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Reply #40 on: October 25, 2009, 04:49:48 AM
you stick with anything you want ric
keep sticking to that tired line and fly in the face of both convention and conviction.

You write well and at length, but no matter how long you write or what odd situations you make up on the spur of the moment you are defending some one who is reprehensible and if he where innocent would not have copped a plea bargain, would not have fled the country. 

I read your other post,  never speak about my daughter again. 

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Reply #41 on: October 25, 2009, 06:41:52 AM
you stick with anything you want ric
keep sticking to that tired line and fly in the face of both convention and conviction.

You write well and at length, but no matter how long you write or what odd situations you make up on the spur of the moment you are defending some one who is reprehensible and if he where innocent would not have copped a plea bargain, would not have fled the country. 

I read your other post,  never speak about my daughter again. 

yeah not smart to talk about his daughter he has swords in his house.

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Reply #42 on: October 25, 2009, 07:57:19 PM
Medieval,

You can abuse anyone you want in this room, someone's mother if you feel like it.  Certainly, I can pose a hypothetical about your daughter, although I do not know her and meant no offence.  I just wished to see if you could see things not so black and white.  Apparently, you cannot.  That is a shame but your choice in the end.  But tell me to never speak about your daughter again you cannot do.  You raised the issue of your daughter.  I did not.  You kept using her as a reason why you are so sure of Polanski’s guilt and why you can come up with some much more creative punishments that he obviously deserve.  So tough, live with it or do not argue in 1408.

I am not defending Polanski.  I don't know the man or if he is a pervert or a victim of circumstances.  I am defending the law and the US constitution.  I like to do that occasionally.  The time it needs defending the most is when really don't want to do it.  The rights of the KKK to march down a street or Communists to be communists  and sprout the dogma that not even the Russian's believe anymore.  They are the principals that the US founding fathers protected.  Not just the nice and the pleasant. 

It is also the reason you can write your stories on this site, Dom.  Without those protections and the defence of such “perverts” as the publisher of Hustler and the makers of porn, you would now be in jail for writing obscenity against the community standards of some small Southern bible belt town where a 13 year old daughter of someone, said she was 18 and managed to get on this site and read your stories.  The father of THAT 13 year old daughter believes you are a pervert and regardless of the constitution, you should rot in jail.

And one of the things that the US founding fathers did was to protect the not very nice, the disliked in the community, from undue processes.  They attempted to create rights that said you had to be found guilty in a properly constituted court where the law was fairly applied, where the rights of individuals were not abused in seeking that justice.

But the administration of justice is not fair.  Publicity tries and convicts people before they get anywhere near a court.  Their reputations are used to "prove" that they are guilty.  There is a very famous trial in England where pirates or privateers were being tried for the rape of a girl they actually went out of their way to protect.  The trial was political and had nothing to do with the administration of justice at all.  They were found guilty and sentenced to death.  One of the pirates decried:  "But we are innocent of this crime.  We sought to do good and we are condemned for it."  The captain of their ship turned to the man and said:  "You did despicable things in your life.  And for none of these have you been tried.  Hang for one of those instead if you wish."

I would certainly have defended those in the US accused of being communists and either forced to name names or lose their livelihoods.  The US does not have a history of treating citizens well at all in the face of hysteria.  Just ask the sons and daughters of those of Japanase extraction about how fair it was to deprive their parents of liberty for years, take away their houses, their property because obviously those of Japanese extraction were not to be trusted whereas those of German extraction were obviously good US citizens and the could still keep their constitutional rights.  At the time in both the cases of the communist with hunts and the Japanese internment, almost no one cared.  It is when the law is being used blatantly against the spirit or wording of the constitution and the very basic rights of the pursuit of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, and "liberty" wasn't stuck in their as an afterthought.  It was there to say that the right to go about one’s business and not be confined or restrained without just cause is fundamental to the creation of the nation, is THE most important right a nation must protect of its citizens.

In this case, those rights were taken away without just cause, without a trial, without adequate proof, and by the misuse of judicial power and improper conduct of the prosecution.  At that point whether Polanski was innocent or as guilty as all hell, didn’t matter a damn. 

Medieval, your attitude that the man is guilty because it is obvious that he did it and the constitution and legal rights should just be ignored because YOU know he is guilty is basically saying you have no respect for the Constitution and you believe the founding fathers of the US to be morons and wimps that didn’t understand that guilty people are sometimes so obviously guilty that all their rights should be stripped away.

I wrote at great length and I thought in a logical fashion to point out that a plea bargain in this case, did not even come close to suggesting guilt.  All it suggested was the fear of 50 years in jail. 

It is no difference at all to Van Morrison of the Doors who pleaded guilty in Florida to an offence that he clearly did not commit, and in that case there were literally hundreds of photographs that proved he was innocent.  Yet the hysteria and the people that chose to believe he was evil, corrupting their children, and as a rock star had to be, like the pirate, if not guilty of what he was charged, guilty of much more heinous crimes.  It meant he was staring at years in jail and the destruction of his music and the lives of many people that depended on him.  It could be argued that that injustice led to his death. 

So the US basically killed a man because, and yes “the US” because the public hysteria fanned by baying press, caused the US legal system to take punitive and inappropriate action against someone who was guilty of wishing to cause his audience to think for themselves.  It meant that the trial, rather than being a case of the legal system taking on an alleged pervert, condemned the whole nation for allowing the removal of the rights of someone that the majority found obnoxious because he was counter establishment, he was corrupting the minds of their children, etc etc.

The Morrison trial is far easier to argue now because it did not involve the emotional issue of a young girl but it certainly did have all the other elements, including a plea bargain for a crime that the evidence just did not support, the conviction by the press, an extremely unpopular accused in the eyes of the conservative majority of the population.

Therefore, I’m very happy you think that I’m flying in the face of “convention and conviction” because neither of these are good enough to deprive anyone of their liberty.  Polanski may be a dislikeable man.  He certainly isn’t diplomatic.  His comments as quoted would annoy pretty much anyone. But they don’t prove anything, other than he may have been extremely angry that his rights had been so thoroughly abused and that his life turned upside down without any legal proof that he did anything, just an uncorroborated accusation by a young woman, who stood to gain financially by the accusation, had a reputation to defend (she quite wrongly assumed that her personal details would stay sealed and not be revealed).  Even her evidence, taking on its face without any assumptions that she had reasons to lie, has serious issues that would have needed to have been addressed, had a trial ever occurred.

But none of this seems to matter, the man is reprehensible and obviously guilty because he copped to a plea bargain and then had the hide to flee the land of the free and the just, thumbing his nose at the US, his homeland for very many years.  Apparently, the evidence that I took some time to look at was me making stuff up on the spur of the moment. 

I am so grateful that you decided in the end to argue this issue on the basis of your ability to just know that someone is guilty and that, all the facts, notwithstanding no one faced in a similar position except a guilty pervert would either plead guilty or flee the country when a structured and offered deal was turned against you to allow you to go to jail for years for a crime that the prosecution had no evidence to prove against you, only the court of public opinion and the press hysteria.  And obviously, that was how it should be. 

We can’t have perverts go free, even if the law doesn’t allow for a conviction.  Stuff the constitution and the founding fathers.  Obviously, you have the right to carry guns to the President’s address to citizens because the Second Amendment says you have the freedom to bear arms, but when you “know” a pervert is guilty and an “innocent” girl accuses him of such, that is just good enough for you.  Hang the bastard or impale him on a red hot poker.  In that case, the Constitution no longer matters.  The founding fathers must have got that bit wrong.  They weren’t thinking of perverts or slimy foreigners that would accept a plea bargain when the alternative was to risk 50 years in prison and then not even wish to remain in a country to face the music when they got their just deserts and were told they were going to jail for years without the little bothersome matter of a trial or any legal proof of their guilt. 

The constitution should have read, “life liberty and the pursuit of happiness for all but those that obviously are guilty of crimes even if the evidence isn’t there because they are creeps and perverts and if enough good sound citizens believe them to be, then throw their asses in jail”.  I applaud your public mindedness and standing up to show just how wrong the founding fathers of the US were.  It obviously needed to be done because we simply cannot have perverts getting away with such reprehensible acts just because there was the pesky matter of a lack of evidence, now can we?  And obviously a 13 year old girl would never lie and so that the law should be changed to make it that when faced with the testimony of such a girl, there is no need for anything else, not even a jury.  The judge must then decide just how many years the pervert deserves to rot in jail.



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Reply #43 on: October 25, 2009, 07:58:53 PM
I think that just about everyone here has made some valid points. Just put the original offense aside for one second and remember one glaring fact - Polanski is still guilty of illegal flight from justice, and should be returned to the US to stand trial for that. If that happens, we all know that the whole plea bargain thing will be a major topic of discussion.

Bring him back to the US and try him for his illegal flight from justice, and go from there.

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Reply #44 on: October 26, 2009, 12:17:02 AM
For your consistently interesting and well composed posts Ric, a Woo
To MedevilDom, I know this is 1408, but your line 'never speak about my daughter again,' implies a threat. Threatening or intimidating posts are not tolerated by this board.
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Reply #45 on: October 26, 2009, 01:27:21 AM
I believe you would boo me any way GRM, really you and I do not see eye to eye on much, and your boos I take as more of a compliment than anything

ric has shown him self to be the sort of person that it would not be a threat, you will never understand me or what exactly I am GRM.  You are different from what I am (that is not an insult on my part by the way)  I am a bit more unrefined and primitive than you are willing to believe is right for a human being to be.  What is wonderful about the world you and I live in is that you and your ideas can survive.  In a slightly different setting you would be just so much meat for the table or just another person awaiting execution by those so intolerant as to think you an infidel and worth of destruction.

As for rick, it was no threat, it was a statement, he asked a hypothetical question that I found offensive and how hides behind what he thinks of as rules.  (You might want to go read his post)

In the real world it is as simple as this, if he said or acted in the manner he dose toward my family I would break his nose for him.  Its the internet GRM, threats mean little here, I am not going to mount a plane and fly to the other side of the country and break something on him to satisfy honor.  if he lived next door, well it might be worth a bit of time in jail.

In other words pull your head out of the sand and look around GRM.

Ric defends Polanski because he would have done the same thing, drugged her, got her drunk and than sodomized her.  Just an opinion mind you, just an opinion that I stated before. 

Rick on another note, the internet might protect you from me but it will not protect you from the guy that lives on your street if he finds you eyeballing his child.  You might want to keep that in mind, that and that when the police come they will find your side of the story not the one they chose to side with.  Justice it seems after all can be both swift and terrible.  All and all your a coward and nothing more, hide behind what you think are rules but in the end every one knows you for what you are. 

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Reply #46 on: October 26, 2009, 02:49:01 AM
Medieval,

That last reply you got quite personal.  What happened to you appreciated arguing with someone that was willing not to take things personal, Medieval.  Calling someone a coward or a rapist is not exactly keeping the argument on a non personal level.  And there are people on this site that actually do know who I am, so you managed to insult more than one person when you did that.  Medieval, I would be extremely careful with what you post because such a post puts the site and you in line for legal remedies.  You should read your law better on directly insulting or accusing others in a discussion as being rapists etc.  The "rules" of this room do not protect against such acts even remotely.  Have a look at some of the cases that have been argued in the US, UK in the main and I would suggest you be a whole lot more careful when deciding you wish to call someone a rapist or a coward.

Since you had no idea that there might be others on this site aside from moderators who could identify me you now have been warned.  I could ask the site to ban you and legally they either would have to or risk legal action.  Their rules always concerned me a bit because they do not legally protect this site.  But since I had not seen anyone be directly insulting to the point that the law could be applied I figured that it did not matter.  You might be responsible for shutting down this whole room, Medieval.  If I was the owner of this site, I would at this point.  The risk is just a bit too real and the legal costs way too high to take the risk.

Medieval, the Internet is not the wild west and defamation particularly can but used against those that do not disclose their identity but use the Internet to accuse others of criminal activities.  Nevertheless, the US has a myriad of laws that apply where your privacy can be peeled back in moments.  Perhaps you should think of that the next time you decide to call someone a rapist or a coward.  And if you think an anonymser protects you, it doesn’t greatly.  Legitimate ones MUST peal back identities when required to do so by a court.  Ask the paedophile rings that have been broken in the last couple of years just how secured their use of such things was.

However, the risk is much more serious for the site you decide to post such a comment on.  They become the publisher.  They have deeper pockets.  You know very well that this particular site is run in the US to protect your rights to freedom of speech so you can post stories that in some countries might land the site or the participants in jail.  But freedom of speech does not protect against either threats or statements that others find to be personally offensive.  That is, that attack the reputation of an individual.  Very strange law where you can be protected from obscenity but not from insulting an individual.  So please have some consideration and don’t deliberately put the site that allows you to do pretty much anything else at risk because you feel like insulting an individual. 

Good thing I have a rather thick skin.  I just find the use of personal insults to be pathetic and rather sad, not something that I’m going to take personally.  But that is me.  Do it to someone else and you could risk the site you are on at the very least.  So how about showing a little respect if not for others that are willing to engage you in argument, for the site that allows the argument.

I certainly would not drug another living soul.  I would not forcibly have sex with another human being and have never done so in my life.  It has, however, been done to me.  I find that last post to be extremely personally insulting.  Argue the matter any way you want.  Don't take personal pot-shots at anyone.  I have no interest in underage girls and the only time I did was when I was of the same age.  Funny that but a 14 year old tends to like other 14 year olds.

As to the other thread, it was a hypothetical, involving a hypothetical person.  None if it involved an adult.  It was simply a series of questions on just how you or anyone else would react based on underage sex where the tables were turned so the girl was considered the aggressor or was caught up in a legal nightmare.  Every single aspect of that hypothetical was taken from real cases.  It may have said “your daughter” but never once suggested that it was real or that it meant your REAL daughter might have any such involvement in anything.

Go back to arguing the issues.  You were much more pleasant then.

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Reply #47 on: October 26, 2009, 04:06:52 AM
did I hurt your feelings?
to bad,

I did not accuse you of being a rapists, I accused you of being the sort of person that would take advantage in the same way Polanski did.  If or not you have done something like that or not I don't know.  I just believe you are the sort that would.

That is unless you have something to hide, do you? Is that why you are so offended? 

You have a thick skin at all.  The only thing you do well is write and that does not protect you from your self does it?  What eats at your mind in the middle of the night? what demons do you refuse to face when the world is stripped away and it is only you looking back from the mirror?

You would not force your self on some one, so you say but you own words speak against you.  Now you write well, are you smart enough to work out what your own words say?

There are a couple of people on this board who while they do not Know me they know what I am, or rather what sort of person I am.  I am not pleasant in the least, I am not forgiving and things to me are black and white.  I am just willing to except a bit of black stain on my soul and make no excuse for it.  Are you? I doubt it.   

Hypothetical? No you conjured from the either a reflection of your own perversions and fostered them on some one else. 

I dont care who else is on this board, now you have been warned, or rather you have been revealed. 

At least with GRM our animosity is honest I would not even call it animosity I just think both of us would get thrown out of a pub if we argued our points in public.  At least he Feels strongly, you, you just absorb in your own self delusion that you are right with the world. 

If you want an accusation I will give you one

You are a sick bastard who argued in favor of another sick bastard.

I was wrong about you, there is not analytical mind behind your screen who argued a point hypothetically, there is a kindred spirit to Polanski.  You did nothing but defend one of your own. 

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Reply #48 on: October 26, 2009, 04:29:19 AM
Medieval,

I do know how I am and am very comfortable with me.  But the comments that somehow I would not be offended by being called a rapist, and there is no other term for someone that as you said would be the type of person who got a women or girl drunk, drugged and forced themselves upon her, are simply ludicrous.  Both the innocent and guilty protest.  Do not make the mistake that far too many make that Shakespeare put as "methinks he protests too much" actually means that someone that denies a claim is actually guilty of it.

Obviously, you simply do not like someone to argue logically.  So be it.  When it gets reduced to personal attacks it is time to pull up stakes and move on. 

If this post was about Van Morrison I would have argued the same way and that had nothing to do with underage girls.  I also live in the REAL world where there are underage people having sex, where far too few rapes get reported and reports of rapes and sexual offences can sometimes be motivated by guilt, greed, jealousy or simply fear. 

I don't wish to end up in a situation where unwanted pregnancies occur to younger girls because the denial of that reality means that birth control and decent sex education is denied.  Therefore, I commented on that aspect as well. 

You don't seem to be able to separate the difference between someone holding a counter view from that meaning they must be a pervert lusting after young girls or wishing to be in the same situation as Polanski.  I would not have put myself in such a situation.  I would have insisted the mother be present if I was taking photographs.  Since I do not believe in the premature sexualisation of girls in mainstream media I wouldn't have even consented to taking the photos.

I don't have any demons that stare at me in the night.  Well none that you would understand.  The demons I face are physically induced and pain.  They do strike at me and sometimes quite forcefully.  But my conscience is clean.  I don't presume to judge what you might think when alone nor could you do the same to me. 

End of discussion from my side.  It was interesting until these last couple of posts, now it is just sad.
« Last Edit: October 26, 2009, 04:43:47 AM by Ric9009 »

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Reply #49 on: October 26, 2009, 07:54:31 AM
As patently pathetic that you resorted to the number of fallacies you did before finally giving up all pretense of reasoned debate is, it's not entirely unexpected when you are debating on such clearly unequal footing (plebeian versus lawyer for the oblivious amongst us). You could have bowed out gracefully at any time Medieval, no-one would begrudge you for your gut instinct towards Polanksi even if they thought your argument was irreparably flawed, but instead you resorted to ad hominem.

It is precisely the attitude that you've displayed in many of your replies to Ric that necessitates criminals get let off on technicalities; the irrational, emotional approach all-but guarantees that innocent men and women would be put behind bars--or worse--based purely on the court of public opinion. With you your irrational, emotional approach appears to be triggered by ephebophilia and pedophilia. Hopefully you would award someone accused of other crimes the due process you deny Polanski. The alternative, that you consider it fairer that innocent men and women suffer to ensure that the guilty don't go unpunished, is almost too abhorrent to contemplate.
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Reply #50 on: October 26, 2009, 08:49:00 AM
Bugger,

Interesting post.  You seem to be a lawyer.  Actually I'm not.  I hold a JSD and have advised on the law.  Slight difference.  I prefered to work where I make a difference so that things don't ever get anywhere near a court but if they do then I make darn sure that the evidence is sufficient to win.  Never argued a case in a normal court in my life.  But I guess the distinction is not particularly important.

Thank you for the post.  It was appreciated.

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Reply #51 on: October 26, 2009, 01:46:43 PM
you stick with anything you want ric
keep sticking to that tired line and fly in the face of both convention and conviction.

You write well and at length, but no matter how long you write or what odd situations you make up on the spur of the moment you are defending some one who is reprehensible and if he where innocent would not have copped a plea bargain, would not have fled the country. 

I read your other post,  never speak about my daughter again. 


WOO -  a member's family is off limits and MD was just stating that fact.

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Reply #52 on: October 26, 2009, 03:36:22 PM


WOO -  a member's family is off limits and MD was just stating that fact.

MedevilDom, ''I have a 13 year old daughter soon to be 14.

I am a fairly direct action sort of person.  If some one got her drunk and plied her with drugs extradition would have been the least of his worries.

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However having a 13 year old daughter, there would be no place on earth safe for some one that ill treated her, just my personal thought not professional action.  I hope that you are able to discern the difference "

Family members off limits? hmm.
Ric's reply to these quotes;

"It is also the reason you can write your stories on this site, Dom.  Without those protections and the defence of such “perverts” as the publisher of Hustler and the makers of porn, you would now be in jail for writing obscenity against the community standards of some small Southern bible belt town where a 13 year old daughter of someone, said she was 18 and managed to get on this site and read your stories.  The father of THAT 13 year old daughter believes you are a pervert and regardless of the constitution, you should rot in jail."

MedevilDom has said his 'don't speak of my daughter again.' was not a threat, but goes on to say if a neighbour had replied, he would 'punch his nose.' That sounds pretty much like a threat to me, not a polite request not to discuss a family member he himself had introduced into the thread on more than one occasion.


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Reply #53 on: October 26, 2009, 07:54:51 PM
hehe...follow the news boys......he's going....
the only thing that can fail now....is US Justice!!!

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Reply #54 on: October 27, 2009, 03:19:47 AM
at the risk of putting the cat amongst the pigeons... just spotted on the BBC:

"Polanski victim seeks dismissal":

"The victim of the sexual assault committed by Roman Polanski has called for charges against the film director to be dismissed..."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/8327120.stm

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Reply #55 on: October 27, 2009, 03:56:26 AM
1,000's of rapes go unreported because of fear of the system. 1,000's more are dropped because the victim is shamed by the process.


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Reply #56 on: October 27, 2009, 04:15:37 AM
Watcher,

I respect your opinion greatly.  But in this case I disagree.  Firstly you are a moderator.  If insults against a person or against their family is forbidden, put it in the rules of this room.  Personally I think that the rules of this room should be aligned better with the law and am not particularly comfortablde seeing anyone post deliberately malicious comments about another member of this site whether it be in this room or anywhere else.  I didn't think much of the Witch thread although I had no problem with a 30 day ban for someone that posted direct insults about a moderator.  It doesn't exactly encourage those that might like to participate in discussions but would rather not be subject to personal attacks.  Indeed, if this particular thread was the first thing a potential new member looked at, Watcher, just how "welcomed" would they feel.  Considering just how kind, caring, open-minded, intelligent and non judgemental most of the contributors on this site are, the impression wouldn't exactly inspire one to think that this site is like that at all.  

In a very few days we have a person banned for lobbing personal insults at a moderator, a thread that gloated over such a ban, and the deterioration of this thread into a bunch of personal attacks.

I suggested a friend join this site and they did.  They have quite different views to me on a lot of things but they read these posts and decided to leave.  I could not convince them that the site didn't match the last few posts in this thread or that 1408 allowed for robust discussions.  Their view was that they wished no involvement in a site that allowed personal serious insults.  I found that a real shame.  There is a big difference between saying you are an idiot for holding the ridiculous views you hold than saying someone is a coward, a rapist etc and saying it with sufficient emphasis to make it clear this wasn't a throwaway line.  

Do that on the site I moderate and you most certainly would get banned.  And I've moderated the site for a very long time and not banned anyone except those that attempted to use it for commercial purposes.

I don't care that I was insulted.  I can live with it.  It made a discussion that was interesting to argue turn into something I no longer wished to have anything to do with but other than that, big woop.  It's a bit like someone that throws a temper tantrum or starts swearing at the top of their lungs in a crowded place.  As far as I am concerned it reflects badly on the person doing it.

Since I know nothing about MD's daughter I did not bring her nor do I believe I insulted her.  MD did bring her into the dsicsussion, repeatedly and I simply asked him to consider some circumstances where the matter might not be black or white.  I hope very much that nothing I said implied to anyone reading it would have thought that it was actually aimed at MD's daughter.  I certainly meant no such offence.  I was just hoping that perhaps it would allow for thinking outside the black and white lines that MD kept saying was how he viewed the world.  Obviously I failed.  But far from making stuff up, each hypothetical was taken from a very real case, with very real and sometimes tragic consequences.

Wather, you simply cannot have "rules" for this site that say you can insult anyone you like, contrary to the laws of the US by the way, and then post a message saying a member's family is off limits.  Make up your mind please.  I would respect anyone that said they would prefer that their daughter not be brought into  a discussion.  Fair enough.  But that respect ends when the defence is for a person that calls another member a rapist, a coward and a "sick bastard" defending another sick bastard.   I would suggest you do not selectively impose some rule that doesn't even exist or alternatively you simply allow any insult no matter how unpleasant or personal in its atack.  You really can't have it both ways.
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Reply #57 on: October 27, 2009, 11:45:02 AM
Some years ago I was moderating and adult site, we had one particular member who continually insulted people and rubbed them up the wrong way but she did it in such a flamboyant way and attracted many replies I did not want to ban her. So I created my first 'Rowdy Room' where anything goes. I think there are times when we want to sling mud, let off steam, get angry, in a rowdy room members can do all this, even insult moderators and admin without the fear of a banning. I have been insulted by numerous people since then and sometimes I insult them back, non of the insults has ever hurt me because they are only words and words only hurt you if you let them, any directed at me just make me chuckle. At the end of the day we are all anonymous here, non of us know who we are really insulting, this isn't real life mate.  I'm sorry to hear about your friend Ric, but obviously they were way too sensitive for 1408 which is still a rare medium, even for the internet. I do warn people not to enter 1408 if they don't want to be insulted and I would urge anyone who gets upset by such exchanges not to post or read the threads. 1408 is just one board on KB, we have many others where people can relax, get it off, have a good wank or fall asleep. I did feel I had to draw the line at threatening behaviour, although I have to say its the first time I have ever had to rule on it in my many years of the internet.
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Reply #58 on: October 27, 2009, 02:12:54 PM
Ric,

Insults in Room 1408 is a given, no matter how much I think they distract from a discussion. That is the nature of this room and is such stated on the board. As for the issue of family, as far as I know, kb has not instituted a family plan, so if a person does decide to become a member here, it is for themselves only. And probably an overwhelming majority of our members, who do have families, are on here without their family's knowledge. That is why I think family members should not be mentioned, unless, like in law, the door is opened by the individual themselves bringing them into a discussion.
The points you brought up are valid and will be discussed among the Moderators.

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Reply #59 on: October 27, 2009, 04:11:56 PM
No chance, I'm done with rules for at least another 3 years.  :emot_lickie:


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