Ask a female a question.

[MintJulie]

Okay ladies. I'm going to hand you a magic wand. With it you can change ONE thing about the entire male species. What would you do with such a potent power?

My initial response was the same as PSI's.   Walk a mile in our shoes and better understand us.

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 

[psiberzerker]

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.

In college, the girls and I did a little experiment.  We found that a ring handled convex bladed neck knife lowered "Boob oogling" (The term used in the study) to 3%.  It seems to get them to think more about their castration anxiety, and one of my friends (A psyche major) goot top marks for her paper on it.

#LookAtMyKnifeAndNotMyTits

It's not quite a magic wand, but it does the trick.

[IdleBoast]

We found that a ring handled convex bladed neck knife lowered "Boob oogling" (The term used in the study) to 3%.

I had to read that three times to make sure you weren't taking about a neck line, but mistyped.

Is this what you meant?

[psiberzerker]

Is this what you meant?

Any knife will work, however the most optimal one I've seen from years of testing is the Bastinelli Diagnostic Kerambit:  

Comfort is an issue, assuming you have breasts, and something to hold them in, to share a neckline with.  However, the claw shaped blade also seems to most effectively trigger castration anxiety.



Also available in tactical black.  Boker makes one that's less comfortable, but more affordable.

[Remington555]

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 

To be realistic, I think most all heterosexual men partake in ogling women, at least to some extent. It's biologically built into our DNA. It could be that some 'gentlemen' can pull it off somehow without coming across as 'creepy'.

Wouldn't it be enlightening if both sexes could somehow get a glimpse of what it would be like to be the other?

Women fascinate me. I'm still trying to learn what makes them tick. That's why I keep asking all these dumb questions. Thanks for indulging my curiosity.

Remmy

[psiberzerker]

To be realistic, I think most all heterosexual men partake in ogling women, at least to some extent.

No, they don't.  Honestly, most of them don't.  Married men respect their wife's wishes, and don't stare at other women. They look, but they don't stare, to the point that it's abusive.  Yes, looking is abusive if you keep staring long after the attention is obviously unwanted.

There's porn, on the internet.  If you want to stare at sexy women, look some up.

[IdleBoast]

Ogling =/= staring.

[psiberzerker]

Ogling =/= staring.

Did you read every word I said, captain semantic, or just skip from keyword to keyword to come up with "Ogling=Staring"?  I said, and I fucking quote:  

Yes, looking is abusive if you keep staring long after the attention is obviously unwanted.

Read it again.  Until your self defensive filters actually let the message through.  #NotAllMen Ogle, Leer, Stare, or even glance at strangers on the street, in a sexual manner.  It's rude, and some men aren't that fucking rude.  Even if they did, it wouldn't be carte blanche for you to keep doing it, until somebody finally says something, then insist, "I wasn't ogling, I was staring."  

[Jed_]

Okay ladies. I'm going to hand you a magic wand. With it you can change ONE thing about the entire male species. What would you do with such a potent power?

My initial response was the same as PSI's.   Walk a mile in our shoes and better understand us.

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 

To jump in this, I’m guessing Jules might be OK with a very brief unobtrusive (trying not to get caught) admiring glance.  But some men will not only leer, they will do so with the intent of making the the woman or girl very uncomfortable if not actually afraid.

[psiberzerker]

But some men will not only leer, they will do so with the intent of making the the woman or girl very uncomfortable if not actually afraid.

Because they can.  This is the important part:  There's nothing you can do about it.  Even to the point of menacing, the guy doesn't need a better defense than "What?" because the cops will laugh in your face if you report it.  It's completely Legal.  You pretty much need your boyfriend or father there, to give him The Look back to make it stop.

[Katiebee]

Which brings us back to the patriarchal bs that got us on this thread in the first place. It’s men seeing who can pee higher, establishing dominance over each other, saying “this is mine, hands off.” Marking territory and putting women in a class of property.

[psiberzerker]

Which brings us back to the patriarchal bs that got us on this thread in the first place.

Except, it's also a place for men to ask, and listen to women.  Which is the only way they can learn, and understand us better.  We can't avoid honest, sincere questions, unless we just want to perpetuate this fight.

"I don't know if you're up on current events, but we just got our asses kicked!"

~Hudson

"I say we take off, and nuke the entire site from orbit.  The only way to be sure."

~E. Ripley.

[Athos_131]

Guys, stop mansplaining on this.

#Resist

[psiberzerker]

<#Transplaining.

If you don't want to listen to the answer, don't ask the question, man.

[Athos_131]

I didn't ask the question.

You were not the one I was accusing of mansplaining.

#Resist

[psiberzerker]

I didn't ask the question.

That "You" was plural, inclusive.  (All Men.)  If You, singular, personal, took it personally?  You might want to examine why that is.

I threw that hashtag in there, because I rather like it.  Why I coined it.  You could learn a lot by asking questions, and listening to the answers, too.

#NotAllMen.

[psiberzerker]

Let me put it this way.  There's an entire thread devoted to men answering questions.  If you (Anyone) is going to #Mansplain, that's the place.

#Desist.

[MissBarbara]

Guys, stop mansplaining on this.

#Resist

Precisely.

Thank you.

[Fjellvant]

What are your feelings on dating, or at least sex with, a guy who is a decade or more younger? Older? Do you derive anything different from this compared to someone closer to your age?

[Katiebee]

Do you like he person. Can you live them? Those are the only questions required.