Funny, Obi. I had a gf that took said she took forever, she would be like, Yep That's me.
One. I had one. My damn jaw hurt and my tongue was raw by the time she’d climax. Really took the fun out.
My Peruvian flops around so much as she gets close, and even digs her butt down into the bed making things rather inaccessible, I can’t usually take her over the edge with oral. When it gets to that point, I just move up and ‘pin’ her to the bed so to speak to reduce the flopping around. That works, at least based on her hollering.
You've probably tried this, but if not, try this:
Spread your fingers, gently slide them under her butt, and lift her to your mouth. Gently massage or fondle her butt as you please her with your tongue. Fight her downward pressure. She will thank you very gratefully.
I always grip her wrists under her thighs to help with that attempt at ‘downward pressure’, so no free hand for that lifting. If you recall MissB (cuz you once said it was hot), not only does gripping both her wrists help to pull her into my mouth and prevent escape, letting go of a wrist severely endangers my ear from getting torn off.
I also put a pillow under her butt to keep things ‘accessible’, but she’s known to get cranky about things like that not really connecting the dots I’m doing that for her, so the pillow is rare. Cuffing her wrists above her head is also rare, would really like to get her to see the advantages of that. It would open up lots of options for my hands and fingers.
But feel free to give me more suggestions, as I am willing to learn. I’m also more likely to ask for a woman’s advice right now, knowing it will most likely be welcome advice and come from someone without a Y chromosome.