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Offline Supersoftball

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Reply #15 on: April 23, 2019, 10:08:38 PM
it's not worse than not having sex with your wife, she'd have to find some desire at least twice a week or leave.

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Reply #16 on: April 23, 2019, 10:14:27 PM
She'd have to find some desire at least twice a week or leave.

 :roll:  Sex isn't the only reason to stay married.  There may also be kids to take care of, and there's always the off chance that there's more to their relationship than just physical desire.  People get older, and desires can change, or even go away.  It's not the end of the world, and it doesn't predictably mean the end of the family.



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Reply #17 on: April 23, 2019, 10:47:34 PM
it's not worse than not having sex with your wife, she'd have to find some desire at least twice a week or leave.

I'm going to go out on a limb, and guess that you're single...

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Reply #18 on: April 23, 2019, 11:00:28 PM
I'm going to go out on a limb, and guess that you're single...

 :emot_laughing:

 :emot_laughing:  Yeah, it's a bit of an assumption that guys who only think about marriage in sexual terms, or give the advice "Leave your wife if she can't put out any more" have never had a mature relationship with a woman, but I'd call it a pretty safe bet.



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Reply #19 on: October 11, 2019, 04:43:25 AM
I understand how you feel. Seems she decides to do nothing and wants you to just suck it up. It just ain't natural. Know what I mean?



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Reply #20 on: November 03, 2019, 11:20:03 PM
Unfortunately, this seems to be an all too common story.

I am currently stuck in a sexless, affection-less marriage. As psiberzerker said there are more reasons to stay in a marriage. I have chosen to stay because of our kids, and the fact that I still care about my wife, and she couldn't make it on her own financially.

She has even gone so far as to tell me she is fine with me finding a sex partner that isn't her.
As great as this sounds, it is easier said than done. After 20+ years I don't even know where I would start find a new partner that is ok with this situation.

I am in my late 40s and seem to have as much or more desire nave ever now than I have ever had. Maybe it is just the lack of sexual contact for so long. I think I am going on three years.



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Reply #21 on: July 01, 2020, 12:38:23 PM
I have been married for 12 years and except for a few times I was physically ill, have never said no to sex. I like it so much, I can't think of a reason why I would. Vaginal sex or giving head, I like his attention and finishing him off. I have won many an argument by just saying, "fuck me."




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Reply #22 on: September 30, 2020, 06:59:29 PM
Menopause kills sexual desire and appetite, and us blokes are left pulling ourselves off to porn to keep us sane and out of jail.
Not the fault of anyone,  just nature at work.

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Reply #23 on: October 03, 2020, 02:48:02 AM
My wife lost all desire for sex.  Luckily I found a great massage parlor that does a very thorough job  ;D.



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Reply #24 on: October 26, 2020, 10:53:00 PM
 :D I am glad I have my mother-in-law.



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Reply #25 on: November 08, 2020, 04:37:55 PM
:D I am glad I have my mother-in-law.

You are so lucky if of course this is true !!!!



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Reply #26 on: November 17, 2020, 07:58:41 PM
there may be help. Vyleesi has been approved by FDA for over a year. Check it out with google, face book, DuckDuckGo etc. Health Insurance pays a large amount. First 4 hits free!



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Reply #27 on: November 17, 2020, 08:56:45 PM

there may be help. Vyleesi has been approved by FDA for over a year. Check it out with google, face book, DuckDuckGo etc. Health Insurance pays a large amount. First 4 hits free!


It's worth noting that Vylessi is for pre-menopausal women only, and it is not effective for post-menopausal women.





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Reply #28 on: November 21, 2020, 11:26:46 PM
Twelve years, one visit to an escort.  Not her fault, she had a very healthy appetite, but got her back wrecked at work...and is fifteen years older than me.

Knew it would probably happen one day, but, she is my person...

Escort was very unsatisfactory, always been a romantic and if I don't have some kind of feeling it's worse than fantasizing.



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Reply #29 on: January 16, 2021, 01:03:58 PM
I realise this thread is over a year old, but the topic is an important one.

I once overheard a guy talking to his mate about a girl he was dating, and now were moving in together. The guy said, “once the lust is gone then what’s left must be love.’

Lust - Love - Sex - Marriage - Two people together.

Lust is the physical and sexual attraction. It is the beginning in any relationship. Love is on an emotional level when we  develop a deeper connection with a person after time spent together.

There are many reasons why women show less interest in having sex with their partners.

Sex becomes more of a boring ritual. The same old same old. What works for you may not work for her. Attend to her needs more, shake things up. Be more attentive. Be more imaginative. Be more supportive. Here and below may be remedied by counselling.

Emotional causes: Stress, relationship problems, (sometimes a presenting problem just covers a primal problem that may not be obvious) depression, anxiety, children.

Just plain tired and worn out: Pressures on a woman living a modern life, having to work, raise the children and clean the house by herself. It happens.

My husband is a generation older than me. We lived on a farm, and I’m from the city, and after a year we moved there I fell pregnant with twins. At times, I had to help him, so on a trailer, hitched to the tractor, I buckled the kids in their stroller, tied well to the trailer, and brought their bottles, nappies (cloth so extra washing there) and a portable playpen. I could be out with him all day either fencing, picking up and stacking hay bales etc, and when the days over we head home, he’d shower, sit in front of the tv, watch the news, and that’s it for him. I settle the kids, he’d watch them, cook dinner, and wash up after wards. Then I feed the kids. Best way for me was to have them in their car capsules, I sit between them on the floor, and feed them their bottles. All our families were six hours away, so no help to fall back on. I did it without complaining, or pointing out certain things, because he grew up when things were done differently, where women were at home, raising the children and men worked. But yeah, I was fucking tired at night, so we had our special time in the morning. Communication and resolution.

Body image: Widening girth with age, saggy boobs, self hate due to sexual abuse, physical abuse or rape, and how you treat her.

Low self esteem.

Poor communication.

Physical causes: Diabettes or arthritis causes certain conditions and pain. Other medical reasons (For about 20 years, I couldn’t have my husbands arm around me in bed, it really hurt my side, and he loves to cuddle in bed beside me while we slept. After 20 years, found out it was my gall bladder, now problem fixed)

Menopause: See below

Hormonal Problems: This can be easily remedied by asking your G.P. For a test, he can prescribe hormonal replacement if that’s the cause.

Medication: Yes some medication can be responsible for low libido.

Also, a man sexual life lasts longer than a woman’s. Sorry guys, but its true.

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