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Reply #15 on: December 19, 2017, 08:19:08 PM
Are “lady boners” a real thing? 

Yes, they are a real thing.


What sort of circumstances or activities cause one? 

In my early 20's I might be making out with a guy and it would happen.  Or in anticipation of sex.  There were times I was just sitting at my desk.  Other times it might have come out of nowhere.  Or I could have been thinking of something.   I recall the first time it ever happened.  My sister and I were sunning in the backyard in our bathing suits.  It was really hot out.  I was actually drifting off to sleep and then I was like "wtf?"  I went inside to see what the heck was going on.  I was kind of scared.  My sister laughed when I told her in my "why tf did it do that" voice.  She said it never happened to her but she had one friend that it happened to all the time.  It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.  I recall it only happened when I was sitting still.  Never while moving or walking.  It happened with much less frequency in my mid-late 20's, but occasionally it did.

Over the last 14 years, it has and still does happen on a rare occasion (once or twice a year), but it is not like then.  I feel the swelling, but it doesn't extend outward.  It's wider but shorter to the size of a marble, but stays hidden away.  I need to move things to see it, where as before it would lengthen 3 times what it does now.  I ignore it and it goes away.  The thing that is different now than back then is I can feel it pulse with my heartbeat.  It's just a very very light ping.  It also goes away very quickly, 2 to 3 minutes.  Probably because I put it out of my mind.  If I think about it it might last a bit longer. 

Only once did it happen and not go away quickly.  It was about an hour.   I was 15 minutes into a very boring meeting.  *ping* *ping* *ping* and the ping grew to many times what it started out.  But not something that would make me have a moment.   The one thing I remember about that day that is my butt cheeks had fallen asleep, not sure if that had anything to do with it.  Just a weird thing all around. 


......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.





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Reply #16 on: December 19, 2017, 08:43:29 PM
Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.
I don't get that feeling.  It happens and I go on with my day.
Just like when my nipples may harden for some reason.  I don't feel the need to start playing with them. 

But to your comment, when I do feel the urge to masturbate, I don't require anything better.  I have no issue getting to my happy place with my fingers, my vibrators or any other toys in my drawer.


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Reply #17 on: December 19, 2017, 10:04:20 PM
Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.


Not really, if we did every time we’d get nothing done and probably wear the skin off.

Not sure how to put this, but we save things in our heads (like that girl that bent over to tie her shoe in Walmart) or have a specific accompaniment in mind such as a porn vid, a pic even a story to read.  We create scenarios with the images, either in our head or real images.

I’m not convinced it’s that much different for men except we tend to be more visual, more likely to use porn.
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Reply #18 on: December 19, 2017, 10:08:33 PM
Or nipples hardening for some reason...   ;D



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Reply #19 on: December 20, 2017, 09:16:07 PM
My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?



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Reply #20 on: December 21, 2017, 01:59:51 AM
While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?



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Reply #21 on: December 21, 2017, 02:53:10 PM

My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?


Every woman's different, but for me, the menstruation period is an "don't even think of going there" times.

If I were to graph my monthly horniness, the peak would be immediately after my period ends.






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Reply #22 on: December 21, 2017, 03:02:08 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
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Reply #23 on: December 21, 2017, 10:11:23 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
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Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).



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Reply #24 on: December 21, 2017, 11:35:00 PM
I asked this question a few years ago and got some nice answers. Since it's been a while, we've had some turnover. Let's see if we get any different replies this time.

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Hope this isn't too lame but I think its a question that only a female who ENJOYS anal can answer. Once a woman is accustom to anal and enjoys it, does she get a different feeling being penetrated anally than when she is penetrated vaginally. If the feelings are very similar can we then say that a man could identify with a woman's feeling of vaginal sex if he received anal sex. Is it very similar or very different?



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Reply #26 on: December 22, 2017, 02:55:33 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
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Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).



Again, I'm trying hard not to generalize from personal experiences alone, but while men have a clear, obvious, and unmistakable physical manifestation of arousal, with women it's not as clear cut (or uncut ;)). 

As Lois indicated in the OP of this thread, nipples are not little penises, so their hardening is often not in direct response to sexual arousal, especially sexual arousal engendered by thoughts. Though this is a staple of bad porn movies and amateurish erotic fiction, in reality, as Lois indicates, temperature has more effect than erotic arousal. And the same goes for "lady boners," i.e. clitoral engorgement.

Now, a woman's nipples do not harden, and her clitoris does become engorged, in response to direct stimulation. Anyone who has ever made love with a woman can attest to that. But it's not a somatic response to arousal as much as it a physical response to erotic contact. 






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Reply #27 on: December 22, 2017, 05:28:45 PM
This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?




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Reply #28 on: December 22, 2017, 05:34:15 PM

I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.


I had similar thoughts, but decided a hairbrush handle in my ass was great for after school jackoff sessions in the bathroom.



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Reply #29 on: December 22, 2017, 06:01:36 PM

This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?



That questing isn't silly at all. In fact, that's why I love these two threads, because men and women can get honest and real information, and feel comfortable asking genuine questions like yours.

Again, not wishing to generalize from one girl's experience, I've never even once seen an object and thought that'd be great to use next time I masturbate.

I think a lot of younger women (she says, avoiding a specific age...) have experimented with objects, especially vaguely penis-shaped objects like hairbrush and electric toothbrush handles. And, of course, most of these "younger women" do not have access to sex toys to use in their stead. But I think, in most cases, since these women have not yet engaged in intercourse, they're chiefly trying to simulate what it would feel like to have an actual penis inside them.

Keep in mind, as you likely know, that vaginal penetration, like typical intercourse, does not directly stimulate the clitoris. Yes, women can and do have orgasms through vaginal stimulation only, but in these acts of youthful experimentation, the women aren't as physically sophisticated and experienced enough to achieve vaginal orgasms, and clitoral stimulation proves much more effective.

Plus, there's the fact that God gave us fingers for a reason...






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