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Fanta_C · **on:** May 26, 2011, 12:29:36 PM

Hi all.

First topic i've started, so here goes.

Am I the only one who has a tremendous amount of guilt over the thoughts and fantasies I have?

I'm a down to earth kind of guy and my life couldn't be happier, but my taboo fantasies do cause me to suffer with bouts of self guilt and depression.

I have never and never would act out my fantasies, but I do go to bed at night thinking that I am wrong and a bad dad for having the thoughts I do.

I have seen a psychotherapist a few years ago which was an education for me, but I didn't feel that I could tell her my darkest secrets, so I never really got the answers I required to get over this. (therefore probably wasting my money)

As hot as my fantasies make me feel, I do wish that I didn't have them.

Regards

Andy

*Sorry to bring the tone down

joan1984 · **Reply #1 on:** May 26, 2011, 02:16:37 PM

Andy, pleased you enjoy KB, and are willing to share your thoughts, fantasies with us here. Think of KB as your therapist, with a hand in her lap, or his lap, or your lap... lol

TinyDancer · **Reply #2 on:** May 26, 2011, 03:55:24 PM

501sGuy · **Reply #3 on:** May 26, 2011, 05:31:40 PM

I agree with you, fantasies can be very healthy! and as long as you can keep them in check and not let them control you then all is good!!

pablo · **Reply #4 on:** May 26, 2011, 05:50:44 PM

Tiny put it well. What has helped me is keeping in mind are a couple simple definitions. We all have desires..something we want to do, and we all have fantasies....things that we only dream about. It's important to keep each in their respective places to keep a good balance in our lives.

ezezsuzie · **Reply #5 on:** May 27, 2011, 12:19:31 AM

I have guilt too - but not about my fantasies...which all involve forced sex. I feel guilty about being such a tease - like it is all my fault - that I deserve it whether I like it or not - to be taken and used like a whore

theclown74 · **Reply #6 on:** May 27, 2011, 05:41:15 AM

That's the best thing you can do is to just enjoy your fantasies here in the KB forums and express yourself openly maybe with a story or two and leave it at that. If you don't want to act them out openly cause they are wrong then do it in a safe way that doesn't make you look bad or send you to prison or what have you. Take me, I enjoy reading stories about incest but I don't act them out openly, I'll read the stories here and just please myself long enough to enjoy that fantasy and I don't feel guilty later on cause I just masturbated to a taboo subject and not act it out and I feel guilt free!

Grm · **Reply #7 on:** May 27, 2011, 11:00:13 AM

OK, we all have sexual fantasies so whatever yours are there is no need to feel guilt, because the Pope has sexual fantasies as do every fire and brimstone preacher telling people they will go to hell. They are part of being human, the only problems occur when some individuals who have violent or abuse led fantasies move on to recreate them in real life.
I believe that being able to play out your fantasies in the safe environment of places like KB is beneficial and probably stops those with abuse or violent fantasies from enacting them in real life
So my advice is, keep on wanking its good for your prostate.

Elizabeth · **Reply #8 on:** May 27, 2011, 02:04:28 PM

All Of The Above Is Good Advice...
fantasy is just that fantasy (and you seem to recognize that fact).
KB is a great place for fantasy...(safety valve for the brain) and fun for us to read about.
You should do fine here...and like the gang said....WE ALL HAVE DARK FANTASY's.

Love,

Liz

watcher1 · **Reply #9 on:** May 27, 2011, 02:09:56 PM

Why we humans have two hands, eight fingers and two thumbs: to enjoy our fantasies safely.

RopeFiend · **Reply #10 on:** May 27, 2011, 05:26:08 PM

*I* have violent fantasies... they're perfectly all right as long as you have a willing adult partner. I've even acted a bunch of them out, but it's been a LONG time since I had a gal that wanted to play that way. Our only limits back then were "nothing visible with clothes on and nothing that takes more than a week to heal."

Do I feel guilty about it? Not a bit!

Even though it was very obviously taboo back in the '70s, there was a HUGE amount of proof in books, movies and TV that a *lot* of people enjoyed the fantasy, so I didn't feel bad about doing it behind closed doors. The only thing that made me uncomfortable was the daddy/daughter thing, and that solely because I have a strong reaction against pedophiles. Yet again, as long as it's adults acting it out, there's no issue there.

I wasn't raised Catholic, so 'guilt' was never a controlling force in my upbringing. My dad only had Playboy magazines (that he thought were hidden), so I could tell that my darker fantasies weren't mainstream. HER dad had a variety of bondage and S+M porn, so we knew it was acceptable to a smaller group of people. That gave us the green light to go hog wild. We did.

Fanta_C · **Reply #11 on:** May 28, 2011, 04:35:16 PM

Thanks for all the replies guys & girls. I truly apprieciate them

I think my biggest problem maybe that my taboo fantasies have only taken shape in the last few months, so I guess in time I will accept them and enjoy them without the guilt.

Chat soon.

Andy.

enchantedpagan012 · **Reply #12 on:** June 05, 2011, 02:51:07 PM

No reason to feel bad. Fantasises are just that something enjoyable to think about and often not something you would ever do. I have my own set that i enjoy with myself, but would never actually act out on.

Serviceman · **Reply #13 on:** June 06, 2011, 12:42:04 AM

HI FC;
I trust you will overlook my taking the liberty to send you a PM but your topic is one which struck a kindred thread in me and while there have been some good responses to your thread I've found in the past such replies sometimes tend to be frivolent if not downright insulting.
As a guy I share your uneasiness about my fantasies but as I see it, every human on the planet has them and often a vivid imagination. As one who underwent some basic psychological training in my career I am of the opinion fantasies are a mental safety valve to minimize the probability one acts on them. As for imagination, which are next door to fantasies, consider that all the fictional novels, movie scripts are all produced by humans, like ourselves, with rich imaginations. I think you are perfectly normal, like most of the rest of us. I would love to kneel before a young stud, the younger the better and suck him off until his ball are completely drained. Better still, service his buddies, say about 6 of them, and each of them fuck my ass while I suck whoever is ready.
Serviceman

breanna · **Reply #14 on:** June 07, 2011, 11:48:46 PM

Hiii FC

I'm not too sure if my opinion needs to be put into this after seeing some of the other members already doing it (and basically taking the words right out of my mouth

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But i agree with alot of it, if it is just fantasies that you are having, then it's not really a big deal. There is really no need to feel guilty over something that just seems appealing to you. I myself have fantasies lots and lots of times (and most of the time i can live those through my loving GF)

So maybe if you just find someone who can help you play out or live those fantasies then maybe that could help. Hope this advice helped you in just the teensiest tiniest bit

Hope you work it out!
Bre-Bree

MissBarbara · **Reply #15 on:** June 07, 2011, 11:59:57 PM

Isn't the "forbidden" nature of "guilty" fantasies the whole appeal and, ultimately, the reason why they are so amazingly arousing?

And the same holds true in real life, e.g. "This is so wrong, I shouldn't be doing this, I am so ashamed of myself, I...oh my fucking god do that again, and don't stop!

enchantedpagan012 · **Reply #16 on:** June 08, 2011, 12:41:10 AM

Quote from: MissBarbara on June 07, 2011, 11:59:57 PM

Isn't it the "forbidden" nature of "guilty" fantasies the whole appeal and, ultimately, the reason why they are so amazingly arousing?

Yes i think the taboo nature is really a big turn on. I remember years ago my friend told me about all kinds of fantasies she had over her brother yada yada...except when they did the deed...it just wasn't that good. Not that the sex wasn't....just the idea was now meh. The fantasy was great...the reality wasn't.

Fanta_C · **Reply #17 on:** June 09, 2011, 03:00:27 PM

thanks all.

I think the main reason I am having issues with this particular fantasy of mine, is because I don't feel that I can share it with my wife. So I think the guilt is probably because I am keeping something from her, not necessarily guilt from my actual thoughts.

We share many fantasies and have explored almost every possible kink in relation to sex. this is just one taboo fantasy that I have to live with by myself (and all you guys/girls of course).

FC

pablo · **Reply #18 on:** June 09, 2011, 07:08:11 PM

what fantasy is it that you can't share. I was surprised that my girlfriend loved rape and incest fantasies. Kind of took me by surprise, I'm not big into the rape ones, but I have enjoyed the domination/submissive part with her.

I think presentation is a big part of it. Asking her "Have you ever thought about...." may help break the ice.

Sharing with a loved one is a big turn on.

Fanta_C · **Reply #19 on:** June 10, 2011, 01:09:35 PM

Quote from: pablo on June 09, 2011, 07:08:11 PM

what fantasy is it that you can't share.

incest fantasies.

It would be a massive risk if I broached the subject, I believe. If ever the subject has cropped up on the Tv or in the newspapers, she has been disgusted by it, so i'm pretty confident that she wouldn't approve of my fantasies.

Guilt over fantasies..

TinyDancer

501sGuy

theclown74

Serviceman