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« Reply #15 on: October 17, 2020, 12:39:19 PM »

Watcher and I are nearly the same age (although I'm the older and wiser), and my experience is similar to his. Nothing in the schools. My mom (not my dad) gave me several pamphlets that ranged from somewhat informative to comically funny.

I remember asking her about something I thought I had learned from the material. "So mom, girls can't get pregnant until they get married?" She cleared that up right away.

I didn't know what a clitoris was/is until I was in my 50s. I'm still learning things I should have known in my teens. Who knows what else my knowledge is deficient of.

Miss Barbara, every generation thinks they invented sex and can't imagine 'old' people doing it, at least until that awful day they realize that their parents must have had sex or they wouldn't exist.
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« Reply #16 on: October 17, 2020, 06:50:00 PM »

I was sexually precocious, and my dad was a medical student who had all kinds of books and diagrams, so I basically ran Sex Ed in the neighborhood growing up.  Picture a group of kids laying in a circle looking at medical illustrations...



Since dad was going to be an ob/gyn, a lot of these diagrams also showed speculums and forceps, tongs, clips, clamps and tweezers pulling various parts of the human anatomy this way or that for closer inspection... probably the origins of my medical fetish.

So when “health week” rolled around in the sixth grade, we were pretty bored by the physiology part.  We were told about the menstrual cycle and ovulation in a rather perfunctory manner.  We were provided a glimpse into the owners manual.  A little bit of knowledge.  Zero understanding.

So most of what I got after that was from reading banned books and Penthouse letters.  I kind of feel sorry for kids these days who get their education watching Pornhub.  I saw a study that said younger adults think a blowjob is required for foreplay, and a facial is how coitus is concluded.
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« Reply #17 on: October 18, 2020, 12:00:43 AM »

So most of what I got after that was from reading banned books and Penthouse letters.  I kind of feel sorry for kids these days who get their education watching Pornhub.  I saw a study that said younger adults think a blowjob is required for foreplay, and a facial is how coitus is concluded.
Oh dear gods. I'm guessing that same study also said that many males feel they need to the dominant partner in a relationship, and the girls the submissive one. While blame should also be clearly aimed at religious leaders who push this teaching, it's true also that porn hasn't helped there.
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« Reply #18 on: October 22, 2020, 12:13:54 AM »

I heard on a radio show recently that younger males are spending so much time looking at and reading porn, by 25 some things just are not stimulating enough for them to get erect. They're having a hard time getting turned on.   

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« Reply #19 on: October 22, 2020, 12:25:00 AM »

I heard on a radio show recently that younger males are spending so much time looking at and reading porn, by 25 some things just are not stimulating enough for them to get erect. They're having a hard time getting turned on.   

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Yeah I hear a lot of stuff like that from my kids too. There seems to be an awful lot of sexual ambiguity and confusion. There’s also a lot of gender issues, and a general rejection of binary sexual identity. So it seems to be popular to just refrain from labeling yourself or anyone else. Which seems strange to me now, because things were very different 30 or 40 years ago when I was a horny young man. I just can’t imagine what it’s like to be a young person now. They don’t date, they have seriously strange meeting and mating rituals. And of course nothing is done until unless bloodwork and condoms first.
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« Reply #20 on: October 22, 2020, 01:07:33 AM »

I’ve heard this too, sexual expectations of males being based on watching too much porn.  A girl I knew from India said it was particularly bad there; our Indian Babe confirmed.
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« Reply #21 on: October 22, 2020, 03:43:37 PM »

I heard on a radio show recently that younger males are spending so much time looking at and reading porn, by 25 some things just are not stimulating enough for them to get erect. They're having a hard time getting turned on.   

Will try and find it in print.

I can believe that. Nothing left to their imagination to get turned on to when everything is on video. It also can lead to unpleasant situations with their girlfriends if the guys want to try things they see on porn vids and the girls don't.
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« Reply #22 on: October 22, 2020, 03:56:12 PM »

I'm also reading that it gives these boys a body image problem.  Big fake boobs, and tiny waists.  So normal women with normal proportions don't excite them as much, and if a girl is a little over weight, then then problem is magnified.
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« Reply #23 on: October 22, 2020, 07:16:55 PM »


I'm also reading that it gives these boys a body image problem.  Big fake boobs, and tiny waists.  So normal women with normal proportions don't excite them as much, and if a girl is a little over weight, then then problem is magnified.



I'm also reading that it gives these boys a body image problem.  Big fake boobs, and tiny waists.  So normal women with normal proportions don't excite them as much, and if a girl is a little over weight, then then problem is magnified.


While I don't disagree with you (nor the other assertions above), I wonder how true this is in real life.

On the one hand, it isn't porn (or boys) that creates unrealistic women's body images, it's society in general, including both the entertainment and advertising industries.

On the other hand, we "adults" tend to underestimate teens' ability to perceive reality in the face of what's presented to them. Sure, there are guys who will only date (or fuck) gorgeous chicks with big boobs and tiny waists, but that's a very longstanding perception, and it's not true among the majority.

I work at a university, so I have a little window (albeit from the outside looking in) into 18-22 year olds. Well, at least before we went 100% virtual. From what I saw, boys dated, were in relationships with, and, I assume, having physical relationships with, women of very imaginable shape and size. While this is only one specific place at one specific time, I think that's the norm, and the hyper-idealization is the exception.

In fact, the biggest problem is the opposite: Young women seeing these images they're constantly being bombarded with -- tiny waist, big boobs, etc. -- and finding their own bodies wanting. Negative body images among young women (and not so young women) is a real phenomenon, and it affects young women in many ways, including ways we adults might not realize.

Most to the point (and back on topic), I think boys recognize that porn actors are, in fact, acting. The action is as fake as the actors' bodies.


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« Reply #24 on: October 22, 2020, 08:30:47 PM »


In fact, the biggest problem is the opposite: Young women seeing these images they're constantly being bombarded with -- tiny waist, big boobs, etc. -- and finding their own bodies wanting. Negative body images among young women (and not so young women) is a real phenomenon, and it affects young women in many ways, including ways we adults might not realize.

Most to the point (and back on topic), I think boys recognize that porn actors are, in fact, acting. The action is as fake as the actors' bodies.



Good point about girls and women being constantly bombarded with negative images. Pretty much with boys and men also. Yes, advertising and society as a whole can be blamed but constant viewing of porn videos can be detrimental in shaping images also.
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« Reply #25 on: October 22, 2020, 09:19:30 PM »

Young women seeing these images they're constantly being bombarded with -- tiny waist, big boobs, etc. -- and finding their own bodies wanting.



Hit the nail on the head there. I get self conscious at least once when I come here.  I love my body, dont get me wrong, work hard to keep it as it is, but I'll see something here almost every day that makes me want a change.  Heck, I've even posted a few myself.  Not fishing for comments or compliments, just agreeing with Miss.B
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« Reply #26 on: October 23, 2020, 02:47:24 PM »


When I was young a 'one night stand' was a single date with a kiss if you were lucky, now it seems to be a first time shag with someone you never see again.

(Jesuit senior school for me, with zero sex education - the local girl's convent didn't seem the horny stereotypes of legend, or maybe it was just me they were avoiding).

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« Reply #27 on: October 23, 2020, 03:01:04 PM »


When I was young a 'one night stand' was a single date with a kiss if you were lucky, now it seems to be a first time shag with someone you never see again.


I spoke with our oldest and asked her experiences while away at college (she just grad'd).  She said she witnessed a couple of one night hook ups.  But for the most part, a kiss was all that the boys got on their first night out.

And in her friend group from high school, they had a couple (boy/girl) going away to the same college.  He broke up with her because he was planning on hooking up every weekend and didn't want tied down.  Well, the rumor is he got shut out freshman year.  It's not as easy as they think.

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« Reply #28 on: October 23, 2020, 06:30:18 PM »


I remember after the class, when all the girls came out of class into the hall to our lockers, and then the boys came out.  Both guys and girls were all looking at the other sex like they were aliens. 





And how many stereotypes did this contribute to?


Quite the contrary: This book exploded stereotypes.

Believe me, I'm one of the last people to take advice from a self-help book, but I read this book about 20 years ago, and I found it hugely illuminating and almost vitally important. It helped me understand men much better than I did before, and it helped me understand women as well, beyond my own experiential and intuitive understanding.





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« Reply #29 on: October 23, 2020, 07:06:12 PM »


Believe me, I'm one of the last people to take advice from a self-help book, but I read this book about 20 years ago, and I found it hugely illuminating and almost vitally important. It helped me understand men much better than I did before, and it helped me understand women as well, beyond my own experiential and intuitive understanding.


Are men harder to understand then women?  Cool
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