I have two sons, both of whom live with me and my wife. The oldest (A) is 34 and works part time at the grocery store, helps quite a bit with rent, pays for the internet and a couple of streaming services. The youngest (J) is disabled, diagnosed as autistic and schizophrenic, is unable to work but draws disability and helps with chores around the house. Recently J switched from a long time medication that was heavily regulated, required a monthly blood test, was a pain in the ass to fill at the pharmacy, and on top of all that made him sleep 12 hours a day. The new medication was working beautifully. He was so lively, much more creative and happy and less anxious about things. But my wife sensed he was becoming manic, and she was right. He began having meltdowns. Basically, verbal demonstrations of anger, non-threatening. That was until last week. One day my wife took him to the dentist and after the appointment, the car wouldn't start. It appeared that squirrels had chewed at our wiring again. So my wife called AAA to tow the car and had to install Uber on her phone to get a ride. Already stressed by the situation, J was further stressed by the discussion of Putin and nuclear war on CNN on the dentist's office television. (I told my wife next time demand that they change it to cartoons or something like that.) J held it in until he and my wife got home, then he went off. He threw things, made irrational threats, and then came at my wife with a knife. Then he cut his own wrist (Superficial, but Jesus, you know?) This all happened while I was at work, and the following as it was related to me, that A came out of his room and asked J very gently what was wrong, and he proceeded to wash and disinfect J's arm as he sat and had a very quiet conversation with him. When I tried to thank A later for helping with his brother, he acted so matter of fact about it, like that's just how it's done. I know he's right, and yet J doesn't seem to react that way to me or to his Mom. I am proud of A, not just for the way he treats his brother but for the way he treats all people, and that is by not treating them differently if they happen to be disabled. Disclaimer: After a hard day assisting people at self-checkout, A has been known to say, "God, are these people all brain dead?" But that's just plain job stress and I find it hilarious.