inhuman task when I was down in Mexico, but luckily they don't sell condons grande there, so I was forced to keep it in my pants.
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i really like the support, somehow there is a work fantasy urging to come out, but there are many others yet to pursue,
the donkey condom vid, :emot_laughing:
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two times I hooked up with someone from work, pre marriage for me, both were separated. It was clear that it was only friends with benefits and would end if it became something else. Funny thing is one of them had a son that looked like me, a lot. He was born before I met her but it started some odd rumors when a group of us went to the company picnic together.
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Don't think I would.........but never had the chance either. Only once at a Christmas works do, I had gone to with my boyfriend at the time. There was a guy who I had spoken a lot to on the phone, he worked in our warehouse and I suppose thinking about it we had flirted a bit, although I did make it clear I have a b/f. Anyway, this party was in full flow, my b/f for some reason did not want to dance.....so I got up and was quite happy dancing on my own when the record changed to a slow one........ before I could leave the dance floor, this guy stopped me and asked me to dance. I refused saying I was going to sit down. I got to the table, asked my b/f if he wanted to dance, he still said no and I admit I was a bit miffed with this. The other guy had followed me over to the table as well and again in front of my b/f asked if I would dance.........against my better judgement I said yes!...........This guy led me on the the dance floor and suddenly was flat on his back.....with some of the other guys pulling my b/f off him. Not good. It made the next few weeks at work awkward because of it. I also sensed others (bosses) did not view it well either. :-[
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I obviously don't know the details, but usually those kinds of parties are full of people switching dancing partners. I'm having a hard time sympathizing with your boyfriend.
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I obviously don't know the details, but usually those kinds of parties are full of people switching dancing partners. I'm having a hard time sympathizing with your boyfriend.
It was beyond my understanding as well, it wasn't as if I hadn't asked him to dance......he wasn't interested. He turned out to be far to jealous........... :roll:
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Sounds like he became past tense very quickly, thereafter.
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And based on the conversation so far, that sounds like a good move.
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I have always tried to not mix work and love life together....bad things can happen.
In a big company....The HR Monster can come down on your like a screaming train wreck...shortening your career very quickly.
Good Luck....
Your better to just find a single girl that attracts your attention (maybe in the company) and ask her to lunch...then go from there.
Love,
Liz
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I'd love to, but...
We got a new supervisor at work a few months ago. I work with her, but not for her. When my boss first introduced us, he made some remark about "being careful around me 'cos all of the girls were after me." Yeah, he's noticed, too. She got the *weirdest* expression at the time. ;D
Now a few months later when she knows me better, her body language is frequently saying "come and rub me" although I'm pretty sure she has a solid boyfriend / possible-fiancee from what she's said. Still, her body is talking for her when she doesn't notice it. I do. :emot_kiss:
She's cute and Asian (looks Thai). Hold me back!!
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consider this....
all relationships end. Yet you still will be working with, or worse, for, this person. Would it effect your job? Will there be happy feelings on all sides when it's over (unlikely)?
that why the old saying "dont dip you pen in the company ink well" or
"Don't get your meat where you earn your bread"
"don't mix business with pleasure"
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As my dad so succinctly, though roughly put it. "don't fuck around the flag pole."
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I have always had a bit of a sex at work fantasy which has yet to be fulfilled. As I look at the comments and my own common sense, do not mix sex and coworkers. I have also noted people turn their ethics up a notch when they're at work.
I have thought of getting an escort into the building and office at off hours and have my fantasy fulfilled, but that would be off hours, and will be very tough to bypass security. Easier to get some one in during normal hours.
Again other fantasies yet to fulfill, so this one may go on the backburner for a while.
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you could do what my wife and I did. She dropped in to surprise me with lunch one day, and we ended up on my desk. Having your own office with a door can be so beneficial.
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I have to work VERY closely with a lot of attractive women. Flirting is fun, and can ease some of the tension. I'm married and not opposed to fooling around. But I'd hesitate to fool around at work.
Unless I was very comfortable with her, and trusted her implicitly to keep things casual, I'd have trouble justifying a work fling. Things can get messy and I don't like messes.
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I got some fresh meat today. I didn't interview her last week, my accomplice did.
She's mid-twenties, Latina and *cute* as all hell! Damn! Since I was doing the training directly with her this evening, we were close together all night long. I'm sure she thought she was being sly about it, but she kept checking out my crotch and ass, depending on what was going on at the time. I kept wanting to say
"Hey, my eyes are up here!" :emot_laughing:
I have iron-clad control over the gallant reflex. When you're a bit above average and always wearing tight jeans, you learn to control it... quickly. It's extremely uncomfortable, otherwise.
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Or as my dad would say, "Don't fuck around the flagpole."
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I've been approached by one of the guys I work with and only once, simply because I reminded him we had to work together and I certainly wasn't prepared for the crap that would follow.
I have though been involved with a man I worked with, I still see him now professionally, we are adult enough to get past what has gone on in our past, even if we still fancy the pants off each other.
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we still fancy the pants off each other."
I LOVE this line!
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we still fancy the pants off each other."
I LOVE this line!
You can borrow it if you like ;D
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Judging from your avatar Wubble you fancy a lot...LOL
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I’m a newbie here so I don’t even know if this post is still being posted to, but the subject caught my eye because I know something about the subject. So here’s my two cents and my confession. I have worked at this company in a business office setting for over 10 years and during that time I have slept with 9 different women co-workers. I was always and still am friendly, charming and open minded at work and the women who want sex pick up on that. All were professionals, all business women. One had a masters degree working on a PhD. Some were college grads, some not, some were married, and some were not.
I don’t profess to “know” women and what makes them tick, and any man who says he knows women is a liar. But one thing has been proven to me over and over again and that’s… when a woman wants sex she is going to get it, period. As one woman put it “I have a sexual appetite and I want it fulfilled.” This was after I asked her if she thought all the yelling and screaming she did could be heard by her children, 6 years old and 12 years old. She also said they know their mother is sexually active, they’re ok with it.
We carried on she and I, for about 2 years, until angry about something, she ended it one day. I agreed with her to end it, which angered her even more. I would usually talk her down, she’d cry a few buckets, then we’d have this outrageous jungle style marathon make up sex. Well this time I didn’t do that and she didn’t take it too well. Let’s just say I never thought I would ever have to call the police to get a woman out of my apartment. But when she’s breaking all the windows and tearing the place up, a fella’s got to do something. I couldn’t hit her. I had always heard about a Latina’s fiery Latin temper. This was more like a flame thrower.
Next day at work was a bit dicey. She walks up to me cool as a cucumber and slightly more sober, and says “I better not get a visit from the police today here at work.” And that was it. Staff meetings were a bit weird after that. Especially when you’re in a room of 10 or 15 people and there’s one women in there, you used to fuck, and two more that you are currently fucking. All In the same room all taking turns looking at you. And of course they didn’t know about each other. Ignorance truly is bliss. Believe it or not, less than a year after I had to call the police on this woman, that same women made up with me and we started fucking again. Thank God she left the company about a year later. Ok that’s one story, it is the truth. If you want me to write more I’ll write more. I’d love to hear some comments.
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You like to live dangerously.
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Dude, I wanna party with you.
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Do you have a death wish? :emot_laughing:
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You like to live dangerously.
Do you have a death wish? :emot_laughing:
Is it any different for the ladies with whom he plays? They are just as culpable. For all he knows they too are screwing more than just him.
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Agreed, and if one of those women had posted, would have said same thing!
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I guess that burning desire to be naughty and do things that could get one in trouble or otherwise a bit of hot water are just too tempting. I can certainly relate. It's all fun and games till shit goes haywire. LOL
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Is it any different for the ladies with whom he plays? They are just as culpable. For all he knows they too are screwing more than just him.
Janus, this isn't a criticism of what you wrote, nor is it nitpicking your choice of words, but I wonder why you chose the word "culpability," with its implication of moral wrongdoing?
Granted, the OP said it was a "confession," thereby seemingly indicating that he thought it was wrong. But he never mentions whether he or his partners are married to someone else. It's not that I might not personally criticize someone for committing adultery, but if I did so, it would be for the injustice of the act, and not the sex itself. And, to answer your question, that criticism would extend to both men and women.
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Is it any different for the ladies with whom he plays? They are just as culpable. For all he knows they too are screwing more than just him.
Janus, this isn't a criticism of what you wrote, nor is it nitpicking your choice of words, but I wonder why you chose the word "culpability," with its implication of moral wrongdoing?
Granted, the OP said it was a "confession," thereby seemingly indicating that he thought it was wrong. But he never mentions whether he or his partners are married to someone else. It's not that I might not personally criticize someone for committing adultery, but if I did so, it would be for the injustice of the act, and not the sex itself. And, to answer your question, that criticism would extend to both men and women.
His last sentence of the first paragraph. Indicates infidelity. Also the injustice of the act is the sex done in any form if there is a marriage involved with either or both parties. if they are not the ones married to each other. IMO
"One had a masters degree working on a PhD. Some were college grads, some not, some were married, and some were not."
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Great share mario! What company do work for, actually don't answer that. LOL
It sort of reminds me of girl who is just a friend, if I did not have an so, she would be my type. She's pettite, but athletic, and very scrappy. She played ice hockey at one time, and is an avid hockey fan. I worked closely with for a couple years and am still friends today. Before I worked with her as a colleague, I knew of her, and that she was in a sexual relationship with her scum manager.
One day her manager came in and ended their relationship because he just got engaged with another woman. She pulled the sweater he was wearing, and started pounding the shit out of him, and scuffle drew witnesses. She then knocked him over and started kicking, and he was bloodied. No one ever pressed any charges, but she ended up moving into my group, and I have been friends with her since. Eventualy the manager ended up in a IRIF and is no longer around.
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There is a new round of college interns where I am employed, and the pervert in me can understand Bill Clinton a little more. One intern sent me an email asking for info from my department. I have not met her yet, and she has a sexy name.
When I got to meet her, well she is really cute, and afterwards, I sent her an email note and asked how far she is in her schooling, and what her major is. I got reply relatively quickly and near fell out of my chair laughing.
she wrote "i am a rising junior from University of ___________, and majoring in Chemistry, with a minor in Gender Studies" :emot_laughing:
So I am left with writing a encouraging reply, and the challenge is to be supportive without it ever being interpreted as sexual harassment. ;D
I must admit it is an interesting major/minor combo. My reply included a reference to Spock quote "fascinating", and guess what, she is a star trek fan. This old man needs to hit the gym, and fantasize LoL. I will probably just have to call Alison.
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Isn't great to work at a place with a lot of hot co-workers to fantasize about? ;-)
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I periodically talk to co-worker who works out of Cerritos (LA). She has a nice voice, though I can here her breathing on the phone, "ih ah ih ah ih" when I am speaking. I figure she is a bit overweight. Overall, we have friendly chats. I ask her about the surf, about the weather, about yoga. I once visited LA for a week once, I know a few of the landmarks and can discuss them with her.
One time, I called, feeling brave, asked her "how's my surfer girl", and she giggled away. Eventually explaining she does not surf. She always picks up on the first ring. I block out the images of obesity, and just pretend she is really hot and breathing in my ear while we are fucking.
Ok that was my cheap thrill of the week. :emot_laughing:
Side note: spell check wants to change cerritos into burritos, LoL
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Side note: spell check wants to change Cerritos into burritos, LoL
Wait... there IS a difference?
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I've been with co-workers before, but never again. Too complicated.
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I've been with co-workers before, but never again. Too complicated.
It can get complicated but if folks are up front in the beginning it can be done with some success.
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Outside my office is a sea of cubicles. Within that sea is a somewhat pettite and still attractive older lady. She is married, and rumor has it, to a wealthy man. She frequently asks for help with her computer. Somtimes it is just mapping a printer, or she looses the date box in her outlook title, plus all the little annoying changes in the latest microsoft OS.
I get to her cube, and she can be a flirt, and I love it. My problem, is I am in a manager, and at least 5 or 6 people can here what I say back, so I smile politely. One time, I walked out of the office area, and in the hall, and she walked about the same time, and said "I am in your back pocket".
I replied back in a quite low whisper, "I think you could fit in my pocket", and she looked shocked. As our paths diverge, I am like wtf did you just say.
Now when she asks for help, she is touching me, as charlie brown would say, "argh!" I need to rethink this one. (LoL, but I love it too, but know it is not appropriate)
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I've been with co-workers before, but never again. Too complicated.
It can get complicated but if folks are up front in the beginning it can be done with some success.
I suppose it's possible, but I have never had good experiences with it.
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In my office-type work on the night shift there's pretty much no one "interesting" or available to try for. (Just too few around, and my requests for them to hire single coworkers for my shift seems to always get ignored. :) )
We've actually been short staffed for about the last 3 years too on my side of the shift too..but that's another matter.
I remember though about maybe 12-13 years back (when there were more people working than today-not all married) there were 2 people that apparently "had some fun" several times in the utility/electrical closets at work. They were discovered however, and jobs were lost. Had wondered why security added those closets as stops to their rounds..found out a bit later why :) . Was too bad...they were nice also to take naps in during lunch hours (12 hour days are a bit long) but that had to stop as well.)
Nowadays I think it'd have to be a parking lot "meeting" as it's a different building now with highly video-capped security and no easily accessible closets :) I know one that goes out regularly for a.. "non-tobacco-related smoke break" :) but other than that my work's boring for "adventure" (but high on stress and aggravation). (Also couldn't get them to install beer taps in our cubicles either...Work just isn't good for morale :) )
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I am one of those rare people who absolutely adore my job, I am exceedingly devoted to my career(I have a proper job these days). I travel a lot and get to work with different people on a monthly basis depending on who is assigned to the client/job in hand (yes it is a proper legitimate business ha ha). Anyways, I have a sexual relationship with one of my co workers, who just so happens to be my bosses son, and I adore every second of it. We have never let our sexual desires affect our working relationship, we always remain professional, but we both feel an attraction even when we are working. It actually drives us both, it's like we work harder because we know we can fuck afterwards. It has only enhanced our working environment as we are both in the same boat
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Why not just fuck the person you are dating/married to on your desk/supply closet/closest wall? Then move on to your next hottest fantasy! It has always worked for me. 8)
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Why not just fuck the person you are dating/married to on your desk/supply closet/closest wall? Then move on to your next hottest fantasy! It has always worked for me. 8)
If I had a boyfriend/husband believe me I would :emot_laughing:
Out of interest, what is the next fantasy?
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Worst choice I ever made was to start fucking a married co-worker after she seduced me while we were blasted at a union meeting. She had married wrong man and was very hot...burning up with lust and desire...but I never saw the other side of her being a child woman who always gave the appearance of loving you but in reality was loving herself and just masturbating on my cock. After she got one man she wanted another and so on...gets a blue blanket the sees a red one and wants that instead..also had an oral fetish for sucking my cock all the time..at work in the office...out on the job...at her birthday party her husband gave her..anyplace. She wore me out..fell asleep with my cock in her mouth.
Anyway I ended it and she tried to get me fired for sexual harassment/hostile working environment. Fortunately she had supplied alot of evidence in the form of office memos that were x rated suggestions and photos!!!!! of her lovely smooth cunt..saved my job and allowed me to transfer. She jumped on another man there soon after then got divorced a year later , got married again..and divorced again...and btw had to drink two cocktails in order to loose inhibitions and her very catholic way of being in her marriage. She really messed me up for awhile because she would always break up and make up weekly and also had the worst PMS ever known and the best ovulation moments also..
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Why not just fuck the person you are dating/married to on your desk/supply closet/closest wall? Then move on to your next hottest fantasy! It has always worked for me. 8)
If I had a boyfriend/husband believe me I would :emot_laughing:
Out of interest, what is the next fantasy?
Oh, poor baby, all dressed up and no one to dance with? Well, my latest lover was too stuffy to break in my new office with me...
Care to dance Ms. Lippy? :emot_kiss:
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Why not just fuck the person you are dating/married to on your desk/supply closet/closest wall? Then move on to your next hottest fantasy! It has always worked for me. 8)
If I had a boyfriend/husband believe me I would :emot_laughing:
Out of interest, what is the next fantasy?
Oh, poor baby, all dressed up and no one to dance with? Well, my latest lover was too stuffy to break in my new office with me...
Care to dance Ms. Lippy? :emot_kiss:
Kitty, clear your desk, lay back and let me quench your curiosities :emot_kiss:
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...too many twerking girls from the secretarial pool...
There can NEVER be too many twerking girls.
Just saying...
P.S. It's hard to type with chocolate and peanut butter form that Reeses Peanut Butter Cup all over my fingers...
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Wow, MissB has a chocolate and peanut butter fetish... ;-) You don't end up covering your whole body in it, do you?
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Just got this hot image of setting a line of Reeses on the chest to the lower area...
Getting all worked up either by self or partner...
Seeing them get heated and slowly melting all over...
(Then of course I'd have to help with the clean-up *lick,lick* mmmmm )
:emot_lickie:
(Oddly enough, I'd just finished off a Reeses PB Cup not 1/2 hour before seeing this :)
But alas, it was in the mundane way )
Oh, OT... on those twerking girls, man do I hate my job. With the few 'girls' there are that's around when i'm at work... I think there'd be more likelihood of them throwing out a hip if they tried. It would not be a pretty sight. Definite lack of any "fun" at my work...even around holidays.
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In my long and checkered career working for several different companies I have succumbed to some situations and walked away from others. Bottom line: my advice is don't do it. All relationships end eventually. The risk of ending your career along with the relationship is too great.
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One thing to bear in mind, guys: women talk.
I've worked at 2 companies over the years in situations where it was *me* and roughly 200 women. One of the two was owned, operated and staffed almost solely by women, and for several months there I was the sole 'token male'. In both situations, after the novelty wore off, I was just "one of the girls". Guys, lemme clue you in: women TALK about that shit later. Trust me on this, they go into detail that made ME blush. If you do one of 'em, the rest will know in very short order. You'd *better* do her right.
At none of the (mostly or all male) companies I've worked at, the reverse was NOT true. Even if someone managed to bone the cute secretary up front, it was NOT discussed later... ever. I don't recall a single instance of guys doing the "kiss and tell" at work about anyone FROM work. The only exception was when one of the guys got blown out in the parking lot. She lost her job, and they promoted him. It became public 'cos one of the security guards caught 'em in flagrante delicto.
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When you fool around at work realize that you are playing Russian Roulette. Yes five of the cylinders are empty. You may well get away unscathed more times than not, but then again you never know when your luck runs out and your whole life goes down the drain in a flash.
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best advice.
1. Don't pick up co-workers.
2. Don't mess with in-laws.
3. Don't play with the neighbors.
4. Don't do anyone that can cause you issues later. Pillow talk with anyone that you can't trust is a no-no. Some should stay off limits.
I was hit on by no less then 3 of my husbands relatives. I acted liked I didn't understand.. the suggestion. I played dumb. I refused to go there. Funny thing was.. I was accused of having a thing with my husbands brother. I never did and brother in-law never suggested it. Years later my husband admitted.. he had a thing with his brother's wife. well... now? I played fair and he didn't. I am glad I never went that direction. True story. xx
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Funny how everyone seems to be against relationships at work. I've done it twice. The first guy didn't work out, but he never badmouthed me. The second, well, I'm still happily married to him. :)
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WG, i'm glad i'm not your in-law...
Hell, i'm not an outlaw either. :P
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Probably never a good idea. But fucking in the office sure is gratifying, fantasy fulfilling, and down right steamy.
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I have worked in an office all my working life, and I learned very quickly that you cannot keep an office romance secret. Somehow it gets out. I don't know whether the behaviour between the two of you changes, but it doesn't take long for people to become aware of the situation.
This is OK if both of you are not married or with a partner. However, it makes the situation tense in the office when either or both of you are married, and an affair starts.
It usually ends in a major hassle and often in one or both of the participants leaving or being sacked. It becomes even worse if the partners or spouses of the participants find out.
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Yep have done twice... a very long time ago though... never caused any grief when the affairs ended... I do have my doubts about office romances as it can affect work and sometimes friendships as well... I'd say avoid it especially these days with some employers deadly scared of possible sexual harassment allegations on their premises... Some even have CCTV in the workplace...
I did once have to sit in with management but felt both sides in the case were pretty good 'actors'. In the end the woman lost her claim and the guy got demoted and quit. She resigned too. Caused a lot of bad feeling... made everyone extra careful of what they said and did at work...
vinney
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I knew a man that got fired from his job as DJ for a large radio station. He was married and had a mini affair with the Bosses secretary. it almost ruined him and his family. Small town messy gossip. The secretary did not lose her job. They were caught in the office stairwell.. getting it on. OM freaking.. God. He must of had it bad. His advice was "don't".. touch the untouchable no matter what. true story. xx
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She was fucking the boss. That's why she didn't get fired.
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Katie had a spycam set up, that's how she knows. ;-)
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Fucking the boss? Well that could be true. I never thought of that. Shows you how naive I am. :emot_kiss:
What does one say if you realize someone is fucking a co-worker? Or would you say nothing?
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You'll WANT to say something, but you most likely won't find yourself able to... That's how it's been in my experience, how many times I wanted to say "Hey, I know you got banged by Chris" but lost my nerve... :P
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Nothing like giving ammo to the HR Department.
Is the risk really worth it?
Why would you want to give up your job for a quick fling?
You guys have to be crazy...
Just saying.....
Love,
Liz
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HR Department? I worked for small privately owned companies most of my life. Privately owned meant you knew the person who signed your check. HR stood for "Hump Responsibly" back then. :emot_shades:
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What does one say if you realize someone is fucking a co-worker? Or would you say nothing?
I never said anything to anyone when I found out about affairs. I always figured it was not for me to judge and it was none of my business. I do feel 'affairs at the office' seem to be a way less big deal in Europe than in the US. Sure, there is gossip, but I never knew anyone who filed harassment claims, and also nobody who got fired. It is very much viewed as a 'private matter' and you are expected to do your job and not let your performance be influenced by relationships. Basically it's 'fuck who you want, but do your job'. Even relationships that were not looked favourably upon due to a risk of leak of sensitive company information (e.g. the CEO's secretary having a relationship with a manager from marketing) were usually not a problem when both parties informed their bosses.
The USA seems to handle a whole different set of morals concerning romantic affairs. Here it does not ruin a politician's or manager's career when an extramarital affair or even an extramarital child sees the light of day. Private romantic affairs are viewed as seperate from business competence.
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What does one say if you realize someone is fucking a co-worker? Or would you say nothing?
I never said anything to anyone when I found out about affairs. I always figured it was not for me to judge and it was none of my business. I do feel 'affairs at the office' seem to be a way less big deal in Europe than in the US. Sure, there is gossip, but I never knew anyone who filed harassment claims, and also nobody who got fired. It is very much viewed as a 'private matter' and you are expected to do your job and not let your performance be influenced by relationships. Basically it's 'fuck who you want, but do your job'. Even relationships that were not looked favourably upon due to a risk of leak of sensitive company information (e.g. the CEO's secretary having a relationship with a manager from marketing) were usually not a problem when both parties informed their bosses.
The USA seems to handle a whole different set of morals concerning romantic affairs. Here it does not ruin a politician's or manager's career when an extramarital affair or even an extramarital child sees the light of day. Private romantic affairs are viewed as seperate from business competence.
If you are speaking in general terms about Europe Bexy, while not a work situation, it is most definitely a contradiction to what you have said in your last paragraph.
The affair between John Profumo & Christine Keeler whilst it was in the 1960's it most definitely did damage to his career and brought down a government
There are many situations where politicians in the UK have been forced to resign because of affairs.
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Fucking the boss? Well that could be true. I never thought of that. Shows you how naive I am. :emot_kiss:
What does one say if you realize someone is fucking a co-worker? Or would you say nothing?
None of my business unless I was fucking them too :emot_laughing:
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The Profumo affair involved state security and Soviet spies, so it was materially different.
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If you are speaking in general terms about Europe Bexy, while not a work situation, it is most definitely a contradiction to what you have said in your last paragraph.
The affair between John Profumo & Christine Keeler whilst it was in the 1960's it most definitely did damage to his career and brought down a government
There are many situations where politicians in the UK have been forced to resign because of affairs.
I stand corrected. I should have written non-Anglo-Saxon Europe or Continental Europe. French ex-president Mitterand had a mistress and and extra-marital child, not one French person gave a fuck about that. Our king Albert II, same situation, the vast majority of Belgians just shrugged and said 'So what?'. And then we're not even talking about Berlusconi yet. There are simply zero situations I know of in Continental Europe where a politician or CEO ever had to resign due to an (extramarital) affair.
We do laugh a lot and roll our eyes when we see stuff like Clinton-Lewinsky and the media hype. If that happened over here, it would simply be regarded as a private matter between spouses and the mistress. The media do try to make a big deal out of it sometimes but the populace in general regards it as trivial.
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I never did, mainly due to the fact that didn't want to be the one all the folks gossiped about in the break room. :emot_kiss:
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If you are speaking in general terms about Europe Bexy, while not a work situation, it is most definitely a contradiction to what you have said in your last paragraph.
The affair between John Profumo & Christine Keeler whilst it was in the 1960's it most definitely did damage to his career and brought down a government
There are many situations where politicians in the UK have been forced to resign because of affairs.
I stand corrected. I should have written non-Anglo-Saxon Europe or Continental Europe. French ex-president Mitterand had a mistress and and extra-marital child, not one French person gave a fuck about that. Our king Albert II, same situation, the vast majority of Belgians just shrugged and said 'So what?'. And then we're not even talking about Berlusconi yet. There are simply zero situations I know of in Continental Europe where a politician or CEO ever had to resign due to an (extramarital) affair.
We do laugh a lot and roll our eyes when we see stuff like Clinton-Lewinsky and the media hype. If that happened over here, it would simply be regarded as a private matter between spouses and the mistress. The media do try to make a big deal out of it sometimes but the populace in general regards it as trivial.
For me personally I couldn't give to hoots what two people get upto, I'm not UK based so I've no knowledge of how people reacted there in general, most of the scandals are hyped media reports. If you are paying taxes though, you do expect a politician to be making news for totally different reasons.
The Profumo affair involved state security and Soviet spies, so it was materially different.
As for the Profumo scandal I had referred to it being a totally different situation in my post.
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I tend to roll my eyes and laugh at our politico/ sex scandals over here as well.
I've always wondered why they don't just respond with "so what."
I've had a few ladies work with me over the years. I've always enjoyed the special bit of sexual overtones it added to our work and believe they did too.
I actually prefer a woman helper than a male.
the last lady was most special. we decided to let the "public" make their own decisions as to what was hot, and what was not, and enjoyed the cheap entertainment.
she was 25, tall, lithe, and had those deep black eyes just made to fall into.I have many fond memories of our 3+ years together.
one in particular. we were restoring an old piece and were taking it apart. one with a heavy hammer, the other with a chisel. a bit risky if the hammer is off or visa versa.
I handed her the hammer and she looked at me and asked if I trusted her. with a big grin i affirmed my trust.
after a while, a line of sweat darkening her tank top between her breasts, she paused. with a special shine in her eyes, she struck a pose and spoke these unforgettable words.
"you know, most women would think I'm crazy, but this is making me really hot"
Unforgettable,,,
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I never did, mainly due to the fact that didn't want to be the one all the folks gossiped about in the break room. :emot_kiss:
That's pretty much my reason, as well. It *will* get around, good or bad. I've never done any of the ladies, though I'm certain that I'm the topic of some of the rumors and chit-chat. I've overheard some of it. ;D
Though I'm brutally tempted on nearly a daily basis. There's an amazingly cute little Asian (probably Nepalese, can't tell for sure) that keeps trying to get my attention. She's about 56 inches tall (140cm) with a gorgeous face, late teens or early 20s. Just a few days ago I saw her coming towards our area, and when she saw me (and saw that I saw her) her walk jumped from a casual stroll to the bouncy/happy walk that I usually do. I was both gratified and amazed that she'd watched me well enough to mimic it.
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UPDATE: Gaaaaa! Normally that cute little Asian works about 300 to 400 feet across the building in an entirely different part of the company. The area right next to me needed someone, so GUESS WHO VOLUNTEERED FOR THE SPOT?? Yep, she's sitting about 8 feet away beside me. And since I know their job better than their *lead* does, they frequently need to come to me with questions about "how do I do this?", and that's led to some accidental touching.... about 4 or 5 times already this evening, and didn't instigate it. I swear!
The first time, her expression went 'Oooooo!' (I think because I run noticeably higher skin temperature than most people do).
(http://i.imgur.com/DvngedK.jpg)
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Poor rope.
Gird up thy loins, oh lion of Judea!
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you are in trouble now,,, when those insidious oriental women decide " I Want You" you best just drop trowe and Man Up!!
8)
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Well, I've survived 3+ weeks of constant low-yield thermonuclear warfare.
The last couple of weeks she's taken to singing, louder when we're the only two in the general area. I haven't a clue *what* she's singing as it's in Khmer (she's Cambodian, not Nepalese.) Sounds like a love song, could be a laundry list for all I know. She's also lightly stroking the side of her neck when I'm behind her. She developed an irritation on her chest that she wanted me to take a look at. I think she was scratching it to make it look red, but I did look, Just In Case (I'm one of the handful of Emergency Medical Responders for the company.)
We're in an area with around ~60 young guys, a few old farts like me and 5 or 6 young women. The guys are hitting on her daily, and she looks over at me while she's talking to them to see if I notice. Sorry, but I perfected peripheral vision long ago, and don't need to make it obvious that I know what's going on around me. ;) I have excellent 'situational awareness'.
At first, I'd suspected that she was on Green Card status and looking for a 'soft touch' to get her permanent residency. Nope! Her parents and she were naturalized around 10 years ago, so THAT reason went out the window.
On the plus side, she's probably NOT a Christian. Around 95% or better of Cambodians are Buddhist. I can work with a Buddhist 'cos they don't get all preachy. I'm Taoist myself, which is kinda/sorta close.
How do you politely tell someone that you don't have a granddaughter fetish, without hurting their feelings? If I was 30 years younger, I'd be all over her like an octopus, but I'm *not*.
Here's the closest pic I could find that looks kinda like her. She's WAY cuter, and has a bigger smile that makes her eyes light up, but this is sorta in the ballpark:
(http://i.imgur.com/AboVMtF.jpg)
She has brown hair, with a high ponytail or her hair in a bun / knot usually, never pigtails.
Oh, and did I mention knee-high high-heeled leather boots? I'm about half-erect for most of the work day. That's... UNCOMFORTABLE in decent-fitting bluejeans. To hell with FMPs, I'm *all* over a woman in boots!
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Damn, she's super cute...
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WELL...??
you gotta "DO" something..!!!
SO..??
Why don't you just marry her??
:D
Love,
Liz
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Marry her? Sure, and I'd be kicking the kids out of the house when I'm 75. There's a small factor of AGE difference going on here.
...and to be honest, SIZE difference. The young gal at work is nearly the same size and shape as Little Miss Kitty, but she's probably 2 inches shorter than Kitty is. I'm *taller* than Lee Stone is in the screencap below by an inch or two.
(http://i.imgur.com/mwn7N5f.jpg)
Someone that small would have to have kittens, not babies.
I know that most women want a TALL guy, but *really*, there's an upper-limit.
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I'd do her.
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I've been with co-workers before, but never again. Too complicated.
It can get complicated but if folks are up front in the beginning it can be done with some success.
I suppose. It's never worked out for me. I had a co-worker I dated who was losing interest in me and the writing was on the wall. I realized it was over (if not yet officially) so I waited for her to give me the good news. As I waited I met someone I liked and ended up breaking up with the girl I was seeing (who was going to break up with me anyway), and suddenly I became the bad guy while she played the victim. Everyone was upset at me for "being so heartless" as she bawled and made a spectacle with our co-workers. She was clearly just pissed that I dumped her before she dumped me (like it's a competition or something), but it would have been perfectly fine with me if she had dumped me first. Neither of us was happy, she wanted out so why cry her heart out when the guy she wants to be rid of gives her exactly what she wants? If she had a brain in her head she would have fucking thanked me for saving her the trouble. It's not like I cheated. I broke up honestly, face to face and moved on. Yet...I was the bad guy.
Another time a co worker and I were play flirty, but there was nothing serious, and neither of us were ever really sure we were really interested in each other (our mutual attraction only seemed to rise when we were drinking). we had never even had one actual date, yet one night I kissed another girl and BAM!.........I'm the bad guy. I could see it if we had been dating but for fuck sakes we had only been engaged in playful flirting.
And I've had a few other bad situations.
Sorry, every workplace romance or flirtation has ended bad for me. I won't say to others that they shouldn't do it, but I'd never do it again. Co workers are co-workers and nothing more
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I don’t profess to “know” women and what makes them tick,
Possession of a penis prevents the understanding of that complex species.
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I'd do her.
<laffs> You just might have a shot at the gal at work. The only thing I can puzzle out is that she goes for dominant personalities, and happy ones to boot. You're definitely both, from what I can tell from this tiny porthole on the Interwebs.
If a guy that's nearly 3 times her age is enticing (out of nearly 1000 people at work), then there's more going on than just *looks*.
If you're hunting Miss Kitty, I'd suggest catnip and a plane ticket. Last I'd heard, she was still in Cali after retiring from the porn industry. She doesn't have any real smiles in her post-porn life that I've seen, which is sad. She also got a set of bolt-on boobs sometime after 2008. Kitty is on the left.
(http://i.imgur.com/yhxMJl0.jpg)
http://warashi-asian-pornstars.fr/en/s-7-0/kitty/female-asian-pornstar/photo-gallery/7960
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If that doesn't just cork it!
My little friend at work came up with a couple of creative new reasons why I needed to hold her hands this evening. Feeble, but it worked. A few hours later I was talking about the overtime we're about to head into when the December Rush hits, and mentioned that the hours were available if she needed some extra cash. She said she couldn't 'cos she has class. You see, she's a SENIOR and has to keep her grades up.
Did you ever see 'Animal House'? The scene where Pinto has the angel and devil on opposite shoulders, telling him to (not) fuck Carmine's daughter? My blind friend is thinking "Wow, HAWT college senior... FUCK HER! FUCK HER BRAINS OUT!"
http://www.traileraddict.com/animal-house/red-band-clip-angel-vs-devil
Nope! HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR. Yes, she's 18 so *technically* an adult, but the angel riposted and mentioned something about trolling the schoolyards for pussy not being a Good Thing. Hell, she's still 5 months away from her Homecoming Prom!
Damnit, I don't think I'm gonna be able to get an erection for a freakin' WEEK now! :-X
<you'll have to imagine the shopping cart scene, 'cos I couldn't find links for it>
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If that doesn't just cork it!
My little friend at work came up with a couple of creative new reasons why I needed to hold her hands this evening. Feeble, but it worked. A few hours later I was talking about the overtime we're about to head into when the December Rush hits, and mentioned that the hours were available if she needed some extra cash. She said she couldn't 'cos she has class. You see, she's a SENIOR and has to keep her grades up.
Did you ever see 'Animal House'? The scene where Pinto has the angel and devil on opposite shoulders, telling him to (not) fuck Carmine's daughter? My blind friend is thinking "Wow, HAWT college senior... FUCK HER! FUCK HER BRAINS OUT!"
http://www.traileraddict.com/animal-house/red-band-clip-angel-vs-devil
Nope! HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR. Yes, she's 18 so *technically* an adult, but the angel riposted and mentioned something about trolling the schoolyards for pussy not being a Good Thing. Hell, she's still 5 months away from her Homecoming Prom!
Damnit, I don't think I'm gonna be able to get an erection for a freakin' WEEK now! :-X
<you'll have to imagine the shopping cart scene, 'cos I couldn't find links for it>
What about the Horse in the Deans Office?
:emot_laughing:
Love,
Liz
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtSPFXj_eZM (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtSPFXj_eZM)
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I remember the shopping cart scene.
...and the scene with John Belushi on the ladder peeking in the windows of the Sorority House bedrooms. ;-)
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Back to the original question -- I met my wife through her work. She worked for a fast-food establishment. I saw her almost every morning when I bought my coffee. After a few months of friendly banter, I gave her my phone number and 19 years later, we are still a happy couple.
My own personal code is to not get involved with anybody I work with for the simple reason that I strongly believe that I cannot spend ALL of my time with somebody. A break, even going to work, is needed.
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Women take their clothes off for me again.
Ok, i am working a part time job as wellness coach, and starting a new class.
this class is all women, and most are 20-30 pounds overwieght. Except this hot middle aged asian woman who wants to loose 10 pounds. She is constantly making funny faces at me, lol.
We do weigh ins and measurements, and woman are usually a bit nervous when guys do it, so i ask on my coach peers to help who is female too, as well as i am pervert and cant be trusted. The hot asian woman comes into the weigh-in room, and wont give her age, so she leaves the room. we need the age to program the scale for percent fat and hydration.
She comes in when my helper leaves, and says she is ready now. She asks about taking off her cloths, pointing at her coat. i say whatever your wearing should be the consistant every week. She takes off her coat and top, and she is wearing a sexy black lacy bra, b cup. Wtf, i need to be good. LoL. She is 5'5" and 125 pounds.
I am thinking what a mess i would be if i was a gynocolgist? Lo(
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I am thinking what a mess i would be if i was a gynocolgist? Lo(
I spoke with a OB/Gyn doc and he said that he has seen so many cunts that had problems that he's pretty much over being attracted. Plus, he always has a female nurse attending whenever he's with a patient and she is exposed to the wind like that.
It was the fact he said "pretty much over" it that made me ask. And he said there are the occasional women who come in and everything looks so good that he really has to put his professional on. He added that his main nurse was a bit of a battle ax little like Nurse Ratched in "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest." :D
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I am thinking what a mess i would be if i was a gynocolgist? Lo(
I thought like that when I was in high school but when you consider a good portion of the women coming into a gynos office have something wrong or something big is about to wreck shop....yeah, not always a fun playground.
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I am thinking what a mess i would be if i was a gynocolgist? Lo(
I thought like that when I was in high school but when you consider a good portion of the women coming into a gynos office have something wrong or something big is about to wreck shop....yeah, not always a fun playground.
I know, i am being juvenile
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I've been propositioned by several of the women who worked with me. One told me, in front of the secretary that she would love it if I would fuck her brains out. I didn't take her up on it.
The second time was in the lunch room, just after the one of the three people in the room left, the secretary sitting next to me turned sideways in her chair and lifted her skirt. She had on these luscious black panties...didn't say a word. I really wanted to fuck her...but I didn't. I regret not taking either woman up on the offer.
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Being a Police Officer for nearly thirty years has given me an unfair advantage....
Before I married, I did take all the advantage of this position I could, and I DID bed several of my Sister Officers.......OFF Duty of course!! You just gotta LOVE a women whom brings her own Cuffs and Taser along with her.....
Tony V. :police:
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I’m a newbie here so I don’t even know if this post is still being posted to, but the subject caught my eye because I know something about the subject. So here’s my two cents and my confession. I have worked at this company in a business office setting for over 10 years and during that time I have slept with 9 different women co-workers. I was always and still am friendly, charming and open minded at work and the women who want sex pick up on that. All were professionals, all business women. One had a masters degree working on a PhD. Some were college grads, some not, some were married, and some were not.
I don’t profess to “know” women and what makes them tick, and any man who says he knows women is a liar. But one thing has been proven to me over and over again and that’s… when a woman wants sex she is going to get it, period. As one woman put it “I have a sexual appetite and I want it fulfilled.” This was after I asked her if she thought all the yelling and screaming she did could be heard by her children, 6 years old and 12 years old. She also said they know their mother is sexually active, they’re ok with it.
We carried on she and I, for about 2 years, until angry about something, she ended it one day. I agreed with her to end it, which angered her even more. I would usually talk her down, she’d cry a few buckets, then we’d have this outrageous jungle style marathon make up sex. Well this time I didn’t do that and she didn’t take it too well. Let’s just say I never thought I would ever have to call the police to get a woman out of my apartment. But when she’s breaking all the windows and tearing the place up, a fella’s got to do something. I couldn’t hit her. I had always heard about a Latina’s fiery Latin temper. This was more like a flame thrower.
Next day at work was a bit dicey. She walks up to me cool as a cucumber and slightly more sober, and says “I better not get a visit from the police today here at work.” And that was it. Staff meetings were a bit weird after that. Especially when you’re in a room of 10 or 15 people and there’s one women in there, you used to fuck, and two more that you are currently fucking. All In the same room all taking turns looking at you. And of course they didn’t know about each other. Ignorance truly is bliss. Believe it or not, less than a year after I had to call the police on this woman, that same women made up with me and we started fucking again. Thank God she left the company about a year later. Ok that’s one story, it is the truth. If you want me to write more I’ll write more. I’d love to hear some comments.
I definitely want to read more about all of this.
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The women that work for me are far too old or married, and they do not provide any sort of stimulation for me...Now the Hispanic girl (17-18) who comes to clean our offices, is a total hottie, we have gotten together on several occasions, she is now my daughters nanny. She is in school during the day and tends to my daughter after school....
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if you and she are both that kinda people interested in that kinda stuff you are the same so think about if you want to be involved with someone like you