So I have a story to tell. A little background… I’ll be 41 on 14th. I’m married, most of the time happily but in the bedroom it’s lacking. Been married for 12ish years. I’m very open minded sexually. She isn’t. In her mind sex is taboo to even talk about so forget about prostate massages or pegging. About 4 yrs ago I discovered what prostate massage was. I love it. She knows this but thinks there is something wrong with me. I had a massager in my truck that she found. First thing she asked is whether or not I’m gay. I can confidently say I’m not. I am all about women. Another man does nothing for me. It blows her mind that I could like stuff in my butt and not be gay. Needless to say this just doesn’t get talked about. I’ve tried and its a non-starter.
I will occasionally give myself a “massage” but thing is I spend majority of my time away from home. Oil field causes me to be gone more than I’m home. 28 days away and 14 at home. It sucks but it is what it is. I very much want to find a girl that will fuck me And vice versa with no strings attached. We have both cheated on each other once in past. It’s wrong but it turns me on.
I supposed I could turn to escort service or prostitute but I don’t really want disease or jail. I don’t drink much so hanging out at bar isn’t super appealing. I don’t want to put ad on plenty of fish or one of those that says looking for pegging partner. I don’t know what to do and don’t really have anyway to get this out so here I am.
This is first place I’m sharing this and I hope if you all say anything it’s not telling me I’m fucked up and a terrible person. It would not be that productive or helpful to me
Our backstory is pretty similar - wife isn't experimental, but been together a while and mostly happy and prostate massages are very fun. Also not attracted to other men in the least. The only thing that's different is that we haven't cheated on each other, though the opportunity has presented itself to me a few times.
I wish I could offer you better advice, but my method for now until I can figure out something else is a thrusting prostate massager. Some vibrate, some have heat, some have an electrical shock (hard pass for me, but no judging here). It's not like having a woman do it for you, but it gives a little bit of satisfaction. And if you find the right one, you can wear it all day!
Good luck and let me know if you come up with another solution!