Toe completely nailed it, at least with me he did.
My stepfather was all sugar and flowers. A real sweet talker and I was dumb, ignorant, and gullible that I fell for all of it. You learn the birds and bees in school, but rely on role models and guardians to show you more than just the mechanics of it. When one of the uses it to get what he/she wants, the perspective of how things are, gets extremely warped. I enjoyed hearing words of encouragement and compliments and thought I was the best at pleasing men. I had an abusive stepfather and a mother who blamed me for it.
I joined the Army to help me escape that life and tried to start over. I overcorrected and met my ex-fiance who to be honest was a jerk, but I mistook it to be a confident personality. He wouldnt be overly mean to me 8n public, but was a complete jerk in private. However, I mistook that for being a dominating male and I was his submissive whore. I wouldn't tell him no, and he used it to get whatever he wanted out of me. A lot of the things he did to me I still enjoy to this day, but there are also things that I hated and regret ever doing like lickingnsucking his feet and toes, giving him rim jobs, and him peeing on me. After a year of it, my friends telling me to get out, I finally told him no that I wasn't going to do something. He beat and raped me.
Fast forward to today, I'm a lot wiser of it all and know the difference between dominant and sexist, or misogynistic. I don't get turned on from a sexist prick, but I have no time for a guy who just folds on every decision made. Almost too scared to disagree with me. The guy has to have that touch of complete jerk in order for me to get what I want. When I'm being a submissive little whore who loves to "service her Master's cock", or wants "Master to pound my ass hard" He can't be afraid to do what he wants, but still has respect for me to make sure I'm ok with it all. If I'm not liking something or I need him to stop he does without hesitation.
I think in may have gotten a little off topic, thinking about being dominated and bent over.... I was already craving a visitor at my back door, and then I read Toe's post... momma wants it raunchy