I don't want to know the churches you all went to, that traumatized you so. My church was actually great. Sex was to be enjoyed responsibly, because boil the religion down to is core essence and you get the greatest life's lesson "Every action has a consequence." Our youth pastor was not a perv. There were two, one for the boys, and one for the girls, but it was not "you will burn in hell for having natural instincts and feelings." but more like "Look, God made you this way because of the whole go forth, multiply and be fruitful thing. They encouraged us to wait until you were married, as by then you can handle the consequences of naughty actions, but most of the time it was all good. He was frank and open with us, because my church believes that sugar coating and white washing touchy subjects is out right lying. I mean we did have the ultra religious you gonna burn in hell types, but they tended not to associate with us. The first person to talk to me when I was sitting in the jail cell after being caught in the junkyard with my future wife and her friend was my youth pastor and all he said was "Really?" Then he lectured me on the proper times and places for things like that, that I was lucky the yard dogs did not tear me up, that I did not knock them up, etc. But after it was said and done, he looked at me in all seriousness and asked "Was it fun, or at least worth it?" Honestly, I wanted to fuck his wife, like drive her head into the ground total domination style fucking, as did most of us boys. She was the girls youth pastor/leader, and she was a 100/10. Not an ounce of fat, her breasts were perfect, her ass could even make God cry. Our church would host summer swim days, mostly to keep us out of trouble, and they would take us to the least used public beach, as the popular beach was too crowded. And boy she was hot in her form fitting one piece. But being horny in church is no sin, though you should be thinking and communing with God, but I think he understands that he wired us in a way that we cannot resist beautiful women. Just remember, we are only human. for the good and bad. Just don't dick anyone in church, because its not your house.