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Reply #120 on: October 22, 2018, 04:48:09 AM
a decade or more younger? Older?

Than what?  We need 2 numbers here, if she's let's say 23, than a decade or more younger is getting pretty ew.  If she's in her 40s?  Less so.



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Reply #121 on: October 22, 2018, 09:09:58 PM
What are your feelings on dating, or at least sex with, a guy who is a decade or more younger? Older? Do you derive anything different from this compared to someone closer to your age?

a decade or more younger? Older?

Than what?  We need 2 numbers here, if she's let's say 23, than a decade or more younger is getting pretty ew.  If she's in her 40s?  Less so.

Fair enough, I guess this has to be personal, from the perspective of the person replying. If you're 23, then yeah, younger isn't going to do much for you, to put it mildly. I'm really just curious as to whether anyone else derives additional excitement from large age differences like I do. It would depend on the potential partner for sure, but my general range (as a 32yo) is about 10 younger or 20 older, with exceptions.
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Reply #122 on: October 23, 2018, 12:51:29 PM

My wife is 8 years older than I am and it's never been an issue.

I had a cousin who married a man 35 years older than she was. Sadly, he outlived her.

As is so often the case, it really depends a lot on the individuals involved. I've always thought one of the great mysteries of the universe is what causes a spark between two people in love. Or even in lust.  :D

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Reply #123 on: October 23, 2018, 04:25:00 PM
My late wife was 8.5 years older than me.  My fiancé is 15 years younger than me.  So I guess I’ve experienced a nice range.

It’s sometimes interesting to think on it.  When my first wife was 23.5 years old and married to her first husband with a toddler, my next wife was being born.  Or another way to look at it, I was with my first wife for about 19 years beginning when she was 44, so my first wife was 3 years older way back then than my fiancé is now.

Maybe I just like women in their early 40s?  Actually, I think I just like women.



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Reply #124 on: October 25, 2018, 08:07:09 PM
Assuming I am not the only girl that has painful anal sex.  Twice I have experienced anal sex from a guy.  Both guys were different size so my question is....  how many times does it take to experience anal sex before the pain of penetration is gone?   and is there a safe way of preparing before anal sex so that I am not as tight as i am.  It is enjoyable after the pain has subsided.  The guys tell me that going through the pain before enjoyment should be accepted and to not do anything to loosen back there.   Is that true?   Is most anal sex painful before the enjoyment sets in?     It is true that that once penetration is complete and I am stretching some it is highly pleasurable.  So should I keep accepting the several minutes of pain so the pleasure is that much better?

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Reply #125 on: October 25, 2018, 08:41:14 PM
Get another boyfriend that can properly perform the act and then take baby steps. Lube is your best friend.

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Reply #126 on: October 25, 2018, 10:36:57 PM
Yeah, there's no such thing as too much lube, and take your time.  If it hurts, he's doing it wrong.  Most often just sticking it in without doing anything to loosten you up first, but Coitus (Vaginal sex) is a pretty good way to loosen that up, too.  

Also, loosen up every time.  A lot of guys seem to buy into the "Loose woman" myth, where looseness is a sign of how many times she's fucked, instead of how ready she is to fuck.  Pretty much the same with the anus, if you're not willing to do the prep, then the answer should be no.  Tell him to let you show him, with a pair of gloves.  If he can't take it, then at least he can understand why you can't.

Also, if he continues to pressure you, after he knows you don't like it, because it hurts, get a better boyfriend.  That's knocking right on the door of rape.  It shows that he's fully capable of it, if he cajoles enough, and convinces himself that's not what he's doing.  I'm not saying you've been raped, I don't have enough information to make that judgement, but he's obviously trying to get as close to that line as he can, without overbidding, and that's the kind of guy that always, relentlessly escalates until he inevitably goes too far.



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Reply #127 on: October 26, 2018, 09:26:44 AM
I think communication is key - we men are stupid, and especially if there are already rough elements in sex.

If that doesn't work - fuck him with a strapon.



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Reply #128 on: October 26, 2018, 04:46:28 PM
 Tell him to let you show him, with a pair of gloves.  If he can't take it, then at least he can understand why you can't.


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Reply #129 on: October 26, 2018, 05:00:31 PM
I believe Kathy considers herself to be submissive and is looking for a way to better experience anal.  While seeking a man more experienced in such activities seems sound advice, suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

Unfortunately my knowledge in this area is theoretical, but if I were to attempt advice it would be to purchase a set of butt plugs and use them (or preferably find a dominant non-abusive man to tell her to use them).



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Reply #130 on: October 26, 2018, 05:12:31 PM
suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

I don't know her nature, but I was kinda trying to steer away from "Shoving" anything up anyone's ass, and toward exploring anal pleasure more gently.  Since that way hurts less, but in my experience you learn a lot more from being done than you do by shoving things where the sun don't shine.  Nobody is 100% dominant, or submissive 24/7.  In fact, most of the guys that believe in total dominance eventually hurt someone, because they're so distracted by asserting their dominance.  Enjoying the bottom is not, EVER a sign that anyone is pathologically incapable o giving a stinky pinky, FFS.

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Butt Plugs don't really replicate the feel, and technique involved with using a Penis.  A dildo works better for that.  Butplugs are used almost completely differently, but the typical conical tip is useful to loosen up before trying to stick a dick in it.  So, the advice isn't a bad idea, just how to use that tool was a little off target.  (Also, thank you for clarifying that as Theoretical.  Most people give advice as if experts, and not as an attempt at advice. You get the Woo!  For that.)
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Reply #131 on: October 26, 2018, 05:21:01 PM
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Reply #132 on: October 26, 2018, 06:09:28 PM

I believe Kathy considers herself to be submissive and is looking for a way to better experience anal.  While seeking a man more experienced in such activities seems sound advice, suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

Unfortunately my knowledge in this area is theoretical, but if I were to attempt advice it would be to purchase a set of butt plugs and use them (or preferably find a dominant non-abusive man to tell her to use them).


To answer this question as a female (Wow! What a concept!), albeit on who has never had anal sex with a man, I would offer this advice:

* Don't view it in terms of dominance and submission; look at it in terms as a new and different erotic experience. And approach it as you would any other new and different erotic experience.

* If you're really doing it for her, then make it all about her, and focus solely on her. Make it her experience; you're time will come (pun definitely intended).

* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

* It's all about her muscles, and muscles constrict and relax. She's going to be nervous or apprehensive, so you have to take even greater care to help her relax. Create a relaxing situation for her, and go from there.

* Start first with anal play. This will help her relax, it will help her accustom herself to, well, activities down there, and, done properly, it will feel great for her. Start by putting lube on your fingers, and slowly massage the opening. As she starts to relax, probe a tiny bit deeper -- but only a tiny bit, like just the tip of your finger. She will continue to relax, and she will continue to enjoy the experience.

* You are both still experimenting at this point, so communicate with her: Talk to her, ask her questions, etc.

* If she's willing to continue, then, as Psi suggests, do not use a butt plug, use a small dildo (butt plugs are far too wide at this point). Again, use gobs of lube, and start very slowly. The tunnel opening may be very small, but the tunnel widens dramatically once you enter it. First massage the opening as you did with your finger, and only then slowly slide a little of it into her. Talk to her and gauge her reactions. Again, very slowly. Caress other parts of her body -- both the obvious and less obvious parts -- which will help to both further relax herself, and to heighten her erotic responses even further.

* Once the dildo is in as far as she likes/wants it, make sure it is still sufficiently lubricated, and slowly and gently slide it in and out, perhaps only an inch or two each way, and slowly and gently twist and turn it. Against, communicate and gauge.

* From there, your next steps are boundless. I would strongly suggest that she is not yet ready for your penis, so save that for the future. Perhaps orally pleasure her with the dildo still inside her, slowly rotating and moving it in and out as you address her more erogenous areas with your mouth and tongue. Or enter her vaginally, with the dildo still inside her, which, in most situations, will drive her absolutely batty.






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Reply #133 on: October 26, 2018, 06:30:22 PM
* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

Staci said it first, but it's important enough to repeat again:

If she smokes after sex, try more lube.



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Reply #134 on: October 26, 2018, 06:53:37 PM
* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

Staci said it first, but it's important enough to repeat again:

If she smokes after sex, try more lube.

Isn’t that about the oldest sex joke there is?

The girl is asked, ‘Do you smoke after sex?’
‘I don’t know.  I never looked.’



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Reply #135 on: October 26, 2018, 10:44:25 PM
‘Do you smoke after sex?’
‘I don’t know.  I never looked.’

With various punchlines, yeah.  I kinda like mine, though.

Another good one:  "Not since kindergarten."
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Reply #136 on: October 27, 2018, 04:22:38 AM
And in case no one noticed, too much lube is almost enough.

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Reply #137 on: October 27, 2018, 04:29:57 AM
I usually get bi with a lickety spit, but I happen to love analingus (And navalingus for the same reasons.)  If he's willing to kiss it, and make it better for fucking, maybe he'll love it enough to respect it.



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Reply #138 on: December 12, 2018, 01:04:27 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
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Reply #139 on: December 12, 2018, 02:07:04 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.