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Sex => Sex talk => Topic started by: Lois on December 10, 2017, 07:58:23 PM

Title: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Lois on December 10, 2017, 07:58:23 PM
A mirror thread for males that have questions about the female experience.

Answer to first anticipated question:

My nipples get hard in response to the temperature, not sexual excitement.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 10, 2017, 08:18:32 PM
Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on December 10, 2017, 10:31:34 PM
The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Lois on December 11, 2017, 12:09:39 AM
Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 :emot_laughing:

 They might be a thing, but I've never noticed.  It's all just to small and in a hard place to see.

Next time I masturbate I'll try to check with a mirror.  But maybe you can just go down on your GF and check yourself?

I do know that like a penis, the clit gets very sensitive right after an orgasm.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Lois on December 11, 2017, 12:14:47 AM
The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

Every partner is different so it is really hard to say.  I have my best orgams when I'm totally relaxed and into it.  This means I'm non-verbal and quiet.  My best advice is to just ask the woman what she likes best.  Do not constantly ask her if she's cum or comment that she's cumming.  This will likely ensure she won't cum.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 11, 2017, 02:47:50 PM

Are “lady boners” a real thing?  What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  I sometimes wonder if a coworker might be suffering from a throbbing clit, looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

 :emot_laughing:


I might be over-generalizing, but I suspect the majority of women feel no such need, and can wait until they get home, with or without a partner.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 11, 2017, 03:40:02 PM
Are “lady boners” a real thing?  

Yes, they are a real thing.


What sort of circumstances or activities cause one?  

In my early 20's I might be making out with a guy and it would happen.  Or in anticipation of sex.  There were times I was just sitting at my desk.  Other times it might have come out of nowhere.  Or I could have been thinking of something.   I recall the first time it ever happened.  My sister and I were sunning in the backyard in our bathing suits.  It was really hot out.  I was actually drifting off to sleep and then I was like "wtf?"  I went inside to see what the heck was going on.  I was kind of scared.  My sister laughed when I told her in my "why tf did it do that" voice.  She said it never happened to her but she had one friend that it happened to all the time.  It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.  I recall it only happened when I was sitting still.  Never while moving or walking.  It happened with much less frequency in my mid-late 20's, but occasionally it did.

Over the last 14 years, it has and still does happen on a rare occasion (once or twice a year), but it is not like then.  I feel the swelling, but it doesn't extend outward.  It's wider but shorter to the size of a marble, but stays hidden away.  I need to move things to see it, where as before it would lengthen 3 times what it does now.  I ignore it and it goes away.  The thing that is different now than back then is I can feel it pulse with my heartbeat.  It's just a very very light ping.  It also goes away very quickly, 2 to 3 minutes.  Probably because I put it out of my mind.  If I think about it it might last a bit longer.  

Only once did it happen and not go away quickly.  It was about an hour.   I was 15 minutes into a very boring meeting.  *ping* *ping* *ping* and the ping grew to many times what it started out.  But not something that would make me have a moment.   The one thing I remember about that day that is my butt cheeks had fallen asleep, not sure if that had anything to do with it.  Just a weird thing all around.  


......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 11, 2017, 03:51:38 PM

It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.

......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.


  :emot_thdrool: :emot_thdrool: :emot_thdrool:

I want to run to the boys room now... LOL.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 12, 2017, 04:45:26 AM
The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners?

As Lois said, every partner is different.  

A sure thing for me is clitoral stimulation.  It's not a race.  So take your time.  The most important thing about clitoral stimulation is lubrication.  It is very sensitive and a dry finger will hurt.   Don't use too much pressure.   Just a light touch should do the trick.  Don't give it 100% of your attention.   Don't keep repeating the same movements.  Switch things up. There are other places to touch that feels good too, plus those other places will take care of lubricating the tip of your finger.  
If using your tongue, don't press too hard.  Just use the tip of your tongue and occasionaly use the whole flat of your tongue.  Suck it and blow on it gently.  Pretend it's a joystick and push it left, then right, then up, then down....be gentle.
  
With my current boyfriend he might be further along than I am.  If he's close to orgasm I ask him to pull out.   He kneels in front of me and I take him in my hand and touch myself with his penis, rubbing his head against my clitoris the way I like.  He REALLY enjoys watching me doing this to myself using his penis.   And then when I'm close, I tell him to get inside me so we'll orgasm close to the same time.     Or, you can pull out and hold yourself in your hand and rub your head around against her clitoris. It works both ways.   It gives you a minute to relax and delay the arrival of your orgasm until she's about ready.  If it gets dry, dip inside her for a moment.   Or drool some saliva in your hand and wipe it on the head of your penis.  Saliva is a great lubricant.

There are other ways to get your partner to her happy spot.  Just read her signals she's giving off.  A moan means you're doing something good, a quiver also.  If she's not giving off signals, do as Lois suggests, just ask her.    But take your time and don't rush it.


And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?
From my knowledge on the subject, very few can, most can't.
I had a minor discharge one time.  Not sure I'd call it a 'squirt'.
Here is a link you can visit regarding squirters.
http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=575.0
and here http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=440.0

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 12, 2017, 04:05:09 PM
How a friend described it (and made me very horny too)...

(https://i.imgur.com/Tc4ygH3.jpg)
(https://i.imgur.com/wXLX9uG.jpg)
(https://i.imgur.com/4CFYgMk.jpg)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on December 19, 2017, 02:55:21 AM
What is your attitude towards semen? Does the idea of being "cum upon" have an intrinsic pleasure for you? Do you like to eat or, or do you do it because it pleases your partner, or not at all?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 19, 2017, 03:11:47 PM
What is your attitude towards semen? Does the idea of being "cum upon" have an intrinsic pleasure for you? Do you like to eat or, or do you do it because it pleases your partner, or not at all?

You'll get a different answer from every woman.
I'll answer from my perspective.

As for being cum upon......There is absolutely no pleasure to me, but I know it is a pleasure to my boyfriend.   I have never minded it with him or any other of my boyfriends.  The one big no no is ejaculating on my face.   When I first joined KB, I asked a bit about it here... http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=28133.0  
Most of the guys after being told they're not giving me a facial have settled for ejaculating on my boobs.  One boyfriend in my 20's told me to spread it around my boobs.  Ok, whatever, he liked it.  So, when I would do that with future boyfriends they all loved it and would tell me how hot it was.  That's why I did it.  Really though, it does nothing for me making the mess even messier.  hahaha  My current boyfriend freaking loves me to do it.  I act like I love playing with my boobs while making them and my hands a sticky gooey mess, when really....No, I don't.  I just want to get to the bathroom to clean up.  

Do I like to eat it?  I will answer similarly to above.  My boyfriend likes it, so I will do it.  The only joy I get out of it is seeing him get joy out of it.  Pretty much every guy that I have performed oral sex enjoys having their moment in my mouth.  At no time in my life have I ever uttered the words, "Oh my gosh, I love swallowing your semen."
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 19, 2017, 03:56:07 PM
At no time in my life have I ever *not* uttered the words, "Oh my gosh, I love swallowing your cunt juice." 

 ;D ;D ;D

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: KitKat on December 19, 2017, 04:39:55 PM
Why do women hate each other so much?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Gina Marie on December 19, 2017, 04:44:19 PM
The perfect female orgasm: what tips can you suggest to males to achieve one out of their female partners? And can girls "squirt" from these orgasms?

Here ya go... Lots of information!

http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=440.0
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sensualtravler on December 19, 2017, 08:19:08 PM
Are “lady boners” a real thing? 

Yes, they are a real thing.


What sort of circumstances or activities cause one? 

In my early 20's I might be making out with a guy and it would happen.  Or in anticipation of sex.  There were times I was just sitting at my desk.  Other times it might have come out of nowhere.  Or I could have been thinking of something.   I recall the first time it ever happened.  My sister and I were sunning in the backyard in our bathing suits.  It was really hot out.  I was actually drifting off to sleep and then I was like "wtf?"  I went inside to see what the heck was going on.  I was kind of scared.  My sister laughed when I told her in my "why tf did it do that" voice.  She said it never happened to her but she had one friend that it happened to all the time.  It would swell to just barely peek out from between the labia.  I recall it only happened when I was sitting still.  Never while moving or walking.  It happened with much less frequency in my mid-late 20's, but occasionally it did.

Over the last 14 years, it has and still does happen on a rare occasion (once or twice a year), but it is not like then.  I feel the swelling, but it doesn't extend outward.  It's wider but shorter to the size of a marble, but stays hidden away.  I need to move things to see it, where as before it would lengthen 3 times what it does now.  I ignore it and it goes away.  The thing that is different now than back then is I can feel it pulse with my heartbeat.  It's just a very very light ping.  It also goes away very quickly, 2 to 3 minutes.  Probably because I put it out of my mind.  If I think about it it might last a bit longer. 

Only once did it happen and not go away quickly.  It was about an hour.   I was 15 minutes into a very boring meeting.  *ping* *ping* *ping* and the ping grew to many times what it started out.  But not something that would make me have a moment.   The one thing I remember about that day that is my butt cheeks had fallen asleep, not sure if that had anything to do with it.  Just a weird thing all around. 


......looking for an excuse to hit the restrooms and rub one out.

Nope.  Never felt the need to take care of it.





Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 19, 2017, 08:43:29 PM
Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.
I don't get that feeling.  It happens and I go on with my day.
Just like when my nipples may harden for some reason.  I don't feel the need to start playing with them. 

But to your comment, when I do feel the urge to masturbate, I don't require anything better.  I have no issue getting to my happy place with my fingers, my vibrators or any other toys in my drawer.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on December 19, 2017, 10:04:20 PM
Try a better vibrator. ~ grin~

Men are from Mars.
Women are from Venus.
Guys feel the need to take care of their swelling problem.


Not really, if we did every time we’d get nothing done and probably wear the skin off.

Not sure how to put this, but we save things in our heads (like that girl that bent over to tie her shoe in Walmart) or have a specific accompaniment in mind such as a porn vid, a pic even a story to read.  We create scenarios with the images, either in our head or real images.

I’m not convinced it’s that much different for men except we tend to be more visual, more likely to use porn.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 19, 2017, 10:08:33 PM
Or nipples hardening for some reason...   ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Levorotatory on December 20, 2017, 09:16:07 PM
My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on December 21, 2017, 01:59:51 AM
While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 21, 2017, 02:53:10 PM

My question is about desire and the menstrual cycle.  Are you horniest around ovulation?  How about period sex - hot except for the mess or just not into it?


Every woman's different, but for me, the menstruation period is an "don't even think of going there" times.

If I were to graph my monthly horniness, the peak would be immediately after my period ends.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 21, 2017, 03:02:08 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
  ;)





 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on December 21, 2017, 10:11:23 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
  ;)





 

Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: mnfredmd on December 21, 2017, 11:35:00 PM
I asked this question a few years ago and got some nice answers. Since it's been a while, we've had some turnover. Let's see if we get any different replies this time.

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Can you Compare?
« on: April 29, 2014, 12:50:24 PM »
   
Hope this isn't too lame but I think its a question that only a female who ENJOYS anal can answer. Once a woman is accustom to anal and enjoys it, does she get a different feeling being penetrated anally than when she is penetrated vaginally. If the feelings are very similar can we then say that a man could identify with a woman's feeling of vaginal sex if he received anal sex. Is it very similar or very different?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 22, 2017, 06:35:42 AM
(https://i.imgur.com/CHSvPvk.gif)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 22, 2017, 02:55:33 PM

While we're on the subjects of genital fluids, what is your attitude towards your own? I've encountered everything from "needs me to wash off immediately to avoid coming into contact with its taste and smell" to "loves me to feed it to her off my fingers."

And how literal is "I'm getting wet" as an expression of arousal?


You probably don't need this biology lesson, but when a woman becomes aroused, her body produces a natural lubricant, for obvious reasons. That's why, for many women, foreplay is both a psychological desire and a biological necessity.

Thus, "I'm getting wet" is an apt description of arousal, since arousal produces these natural lubricating fluids. "I'm getting wet" is also a really bad cliche featured in most bad porn movies, but that's neither here nor there.

I'd suspect that at one point or another, every woman has "tasted herself." And, of course, every solicitous man has "tasted" a woman. (It's par for the course for lesbians.)

The quantity, viscosity, thickness, etc. of vaginal secretions very from woman to woman. Some women produce a lot, some women produce a little, and women some do not produce enough for comfortable vaginal intercourse, thus the availability of artificial lubricants.

Wow, I'm getting a little wet just thinking about this topic...
  ;)


Yeah, I think I would have a hard time typing out a few paragraphs about the experience of having an erection without one kicking in...

The last part of that question, I was just wondering how reliably the early stages of arousal manifest for different women through noticeable wetness vs. other somatic responses (nipples stiffening, etc.).



Again, I'm trying hard not to generalize from personal experiences alone, but while men have a clear, obvious, and unmistakable physical manifestation of arousal, with women it's not as clear cut (or uncut ;)). 

As Lois indicated in the OP of this thread, nipples are not little penises, so their hardening is often not in direct response to sexual arousal, especially sexual arousal engendered by thoughts. Though this is a staple of bad porn movies and amateurish erotic fiction, in reality, as Lois indicates, temperature has more effect than erotic arousal. And the same goes for "lady boners," i.e. clitoral engorgement.

Now, a woman's nipples do not harden, and her clitoris does become engorged, in response to direct stimulation. Anyone who has ever made love with a woman can attest to that. But it's not a somatic response to arousal as much as it a physical response to erotic contact. 




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jbird4 on December 22, 2017, 05:28:45 PM
This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 22, 2017, 05:34:15 PM

I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.


I had similar thoughts, but decided a hairbrush handle in my ass was great for after school jackoff sessions in the bathroom.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 22, 2017, 06:01:36 PM

This is a silly question but one that I’ve always wondered about.

To this day to a degree, but especially when I was a horny young person learning about sex, I would see any number of ordinary objects that were remotely phallic and wonder what it would be like to use them to masturbate a girl.  Anything from the obvious cucumbers to hairbrush handles to the less obvious things like the old returnable pop bottles.  It’s probably a function of how often guys masturbate, but I had the thought a million times that if I were a girl I’d do it with everything.

So do girls have those same thoughts about phallic objects?



That questing isn't silly at all. In fact, that's why I love these two threads, because men and women can get honest and real information, and feel comfortable asking genuine questions like yours.

Again, not wishing to generalize from one girl's experience, I've never even once seen an object and thought that'd be great to use next time I masturbate.

I think a lot of younger women (she says, avoiding a specific age...) have experimented with objects, especially vaguely penis-shaped objects like hairbrush and electric toothbrush handles. And, of course, most of these "younger women" do not have access to sex toys to use in their stead. But I think, in most cases, since these women have not yet engaged in intercourse, they're chiefly trying to simulate what it would feel like to have an actual penis inside them.

Keep in mind, as you likely know, that vaginal penetration, like typical intercourse, does not directly stimulate the clitoris. Yes, women can and do have orgasms through vaginal stimulation only, but in these acts of youthful experimentation, the women aren't as physically sophisticated and experienced enough to achieve vaginal orgasms, and clitoral stimulation proves much more effective.

Plus, there's the fact that God gave us fingers for a reason...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on December 30, 2017, 02:22:58 AM
Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitorial included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 30, 2017, 06:37:27 PM

Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitoral included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?


My disappointment would be 0/10.

Other women should chime in here, but for me, penetration, especially deep penetration, isn't a necessity when masturbating. And I suspect I'm in the norm. The videos you see of a woman masturbating by plunging something deep inside her appeal to men, and not, in general, to women.

Even vibrating dildos are chiefly used for external stimulation. The clitoris is like the head of a penis x 50.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on December 31, 2017, 02:19:27 AM

Out of curiosity: in this scenario, you can no longer experience vaginal penetration of any sort (fingers included), but all other forms of stimulation (clitoral included) are still available to you. How disappointed are you, on a scale of 1/10?


My disappointment would be 0/10.

Other women should chime in here, but for me, penetration, especially deep penetration, isn't a necessity when masturbating. And I suspect I'm in the norm. The videos you see of a woman masturbating by plunging something deep inside her appeal to men, and not, in general, to women.

Even vibrating dildos are chiefly used for external stimulation. The clitoris is like the head of a penis x 50.





So, if a guy were to buy a dildo or vibe for their female significant other (personal tastes aside for the purpose of this hypothetical), you'd be more inclined to recommend a clit stimulator, or a vibe with a clit stim, than a straight up dildo?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on December 31, 2017, 07:18:29 AM
That works for me!
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on January 03, 2018, 11:49:04 PM
What is your favourite and least favourite slang term for female genitals?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 04, 2018, 12:55:08 AM
What is your favourite and least favourite slang term for female genitals?

Favorite:  Vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris, hoo-hoo.  

Least favorite:  Pretty much every slang term.  I don't even like the shortening of the word clitoris to 'clit'.

But during sexual play he does like when I talk dirty so I will on occasion drop the P word.  The C word, UGH!  HATE IT!
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on January 05, 2018, 01:08:07 PM
Okay, the hand on the back of the head during blowjobs: do you like it or not? Why/why not?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 05, 2018, 02:29:50 PM

Resting a hand there is okay.  When he's laying on his back, he will lightly place a hand while running his fingers through my hair.   I actually like that.  He said it's he's petting me for doing a good job.   But I don't think that's what you mean.

For me, a hand on the head is okay, but not with force.  Giving a little extra push to the back of the head is a definite no-no that results in a quick ending to it.  It is for me to determine how far it will go in.
A boyfriend in my early 20's would use force on the back of my head.  I hated it, but never fought him about it.  I was inexperienced in orally pleasing a guy, he was my first.  I allowed it because as he put it, he was "teaching me how to give a bj correctly".  I never allowed anyone else to do that to me after him.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on January 05, 2018, 03:52:26 PM

Resting a hand there is okay.  When he's laying on his back, he will lightly place a hand while running his fingers through my hair.   I actually like that.  He said it's he's petting me for doing a good job.   But I don't think that's what you mean.

For me, a hand on the head is okay, but not with force.  Giving a little extra push to the back of the head is a definite no-no that results in a quick ending to it.  It is for me to determine how far it will go in.
A boyfriend in my early 20's would use force on the back of my head.  I hated it, but never fought him about it.  I was inexperienced in orally pleasing a guy, he was my first.  I allowed it because as he put it, he was "teaching me how to give a bj correctly".  I never allowed anyone else to do that to me after him.



I think the answer depends on the girl to what level, if any, force is used.  In talking to many girls, some have told me how much they hate that while others have said they love it.  The problem is when guys do what they want regardless.  My late wife was very accepting of me being forceful; she wasn’t necessarily into it, she did it for me knowing how much I liked it.

I’m curious if more girls would answer this and if we’d get a variety of responses?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: KitKat on January 05, 2018, 04:14:24 PM
Every female likes different things.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on January 05, 2018, 05:01:23 PM
Every female likes different things.

Yes, and this thread only makes sense if we're taking the attitude that we're asking specific women for their specific opinions.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on January 05, 2018, 05:55:43 PM

Every female likes different things.


Yes, and this thread only makes sense if we're taking the attitude that we're asking specific women for their specific opinions.


I agree.

However, please be careful not to generalize from the answers of a small group of women here to all women in general.

And do keep in mind that most of the women you'll meet here are pervs and weirdos, pretty much by definition...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: KitKat on January 05, 2018, 05:59:08 PM


...do keep in mind that most of the women you'll meet here are pervs and weirdos, pretty much by definition...




So true.  :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on January 06, 2018, 04:43:16 PM

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Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on January 07, 2018, 01:10:35 AM
I can do a better job when they don't. They can abuse their fleshlight  if they need.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on January 07, 2018, 03:41:35 AM
In your experience, is there a functional (as opposed to aesthetic) difference between circumcised and uncircumcised penises?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 08, 2018, 05:38:53 PM
In your experience, is there a functional (as opposed to aesthetic) difference between circumcised and uncircumcised penises?

I can't answer because I've never been with a guy that was uncircumcised.   My best guess would be to say 'no' though.  Women have different levels of sensitivity, so maybe some can and possibly take enjoyment from it.  Up until I was 30 I could ever so slightly feel if the base of the head was much bigger than the diameter of the shaft, but there was no additional pleasure given from it.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on January 08, 2018, 06:30:30 PM

In your experience, is there a functional (as opposed to aesthetic) difference between circumcised and uncircumcised penises?


I can't find it right now, but there's a thread here that discusses this in detail, with many good thoughts and opinions.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: mnfredmd on January 26, 2018, 07:06:28 PM
If you’ve ever watched “The Masters of Sex’ on TV based on the Masters and Johnson studies from the ‘60ies,  you may have noticed that all the guys on there seem to use the same technique for vaginal penetration (the director thinks it's hot, I guess). Once they are in, they withdraw very slowly and then really ram it back in (repeat as often as desired). What do you ladies think of this technique? Too rough? Distracting? Just right? Wife doesn’t want to commit to an answer, maybe someone on here can help?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 26, 2018, 07:38:43 PM
If you’ve ever watched “The Masters of Sex’ on TV based on the Masters and Johnson studies from the ‘60ies,  you may have noticed that all the guys on there seem to use the same technique for vaginal penetration (the director thinks it's hot, I guess). Once they are in, they withdraw very slowly and then really ram it back in (repeat as often as desired). What do you ladies think of this technique? Too rough? Distracting? Just right? Wife doesn’t want to commit to an answer, maybe someone on here can help?


I really can't speak on the show because I've never watched it.   But, as you say, it must have something to do with the director directing because not all guys are alike, just as not all women are alike.  So it's sort of odd they would all follow the same script during sex scenes.  

Are they trying to portray it in a manner that he's trying to hurt her, or that he's 'ramming it to her' to show the bitch his power?  If I were to watch the show I'd be indifferent to any technique.  Watching or reading porn doesn't do anything for me.  Observing it on the show, I'd likely not even pay that much attention to it.  It's my own thoughts and desires, or my partners that I care about.  

I think any technique would depend on the time, the place, the person, the frame of mind of both individuals.  We all like different things.  But we all also like things switched up a little.  One time I might like it like you described, another not.  I've told my man to change the tempo before.  I might not like it a certain way at that time, but I always say it in a way to make him enjoy it more.  Sometimes I like it faster.  Sometimes slower.  Sometimes deeper.......or harder so that our pelvises slam together.  Sometimes just short little jabs where it might only be a couple of inches.   It all depends.  You have to figure it out as it's happening.

Thanks for the question.   Thanks for participating to KB.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: KitKat on February 01, 2018, 09:07:08 PM
Nevermind.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on February 02, 2018, 07:02:23 PM

When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it?

I mean, comparing with and without a condom, can you sense his ejaculate entering you?

And if you can feel it, Is it a pleasant or erotic feeling?





Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: KitKat on February 02, 2018, 07:55:25 PM

When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it?

I mean, comparing with and without a condom, can you sense his ejaculate entering you?

And if you can feel it, Is it a pleasant or erotic feeling?







Yes, yes, and yes.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on February 02, 2018, 09:51:50 PM

When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it?

I mean, comparing with and without a condom, can you sense his ejaculate entering you?

And if you can feel it, Is it a pleasant or erotic feeling?



When I was younger I could always feel it.  It was usually younger guys, so I think it was more of a stronger ejaculation, or more pressure on his release.  I could always feel there was a warm gooey feeling spreading a bit inside of me.  But that feeling was over with in 10 secondsish as it reached my own body temperature quickly.

With a condom, I could never feel a thing.  I only knew when he had by his facial and bodily actions.

After 25 years of sex, it doesn't feel the same.  I might feel pressure at that moment, but don't feel the warm gooey sensation I mentioned in my earlier days.  My guy also doesn't orgasm with a lot of pressure behind it.  Nor has anyone in the last 10 years or so.  It also might have to do with my senses....seeing his face and his body react along with the noises he's making.....That has most of my attention and I'm not paying any mind to trying to feel him cum inside me.  Or I just blank it out because the feeling isn't that big of a deal.  Plus my own feelings and things going on with my mind and body pretty much overrides that he just made a deposit.    

I'll try and pay closer attention next time and report back to you.  If I remember in the heat of the moment. ;)  

When you ask Is it pleasant or erotic?    
The actual presence of sperm in my vagina, no.
That I made him feel so good that he ejaculated inside me, yes.


Now, if you want to ask about performing oral sex on him, you might get a different answer.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on February 03, 2018, 05:15:01 AM

When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it?

I mean, comparing with and without a condom, can you sense his ejaculate entering you?

And if you can feel it, Is it a pleasant or erotic feeling?

I now feel kind of bad for not asking, because this question has sat on my curiosity for a long while.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Colin Piper on February 07, 2018, 11:38:39 AM
Two questions in one go, indulge me why don'tcha...

You ever:

1. Been tempted to or fantasized about asking a hot guy if you could suck him off, because maybe he was out of your league or in a relationship, but what guy is going to turn down an offer like that?

2. Been in a long-term relationship but would immediately fuck a guy you have the hots for (maybe the partner of a friend?) if he asked you and there was a good chance no one would find out?

Hell, maybe you've even done it.

Obviously this is me fantasizing about yummy mummies I know, in reverse, wondering if they feel the same way...


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on February 07, 2018, 02:23:49 PM
In a word, no. But that is me.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on February 07, 2018, 03:04:24 PM
Two questions in one go, indulge me why don'tcha...

You ever:

1. Been tempted to or fantasized about asking a hot guy if you could suck him off, because maybe he was out of your league or in a relationship, but what guy is going to turn down an offer like that?

2. Been in a long-term relationship but would immediately fuck a guy you have the hots for (maybe the partner of a friend?) if he asked you and there was a good chance no one would find out?



1-
Been tempted to ask a guy?  No, never.  I've only wanted to perform oral sex with a guy I was in love with.   That's not to say I haven't done it to a guy I wasn't in love with, but not to completion.

2-
Yes.  Mark and I call it our 'list', and if given the opportunity, the other partner would allow it without repercussion. 

My list contains
Tom Brady, Steve Yzerman, Ryan Gosling, Hugh Jackman, Matthew McConaughey

But, no, nobody else.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on February 18, 2018, 04:19:39 PM

And do keep in mind that most of the women you'll meet here are pervs and weirdos, pretty much by definition...



That pretty much sums up why I frequent places like this.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on February 18, 2018, 05:36:41 PM

When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it?

I mean, comparing with and without a condom, can you sense his ejaculate entering you?

And if you can feel it, Is it a pleasant or erotic feeling?



When I was younger I could always feel it.  It was usually younger guys, so I think it was more of a stronger ejaculation, or more pressure on his release.  I could always feel there was a warm gooey feeling spreading a bit inside of me.  But that feeling was over with in 10 secondsish as it reached my own body temperature quickly.

With a condom, I could never feel a thing.  I only knew when he had by his facial and bodily actions.

After 25 years of sex, it doesn't feel the same.  I might feel pressure at that moment, but don't feel the warm gooey sensation I mentioned in my earlier days.  My guy also doesn't orgasm with a lot of pressure behind it.  Nor has anyone in the last 10 years or so.  It also might have to do with my senses....seeing his face and his body react along with the noises he's making.....That has most of my attention and I'm not paying any mind to trying to feel him cum inside me.  Or I just blank it out because the feeling isn't that big of a deal.  Plus my own feelings and things going on with my mind and body pretty much overrides that he just made a deposit.    

I'll try and pay closer attention next time and report back to you.  If I remember in the heat of the moment. ;)  

When you ask Is it pleasant or erotic?    
The actual presence of sperm in my vagina, no.
That I made him feel so good that he ejaculated inside me, yes.


Now, if you want to ask about performing oral sex on him, you might get a different answer.

I’ve been told she could feel it, so I always assumed girls could most times.  Perhaps now that I’m older, maybe not so much.

In writing stories I frequently write from the girl’s POV.  And on this topic I’d say something like, ‘and then he stiffened on top of me, and I could feel his hateful slimy wetness spreading inside me’.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: josh112480 on February 19, 2018, 05:27:17 PM
Question for the women that have done it: Why do women fake orgasm's instead of telling their partner what they're doing wrong?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on February 19, 2018, 05:43:20 PM
Question for the women that have done it: Why do women fake orgasm's instead of telling their partner what they're doing wrong?

Because they’re just glad it’s *over* and they don’t have to be a sex mattress for your sweaty humping, until the next time?   :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: JBRG on February 20, 2018, 06:12:21 PM
Question for the women that have done it: Why do women fake orgasm's instead of telling their partner what they're doing wrong?

Mrs JBRG last faked an orgasm about 15 Year’s ago. When she told me that she had, I was hurt. Apparently she felt she needed to in order to “enhance my sexual ego”. We came to an understanding that it was okay if she didn’t cum and that we would be honest about that. I try to get her there but understand that it’s not going to happen every time. We are both good with that.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on February 20, 2018, 06:37:30 PM

We came to an understanding that it was okay if she didn’t cum and that we would be honest about that. I try to get her there but understand that it’s not going to happen every time. We are both good with that.


Sounds like a job for Dr. Weismueller...  :emot_laughing:

(http://wittyhilarious.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/tumblr_nucjlj7NHc1u8ff09o1_1280.jpg)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on February 20, 2018, 10:33:12 PM

Question for the women that have done it: Why do women fake orgasm's instead of telling their partner what they're doing wrong?


Because they’re just glad it’s *over* and they don’t have to be a sex mattress for your sweaty humping, until the next time?   :emot_laughing:


N.B. "Ask a FEMALE a question"...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on February 20, 2018, 10:35:21 PM

Question for the women that have done it: Why do women fake orgasm's instead of telling their partner what they're doing wrong?


Because they’re just glad it’s *over* and they don’t have to be a sex mattress for your sweaty humping, until the next time?   :emot_laughing:


N.B. "Ask a FEMALE a question"...



Please.  We are waiting with baited breath!  LOL.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Killer Moth on April 24, 2018, 07:29:46 PM
Is licking your own nipples, if feasible mechanically, at all pleasurable?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on April 24, 2018, 07:46:41 PM
Is licking your own nipples, if feasible mechanically, at all pleasurable?

Not really.  Just like rubbing my own nipples isn't.  When I do it to myself it just isn't the same as having someone else doing it to me.   I only do those two things to myself for my partners enjoyment, because I know he gets off watching.  
And though I can get my nipple to my mouth, it is very uncomfortable.  Mostly due to my neck craning forward.  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on April 25, 2018, 08:17:31 PM
I love questions like this!  (And it's counterpart here.)  I've been splitting my attention between here, and Literotica, where they have them more divided to specific question threads.  (The 2 I remember are what's it feel like with a dick in your ass, or sucking a dick.)

It really helps writers, to get a perspective.  Male writers writing female narratives, and female writers writing a male narrative.  As much as these questions can be answered.  What's a period feel like?  What's an erection feel like?  (Pressure.  in a word, i'm going to have to say pressure.  i can't answer the first one, having never experienced a menarche.)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on August 17, 2018, 06:09:18 AM

Moderator note:  The following was originally posted in response to a story titled "My Boyfriend Likes To Expose Me" which can be found here http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=63737.0



Okay, at the risk of revealing my ignorance about the female body, I have to ask two questions.

1) Is it physically possible for a woman to have 70 orgasms in one day or is that literary license?

2) Can a woman be trained/forced to have an orgasm just by hearing a particular word spoken aloud?

Please be kind with your answers. I'm a guy who didn't even know what a clitoris was until I was in my 40s and by then it was too late.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Littlebit on August 17, 2018, 06:54:38 PM

Okay, at the risk of revealing my ignorance about the female body, I have to ask two questions.

1) Is it physically possible for a woman to have 70 orgasms in one day or is that literary license?

2) Can a woman be trained/forced to have an orgasm just by hearing a particular word spoken aloud?

Please be kind with your answers. I'm a guy who didn't even know what a clitoris was until I was in my 40s and by then it was too late.

I don't think that your ignorant.  While reading this story I had the same questions.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on August 18, 2018, 01:48:47 AM
I don't think that your ignorant.  While reading this story I had the same questions.

Thanks for chiming in Littlebit. That makes me feel better. Hopefully someone will provide an answer.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on August 18, 2018, 03:35:28 AM

1) Is it physically possible for a woman to have 70 orgasms in one day or is that literary license?

I didn't read the story so I didn't see how the 70 O's were achieved.  
Some women will have an 'aftershock' about a minute after the initial O.  And maybe another after that.
It has happened to me many times.   I've had another 'real' O about 10 minutes after, with some more aftershocks.  So that would have been about 6 in 20 minutes, but really, there were only 2.  At least to me anyways.  
But even if I did count it as 6 in 20 minutes, there is no way I could keep that up for say (70 divided by 6 = 11 more sessions like that.  Times 20 minutes.  11 x 20=220 minutes divided by 60, carry the 1. )  3 hours 41 minutes of stimulation.   Things start getting sore or uncomfortable after a time.  Ouch, not me.  So that was my long answer.
Short answer is no.  Well, very unlikely.



2) Can a woman be trained/forced to have an orgasm just by hearing a particular word spoken aloud?

No.   Well, highly doubtful.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on August 18, 2018, 04:27:45 AM
The answer to number 2 is as was stated, no. That is a myth. Anyone who has had real experience in BDSM can tell you as much. The Wannabe Doms are the people who subscribe to that. Reality is that without some sort of physical stimulation, orgasm is not likely.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on August 18, 2018, 10:08:32 AM
1) Is it physically possible for a woman to have 70 orgasms in one day or is that literary license?
...there is no way I could keep that up for say (70 divided by 6 = 11 more sessions like that.  Times 20 minutes.  11 x 20=220 minutes divided by 60, carry the 1. )  3 hours 41 minutes of stimulation.   Things start getting sore or uncomfortable after a time.

70 is a lot, an unreasonable number there, but let's run the equation top-down.  Assuming 24 hours, that's an O every 20 minutes on average.  Which sounds exhausting, and also begs the question of "How?"  Senisitivity also starts to drop-off after a while, the nerve endings just get saturated, and numb.  Which would probably mean a slow steady escalation in the stimuli, and some way to cleanse the nerve endings of neurotransmitters.  (I'm not sure how I would go about that, either.  Not a neurochemist.) 

So, basically still impossibly high, even under prefect conditions.  A woman on a hair trigger, multiple (Overlapping) climaxes, and some form of stimulation that doesn't leave her raw.  Just for comparison, the record I've seen was 9.  Total orgasms, it took about 5 hours, and she passed out for about 36 after that (Assuming she has to be Conscious to actually experience all 70)  Even then, she said that the climaxes became progressively less intense, to the point that she could barely feel them, and this was with BDSM.  (3 masters, tagging out)

Just going for the long answer here, and checking your work.  The answer is still a resounding no.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on August 19, 2018, 02:45:34 PM

Thanks MintJulie for moving this to the correct forum. I hadn't even found this forum yet. Still exploring.

Vanessa's story is 31 parts (so far) and 450,000 words and I'm only through part 27 but the more I read the more I think it's closer to the realm of fantasy than reality. For example, a 5-star hotel where nudity is permitted in any/all public areas? A gym where membership is free to females if they work out in the nude?

The 70 O part was supposedly achieved during a full day at the beach. Tanya, the character, has a remote controlled variable speed vibrating egg inside her (which her partner controls most of the time) as well as a permanent clit ring (also variable and remote controlled).

In the story Tanya trains herself (at her lover's request) to climax every time she hears the word 'treadmill' and most everyone she knows is aware of it. It does make for some amusing situations.

Thank you all for your perspective. You basically confirmed what my common sense told me, especially about the diminishing sensitivity and soreness than would ensue after a given amount of stimulation.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on August 19, 2018, 06:47:39 PM
I think it's closer to the realm of fantasy than reality...

Which is the vast majority of the stories in these archives.  Nothing wrong with that, it's pretty much what people come here to read.  Why we have disclaimers, for those readers that can't differentiate fantasy (For instance, a "willing" 6yo daughter) and Reality.  It doesn't go without saying, because there are some real crazies out there, looking for validation.

I didn't really see anything dangerous or abusive in Vanessa's experiences.  Just some that strained suspension of disbelief.  The setting, nudist hotels where public sex is allowed on the premises, isn't one of them.  I've been to such places, and worked at them.  They're rare (And everyone doesn't look like a model) and tend to be exclusive.  Again, to keep the dangerous crazies out.

I like the gym where ladies work out in the nude.  I haven't heard of one personally, however it could be set up with assurances like Security, and a staff of female Personal Trainers that lead by example.  As an ex-body builder, let me say that working out in the nude is effective, cooler, and also easier to see what you're doing in the mirror.  However, most equipment has that vile vinyl covering, so you want to put a towel down for the sweat.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on September 13, 2018, 12:41:44 PM

I read an intriguing post on Instagram yesterday afternoon and almost immediately thought, I need to ask a female about this.

Here's what the post said:

Sometimes a girl just needs to bend over and get banged like a screen door in a hurricane.

So is that hyperbole? An expression of sexual frustration? Just smart ass humor?

I've always believed that women are better at coping with long sexual droughts than men, but maybe not.

Any insights for a clueless old man?

Thanks,
Remmy
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 13, 2018, 01:21:30 PM

Sometimes a girl just needs to bend over and get banged like a screen door in a hurricane.

So is that hyperbole? An expression of sexual frustration? Just smart ass humor?


Yes.  Yes.  Yes.

Many years ago, most especially with my fiancee 18 years ago, there were times I'd be at work thinking about him, that would lead to possibly thinking how much I cared for him, which would lead to a pleasant experience we'd share, which would lead to the last time we had sex, which would lead to looking forward to sex the next time I'd see him.   In some situations that urge would build and that was all that was on my mind.   Sometimes, I'd actually work myself up into a frenzy as the time went on.  

In many of those cases I wouldn't imagine slow, intimate, tender, emotional sex next I saw him.  I'd imagine things like him bending me over the back of he couch, flipping my skirt up, tearing my underwear off, and doing things that would cause me scream in joy at the top of my lungs.

It happened with much more frequency in my 20's as opposed to my mid-40's, but my libido can still kick in at times.  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on September 14, 2018, 02:19:40 PM
It's me again. I have another question for any and all female persons.

Here's the back story. I was sitting in a coffee shop and there were two young women at the table next to me. It was impossible not to hear their conversation.

One told the other that she now owned 104 pairs of shoes. I think my eyes bugged out a little. I myself own 3 pairs of shoes, including a pair of sandals that I haven't worn for three years.

They continued talking about shoes including what I assume were brand names like Jimmy Chew (Choo?) and Mansolo or something like that. I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but from what I was hearing, I don't think you would find the shoes they were talking about at your local Wal-mart.

I've never owned a pair of brand name shoes, and never once in my life paid more than $25 for a pair of shoes.

I have a two-part question for you.

1. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

2. What's the most you've ever paid for a pair of shoes?

Thank you very much,
Remmy

PS: I know this is a sex-talk forum, but I have the feeling that for some women, shoes and sex are somehow tied together. And I didn't know which other forum might be more appropriate.
Title: Ask a female a question (and it doesn't have to be about sex).
Post by: MissBarbara on September 14, 2018, 02:53:24 PM

It's me again. I have another question for any and all female persons.

Here's the back story. I was sitting in a coffee shop and there were two young women at the table next to me. It was impossible not to hear their conversation.

One told the other that she now owned 104 pairs of shoes. I think my eyes bugged out a little. I myself own 3 pairs of shoes, including a pair of sandals that I haven't worn for three years.

They continued talking about shoes including what I assume were brand names like Jimmy Chew (Choo?) and Mansolo or something like that. I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but from what I was hearing, I don't think you would find the shoes they were talking about at your local Wal-mart.

I've never owned a pair of brand name shoes, and never once in my life paid more than $25 for a pair of shoes.

I have a two-part question for you.

1. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

2. What's the most you've ever paid for a pair of shoes?

Thank you very much,
Remmy

PS: I know this is a sex-talk forum, but I have the feeling that for some women, shoes and sex are somehow tied together. And I didn't know which other forum might be more appropriate.

Remmy,

This thread is titled "Ask a female a question," and not "Ask a female a sex-related question." So, to my mind, your question is perfectly legitimate.

It's hard to answer this question, since I suspect if you ask 10 women this question, you'll get 10 very different answers.

I'm not a shoe person, and I own about 20 pairs of shoes -- but that includes hiking boots, snow boots, several pairs of running shoes, casual sneakers, sandals, and "dress shoes." I have two pairs of dress shoes for which I spent around $50-$60, another really nice cress shoes for which I spent around $150, and one pair of running shoes for which I spent $90, but otherwise, the rest were all reasonably priced, on sale, or purchased a Wal-Mart, Costco, or Payless.

I know the brands Jimmy Choo and Manolo Blahnik, but I've only heard of them. I'm not the type of girl who would plop down $1,000 -- or more -- for a pair of pumps. (And I'm also not the type of girl who would buy a pair of shoes where the designer's last name begins with "Blah.")

To each her own. And I suspect there are many men who own dozens of pairs of shoes, some of which cost from $500-$1,000.

And then, of course, there's the Bridesmaid's Dilemma: The bride for whom you're serving as a bridesmaid essentially dictates what her bridesmaids will wear, including the shoes. So, you have to shell out a pile of cash for a pair of shoes you'll likely never wear a second time. And then, they sit in the back of your closet for years, even decades.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 14, 2018, 06:07:25 PM
I have about 50 pair.   5 of them are for running.  If I find a pair I like, I buy some more.  So 4 spare.  And if some get wet during a run, I've got a dry pair for the next day.

As Barbara said, 7 of them are due to me 'forced' to buy them to be a bridesmaid.

The others are shoes I might have purchased on sale and I just thought I might need them sometime.  Usually I'll pick them up for less that $20/pair.  I'll confess that some have never been worn.  

I will also confess that some haven't been worn in a very long time and might not even fit.  I should probably look in to this and make room in my closet for me to buy some more.




I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but...

Isn't the saying, "...not the sharpest knife in the drawer."  or "... not the brightest crayon in the box."

 ;D,
Jules

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on September 14, 2018, 06:19:00 PM


I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but...


Isn't the saying, "...not the sharpest knife in the drawer."  or "... not the brightest crayon in the box."

 ;D,
Jules


Or the sharpest tool in the shed, or not the brightest bulb in the chandelier, or a few fries short of a Happy Meal...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on September 14, 2018, 08:12:11 PM
…a sandwich short of a picnic.  :D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on September 14, 2018, 08:46:44 PM
the bigger they are the better.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 14, 2018, 08:51:49 PM

I forgot the fry one, Barb.

My daddy's favorite..."His elevator doesn't go to the top floor."

And no Remmy, these are not about you. ;)



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on September 14, 2018, 10:06:20 PM
the bigger they are the better.

Is this about the shoes, or the "...brightest star in the sky" analogies?  I'm at a loss for context here.

However, you know what they say about women with big shoes?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 14, 2018, 10:30:06 PM
Yes PSI, I'm afraid we have drifted...

(https://i.imgur.com/PYZJ6pa.gif)

Back to the original question as I'm interested in who might have their closet most filled.  


I have a two-part question for you.

1. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

2. What's the most you've ever paid for a pair of shoes?


BTW, I just counted.   37 is my revised answer, and the next rainy day I will be trying some on to get rid of those that don't fit.  There are quite a few that do not I am sure.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Elizabeth on September 14, 2018, 10:34:09 PM
It's me again. I have another question for any and all female persons.

Here's the back story. I was sitting in a coffee shop and there were two young women at the table next to me. It was impossible not to hear their conversation.

One told the other that she now owned 104 pairs of shoes. I think my eyes bugged out a little. I myself own 3 pairs of shoes, including a pair of sandals that I haven't worn for three years.

They continued talking about shoes including what I assume were brand names like Jimmy Chew (Choo?) and Mansolo or something like that. I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but from what I was hearing, I don't think you would find the shoes they were talking about at your local Wal-mart.

I've never owned a pair of brand name shoes, and never once in my life paid more than $25 for a pair of shoes.

I have a two-part question for you.

1. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

2. What's the most you've ever paid for a pair of shoes?

Thank you very much,
Remmy

PS: I know this is a sex-talk forum, but I have the feeling that for some women, shoes and sex are somehow tied together. And I didn't know which other forum might be more appropriate.

Remmy.......

Just for the heck of it (and your question) I went through my closet.
Here's my answer.........
1 pair of hiking boots (New Balance)
1 pair of snowshoes (that's right, that what I said). I forgot they were in there.
4 pairs of western boots (Justin, Dan Post, Tecovas ). By the way the Tecovas are the best boots you will ever wear (male or female).
2 pair of english boots ( Mountain Horse, Ariat).
3 pair of sneakers ( LOL....all from Walmart).
Not exactly exotic, and definitely not anywhere near 102 pairs.
(besides, I don't have 102 feet...so why on earth does someone need that many shoes..??).

Love,
Liz

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on September 15, 2018, 02:20:15 AM
34 pair.
The usual. Hiking boots, 6 pair of sandals include water sandals. One pair of running shoes, on pair of slippers. The rest are for work and looking nice. A couple of tall heels, a couple of low heels, various pumps, etc. i’m Not crazy for shoes, more pragmatic.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on September 15, 2018, 03:01:21 AM
Yes PSI, I'm afraid we have drifted...
(https://i.imgur.com/PYZJ6pa.gif)

Sorry, not my point, just a little curious.

As for another question, try this one on for size:  How many of you lovely ladies have fantasized (Not done in real life) prostitution?  If so, what would be your bare minimum for "All the way?"  Just for an example, try to imagine the most repugnant creep possible.  How much it would cost to swallow your revulsion, and go through with it?

In general, the prices start a $100.00 (US)  $2 hundred?  All right, two fifty.  How much for just a blowjob, if you swallow.

Would you do anal?  So, how much, for how far?  A complete stranger.  (With no Trust issues like BDSM, and your safety is assured with a big burly armed guy, or gal to make sure he pays, one way or another...)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on September 15, 2018, 04:08:48 AM
I have a simple answer. No.
No fantasy, no thrill, just plain no.

For me the thought is repugnant. I reserve sex for those I like, those I love. I consider prostitution a last resort for me. Do not mistake that I denigrate sex workers. For me, it is not something that I consider.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 15, 2018, 05:14:09 AM

That's a pretty easy answer.  I've never even thought of it.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on September 15, 2018, 09:23:21 AM
Oh, where to start...where to start.

Let me correct my (inadvertent) lie. I actually have owned 1 pair of brand name shoes. In Junior High I badgered my mom relentlessly until she bought me a pair of Converse Allstars. Karma bit me on the ass because of that, but that's off topic.

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And I'm also not the type of girl who would buy a pair of shoes where the designer's last name begins with "Blah." ~MissBarbara

That's funny!

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7 of them are due to me 'forced' to buy them to be a bridesmaid. ~MintJulie

7 times a bridesmaid? Is there a little masochism in your genetic makeup?

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Just for the heck of it (and your question) I went through my closet. ~Elizabeth

Sorry if I derailed your plans for the day but I appreciate your answer. Or maybe playing with your shoes was more fun than...  :D

Thank you all for taking the time to answer. I've always known there was something about women and shoes. Any yes, MissB, some men too. :D

Remmy

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on September 15, 2018, 09:26:30 AM

I'm not the sharpest crayon in the box, but...

Isn't the saying, "...not the sharpest knife in the drawer."  or "... not the brightest crayon in the box."

 ;D,
Jules


What are you, the metaphor police? Gotta badge there, smoky? I happen to like my crayons sharp. They work better.

Remmy
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 01, 2018, 04:03:54 AM
Hey, how about an on topic post?

Typically that in a rush I want mine so skip the foreplay behavior is something attributable to men, but a few times including last night I wasn’t even a minute into starting my game, just a little kissing and brief touching above the waist, and she abruptly straddles me annoucing, “My turn.”  This is followed by some awkward struggling on her part to aim me into her naughty bits.  It’s a rough mostly dry few moments of her hunching down on me with some bending on my part that makes it uncomfortable for both of us.  I offer lube I always have handy, which for reasons I can’t fathom, gets refused.  Strange, because she’s not adverse at all to me using lube when apparently ‘it’s my turn’.

The thing is she’s incredibly responsive.  She gets juicy sloppy wet in no time at all, including very soon after riding me like she’s in a rodeo.  It doesn’t take long before she’s shrieking like a banshee and clawing at my neck and chest.  So, it seems to be working fine for her despite the lack of foreplay.  Where the problem comes in is if I want to go again that evening or the following morning after her rides (like this morning), I hear, “I’m sore.  You hurt me.”  Oh, that was me that hurt you?  Admittedly Calamity Jane at some point during her ride gets flipped on her back or thrown sideways so I can go for my not particularly gentle finish, but I’m certain that soreness is primarily from lack of pre-ride initial lubrication whether natural or applied.  Plus, going again is never a problem no matter how rough I am when we first get her wet or augment that with a little lube.  To further clarify, she’s typically not opposed to going again that night and in the morning, so it is the actual soreness that has her stopping things.  I just don’t think she makes the connection to that soreness and her equestrian urgency.

I’m not sure I have a specific question on this, but I would like to hear what the women here think about what I’ve described.  Despite being 41, she’s not that experienced and never been married.

Thanks.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 01, 2018, 04:18:58 AM
Sounds like she was really horny.  I would guess that she got started way before you, just thinking about something sexy.  No idea what that could have been.  Also, older women can get a lot hotter, a lot faster than young ones.  (In general.  With massive room for variation.)  This just might be one to ask the woman in question, over forum members who weren't there.  What were you watching?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 01, 2018, 04:40:25 AM
What were we watching?  I guess each other.  The TV in the bedroom hasn’t been receiving a cable signal now since well before I even met her.  I’m not that fixated on TV enough to be overly concerned about the one in the bedroom working.  It’s likely she’ll be staying over more often as in at least one day during the week instead of just weekends, so I’m sure I’ll be required to look into that.

And, if she had worked herself up prior to me initating foreplay so that she was fully ready, she would have been wet enough that entry would have occurred easily rather than that struggle she had.  She wasn’t bone dry, but hardly as ready as I know she can get either.  She only began to moisten during that struggle until she was finally able to get me in her.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on October 19, 2018, 01:21:12 PM


Okay ladies. I'm going to hand you a magic wand. With it you can change ONE thing about the entire male species. What would you do with such a potent power?

Remmy


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 19, 2018, 02:57:42 PM
Show them the female PoV for one month.  Just dump that straight into their memory in a massive download.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on October 19, 2018, 03:34:40 PM


Okay ladies. I'm going to hand you a magic wand. With it you can change ONE thing about the entire male species. What would you do with such a potent power?



My initial response was the same as PSI's.   Walk a mile in our shoes and better understand us.

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 19, 2018, 05:24:25 PM
Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.

In college, the girls and I did a little experiment.  We found that a ring handled convex bladed neck knife lowered "Boob oogling" (The term used in the study) to 3%.  It seems to get them to think more about their castration anxiety, and one of my friends (A psyche major) goot top marks for her paper on it.

#LookAtMyKnifeAndNotMyTits

It's not quite a magic wand, but it does the trick.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: IdleBoast on October 19, 2018, 10:50:37 PM
We found that a ring handled convex bladed neck knife lowered "Boob oogling" (The term used in the study) to 3%.

I had to read that three times to make sure you weren't taking about a neck line, but mistyped.

Is this what you meant?

(https://i.imgur.com/tbBJEX4.png)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 19, 2018, 11:50:30 PM
Is this what you meant?

(https://i.imgur.com/tbBJEX4.png)

Any knife will work, however the most optimal one I've seen from years of testing is the Bastinelli Diagnostic Kerambit:(http://www.bladehq.com/imgs/knives/fixed-blade-knives/bastinelli-bas06-sheath-cm-thumb.jpg)  

Comfort is an issue, assuming you have breasts, and something to hold them in, to share a neckline with.  However, the claw shaped blade also seems to most effectively trigger castration anxiety.

(http://www.noze-nuz.com/nezarazeno/bas05/2.jpg)

Also available in tactical black.  Boker makes one that's less comfortable, but more affordable.

(http://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/1397/5977/products/KRBKR02BO030_52b02a79-3081-45dc-bde1-62ac5ed64a39_large.png?v=1502973157)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on October 20, 2018, 01:43:49 PM

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 

To be realistic, I think most all heterosexual men partake in ogling women, at least to some extent. It's biologically built into our DNA. It could be that some 'gentlemen' can pull it off somehow without coming across as 'creepy'.

Wouldn't it be enlightening if both sexes could somehow get a glimpse of what it would be like to be the other?

Women fascinate me. I'm still trying to learn what makes them tick. That's why I keep asking all these dumb questions. Thanks for indulging my curiosity.

Remmy


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 20, 2018, 01:50:39 PM
To be realistic, I think most all heterosexual men partake in ogling women, at least to some extent.

No, they don't.  Honestly, most of them don't.  Married men respect their wife's wishes, and don't stare at other women. They look, but they don't stare, to the point that it's abusive.  Yes, looking is abusive if you keep staring long after the attention is obviously unwanted.

There's porn, on the internet.  If you want to stare at sexy women, look some up.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: IdleBoast on October 20, 2018, 05:32:41 PM
Ogling =/= staring.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 20, 2018, 07:45:38 PM
Ogling =/= staring.

Did you read every word I said, captain semantic, or just skip from keyword to keyword to come up with "Ogling=Staring"?  I said, and I fucking quote:  

Yes, looking is abusive if you keep staring long after the attention is obviously unwanted.

Read it again.  Until your self defensive filters actually let the message through.  #NotAllMen Ogle, Leer, Stare, or even glance at strangers on the street, in a sexual manner.  It's rude, and some men aren't that fucking rude.  Even if they did, it wouldn't be carte blanche for you to keep doing it, until somebody finally says something, then insist, "I wasn't ogling, I was staring."  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 21, 2018, 12:49:52 AM


Okay ladies. I'm going to hand you a magic wand. With it you can change ONE thing about the entire male species. What would you do with such a potent power?



My initial response was the same as PSI's.   Walk a mile in our shoes and better understand us.

Next on my list would be to wave the magic wand and prevent all men* from looking or staring at the female species in a creepy manner.  I don't like to feel like I'm being undressed by the guy at the gas pump next to me.


* to clarify, in reading another topic this afternoon I learned I shouldn't classify all men in this category.  My apologies to you that are gentlemen and don't partake in such activity. 


To jump in this, I’m guessing Jules might be OK with a very brief unobtrusive (trying not to get caught) admiring glance.  But some men will not only leer, they will do so with the intent of making the the woman or girl very uncomfortable if not actually afraid.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 21, 2018, 02:26:09 AM
But some men will not only leer, they will do so with the intent of making the the woman or girl very uncomfortable if not actually afraid.

Because they can.  This is the important part:  There's nothing you can do about it.  Even to the point of menacing, the guy doesn't need a better defense than "What?" because the cops will laugh in your face if you report it.  It's completely Legal.  You pretty much need your boyfriend or father there, to give him The Look back to make it stop.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on October 21, 2018, 03:55:00 PM
Which brings us back to the patriarchal bs that got us on this thread in the first place. It’s men seeing who can pee higher, establishing dominance over each other, saying “this is mine, hands off.” Marking territory and putting women in a class of property.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 21, 2018, 03:58:28 PM
Which brings us back to the patriarchal bs that got us on this thread in the first place.

Except, it's also a place for men to ask, and listen to women.  Which is the only way they can learn, and understand us better.  We can't avoid honest, sincere questions, unless we just want to perpetuate this fight.

"I don't know if you're up on current events, but we just got our asses kicked!"

~Hudson

"I say we take off, and nuke the entire site from orbit.  The only way to be sure."

~E. Ripley.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Athos_131 on October 21, 2018, 04:56:20 PM
Guys, stop mansplaining on this.

#Resist
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 21, 2018, 05:22:35 PM
<#Transplaining.

If you don't want to listen to the answer, don't ask the question, man.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Athos_131 on October 21, 2018, 05:31:11 PM
I didn't ask the question.

You were not the one I was accusing of mansplaining.

#Resist
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 21, 2018, 05:44:26 PM
I didn't ask the question.

That "You" was plural, inclusive.  (All Men.)  If You, singular, personal, took it personally?  You might want to examine why that is.

I threw that hashtag in there, because I rather like it.  Why I coined it.  You could learn a lot by asking questions, and listening to the answers, too.

#NotAllMen.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 21, 2018, 05:50:15 PM
Let me put it this way.  There's an entire thread devoted to men answering questions.  If you (Anyone) is going to #Mansplain, that's the place.

#Desist.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on October 22, 2018, 12:29:42 AM

Guys, stop mansplaining on this.

#Resist


Precisely.

Thank you.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Fjellvant on October 22, 2018, 04:33:02 AM
What are your feelings on dating, or at least sex with, a guy who is a decade or more younger? Older? Do you derive anything different from this compared to someone closer to your age?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on October 22, 2018, 04:35:59 AM
Do you like he person. Can you live them? Those are the only questions required.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 22, 2018, 04:48:09 AM
a decade or more younger? Older?

Than what?  We need 2 numbers here, if she's let's say 23, than a decade or more younger is getting pretty ew.  If she's in her 40s?  Less so.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Fjellvant on October 22, 2018, 09:09:58 PM
What are your feelings on dating, or at least sex with, a guy who is a decade or more younger? Older? Do you derive anything different from this compared to someone closer to your age?

a decade or more younger? Older?

Than what?  We need 2 numbers here, if she's let's say 23, than a decade or more younger is getting pretty ew.  If she's in her 40s?  Less so.

Fair enough, I guess this has to be personal, from the perspective of the person replying. If you're 23, then yeah, younger isn't going to do much for you, to put it mildly. I'm really just curious as to whether anyone else derives additional excitement from large age differences like I do. It would depend on the potential partner for sure, but my general range (as a 32yo) is about 10 younger or 20 older, with exceptions.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on October 23, 2018, 12:51:29 PM

My wife is 8 years older than I am and it's never been an issue.

I had a cousin who married a man 35 years older than she was. Sadly, he outlived her.

As is so often the case, it really depends a lot on the individuals involved. I've always thought one of the great mysteries of the universe is what causes a spark between two people in love. Or even in lust.  :D

Remmy

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 23, 2018, 04:25:00 PM
My late wife was 8.5 years older than me.  My fiancé is 15 years younger than me.  So I guess I’ve experienced a nice range.

It’s sometimes interesting to think on it.  When my first wife was 23.5 years old and married to her first husband with a toddler, my next wife was being born.  Or another way to look at it, I was with my first wife for about 19 years beginning when she was 44, so my first wife was 3 years older way back then than my fiancé is now.

Maybe I just like women in their early 40s?  Actually, I think I just like women.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: kathyDC on October 25, 2018, 08:07:09 PM
Assuming I am not the only girl that has painful anal sex.  Twice I have experienced anal sex from a guy.  Both guys were different size so my question is....  how many times does it take to experience anal sex before the pain of penetration is gone?   and is there a safe way of preparing before anal sex so that I am not as tight as i am.  It is enjoyable after the pain has subsided.  The guys tell me that going through the pain before enjoyment should be accepted and to not do anything to loosen back there.   Is that true?   Is most anal sex painful before the enjoyment sets in?     It is true that that once penetration is complete and I am stretching some it is highly pleasurable.  So should I keep accepting the several minutes of pain so the pleasure is that much better?

Kathy M
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on October 25, 2018, 08:41:14 PM
Get another boyfriend that can properly perform the act and then take baby steps. Lube is your best friend.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 25, 2018, 10:36:57 PM
Yeah, there's no such thing as too much lube, and take your time.  If it hurts, he's doing it wrong.  Most often just sticking it in without doing anything to loosten you up first, but Coitus (Vaginal sex) is a pretty good way to loosen that up, too.  

Also, loosen up every time.  A lot of guys seem to buy into the "Loose woman" myth, where looseness is a sign of how many times she's fucked, instead of how ready she is to fuck.  Pretty much the same with the anus, if you're not willing to do the prep, then the answer should be no.  Tell him to let you show him, with a pair of gloves.  If he can't take it, then at least he can understand why you can't.

Also, if he continues to pressure you, after he knows you don't like it, because it hurts, get a better boyfriend.  That's knocking right on the door of rape.  It shows that he's fully capable of it, if he cajoles enough, and convinces himself that's not what he's doing.  I'm not saying you've been raped, I don't have enough information to make that judgement, but he's obviously trying to get as close to that line as he can, without overbidding, and that's the kind of guy that always, relentlessly escalates until he inevitably goes too far.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on October 26, 2018, 09:26:44 AM
I think communication is key - we men are stupid, and especially if there are already rough elements in sex.

If that doesn't work - fuck him with a strapon.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Athos_131 on October 26, 2018, 04:46:28 PM
 Tell him to let you show him, with a pair of gloves.  If he can't take it, then at least he can understand why you can't.


#Resist
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 26, 2018, 05:00:31 PM
I believe Kathy considers herself to be submissive and is looking for a way to better experience anal.  While seeking a man more experienced in such activities seems sound advice, suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

Unfortunately my knowledge in this area is theoretical, but if I were to attempt advice it would be to purchase a set of butt plugs and use them (or preferably find a dominant non-abusive man to tell her to use them).
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 26, 2018, 05:12:31 PM
suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

I don't know her nature, but I was kinda trying to steer away from "Shoving" anything up anyone's ass, and toward exploring anal pleasure more gently.  Since that way hurts less, but in my experience you learn a lot more from being done than you do by shoving things where the sun don't shine.  Nobody is 100% dominant, or submissive 24/7.  In fact, most of the guys that believe in total dominance eventually hurt someone, because they're so distracted by asserting their dominance.  Enjoying the bottom is not, EVER a sign that anyone is pathologically incapable o giving a stinky pinky, FFS.

 :roll:

Butt Plugs don't really replicate the feel, and technique involved with using a Penis.  A dildo works better for that.  Butplugs are used almost completely differently, but the typical conical tip is useful to loosen up before trying to stick a dick in it.  So, the advice isn't a bad idea, just how to use that tool was a little off target.  (Also, thank you for clarifying that as Theoretical.  Most people give advice as if experts, and not as an attempt at advice. You get the Woo!  For that.)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 26, 2018, 05:21:01 PM
I can also highly recommend this:

The Manual (http://books.google.com/books?id=uSXSRwAACAAJ&dq=anal+pleasure+and+health&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiy3q6OtKTeAhUBDKwKHbelA_oQ6AEIKjAA)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on October 26, 2018, 06:09:28 PM

I believe Kathy considers herself to be submissive and is looking for a way to better experience anal.  While seeking a man more experienced in such activities seems sound advice, suggesting she try and go against her nature and shove things up a guy’s ass does not seem like sound advice.

Unfortunately my knowledge in this area is theoretical, but if I were to attempt advice it would be to purchase a set of butt plugs and use them (or preferably find a dominant non-abusive man to tell her to use them).


To answer this question as a female (Wow! What a concept!), albeit on who has never had anal sex with a man, I would offer this advice:

* Don't view it in terms of dominance and submission; look at it in terms as a new and different erotic experience. And approach it as you would any other new and different erotic experience.

* If you're really doing it for her, then make it all about her, and focus solely on her. Make it her experience; you're time will come (pun definitely intended).

* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

* It's all about her muscles, and muscles constrict and relax. She's going to be nervous or apprehensive, so you have to take even greater care to help her relax. Create a relaxing situation for her, and go from there.

* Start first with anal play. This will help her relax, it will help her accustom herself to, well, activities down there, and, done properly, it will feel great for her. Start by putting lube on your fingers, and slowly massage the opening. As she starts to relax, probe a tiny bit deeper -- but only a tiny bit, like just the tip of your finger. She will continue to relax, and she will continue to enjoy the experience.

* You are both still experimenting at this point, so communicate with her: Talk to her, ask her questions, etc.

* If she's willing to continue, then, as Psi suggests, do not use a butt plug, use a small dildo (butt plugs are far too wide at this point). Again, use gobs of lube, and start very slowly. The tunnel opening may be very small, but the tunnel widens dramatically once you enter it. First massage the opening as you did with your finger, and only then slowly slide a little of it into her. Talk to her and gauge her reactions. Again, very slowly. Caress other parts of her body -- both the obvious and less obvious parts -- which will help to both further relax herself, and to heighten her erotic responses even further.

* Once the dildo is in as far as she likes/wants it, make sure it is still sufficiently lubricated, and slowly and gently slide it in and out, perhaps only an inch or two each way, and slowly and gently twist and turn it. Against, communicate and gauge.

* From there, your next steps are boundless. I would strongly suggest that she is not yet ready for your penis, so save that for the future. Perhaps orally pleasure her with the dildo still inside her, slowly rotating and moving it in and out as you address her more erogenous areas with your mouth and tongue. Or enter her vaginally, with the dildo still inside her, which, in most situations, will drive her absolutely batty.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 26, 2018, 06:30:22 PM
* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

Staci said it first, but it's important enough to repeat again:

If she smokes after sex, try more lube.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 26, 2018, 06:53:37 PM
* As Psi put it, too much lube is almost enough.

Staci said it first, but it's important enough to repeat again:

If she smokes after sex, try more lube.

Isn’t that about the oldest sex joke there is?

The girl is asked, ‘Do you smoke after sex?’
‘I don’t know.  I never looked.’
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 26, 2018, 10:44:25 PM
‘Do you smoke after sex?’
‘I don’t know.  I never looked.’

With various punchlines, yeah.  I kinda like mine, though.

Another good one:  "Not since kindergarten."
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Katiebee on October 27, 2018, 04:22:38 AM
And in case no one noticed, too much lube is almost enough.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on October 27, 2018, 04:29:57 AM
I usually get bi with a lickety spit, but I happen to love analingus (And navalingus for the same reasons.)  If he's willing to kiss it, and make it better for fucking, maybe he'll love it enough to respect it.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on December 12, 2018, 01:04:27 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 12, 2018, 02:07:04 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 12, 2018, 02:33:15 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.


I've never heard of that either.

It seems kinda bogus to me...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 12, 2018, 02:52:23 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.


I've never heard of that either.

It seems kinda bogus to me...



Kinsey’s research has been largely discredited through the years, both for its methodology and the conclusions he drew from it.  I suspect “Kinsey 6 lesbian” is more of a literary device than an actual term used by the cognoscenti.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 12, 2018, 03:01:37 PM

Reading a novel, I came across the phrase "Kinsey-6 lesbian" but the context was not enlightening. Can any of you educate me?

Thanks,
Remmy


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.


I've never heard of that either.

It seems kinda bogus to me...



Kinsey’s research has been largely discredited through the years, both for its methodology and the conclusions he drew from it.  I suspect “Kinsey 6 lesbian” is more of a literary device than an actual term used by the cognoscenti.


Thanks.





Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 12, 2018, 03:51:26 PM
Kinsey’s research has been largely discredited through the years, both for its methodology and the conclusions he drew from it.  I suspect “Kinsey 6 lesbian” is more of a literary device than an actual term used by the cognoscenti.

So has Freud's, but we still refer to the Subconscious.  "Largely discredited" doesn't mean you throw out the entire foundation, because they got a few things wrong on the first studies of their kind.  So, in Kinsey's Case, the estimated 10% is taken with a grain of salt, but the Kinsey Scale is still largely accepted as a continuum between the extremes of gay, and straight.  We (The LGBT, and sexual therapeutic communities.  Not the "Cognoscenti" intellectual hipsters, and metrosexuals talking about it over a microbrew IPA) have since built on that foundation, and continued studying human sexuality.  Instead of giving up because the first studies got a few things wrong.  Not unlike the Meyers-Briggs, which has also been "Largely discredited."

Invalidate the writer, so you don't have to learn anything.  As if it's wrong, simply because of who wrote it.  That's not critical thinking, in fact it's the exact opposite.  Critical thinking would be reading the studies, drawing your own conclusions, and maybe finding where you are on the arbitrary scale to help cement your own sexual identity.  (The only opinion that matters is your own.)  By the same thinking, we'd have European Americans discrediting Chinese restaurants for serving fortune cookies.  However, that seems abserd, because you don't have this emotional investment in cultural appropriation, like we seem to when it comes to introspection, identity politics, and talking openly about sex.  (On an Incest dominated erotic stories site.)

Or stop using cars, because they kill as many people as firearms, and the first ones weren't much better than horse drawn carriages.  Or rockets, because we got that technology from a scientist who used them to give Nazis Intermediate Range Ballistic Missiles to deliver Weapons of Mass destruction, and wage Genocide.  Or the [QWERTY] klaviature, because it was originally designed to be inefficient, so the typing pools of the day didn't jam up the first generation of mechanical typewriters.  Or discredit America, because it was founded by slavers who wrote "All men are created equal" into the preamble of the Declaration of Independence, instead of continuing to bask in the luxuries enabled by multiple genocides.

But no, we're just that absurdly conservative when it comes to sex, and identity politics.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 12, 2018, 11:31:20 PM
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Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 13, 2018, 12:34:29 AM
The Kinsey Scale is not invalid, just because someone called Kinsey's methodology into question.  It's calling female's sexual identities into question, in a thread dedicated to asking women to talk about their sexuality.  (Why it's in Sex Talk.) 

You want me to dumb it down for you even more?  If you don't want to listen to the answers, then what are you even doing in this thread?  If she says she's a 6, she's a fucking 6.  Nobody on Earth is better qualified to answer that than she is.  You don't have any problems with guys rating women on a scale of 1-to-10?  

Then you shouldn't have a problem with females rating their sexualities on a scale of 0-to-6.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on December 13, 2018, 12:41:00 PM
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.

Thanks Toe. And I learned a new vocabulary word: cognoscenti (plural of cognoscente) meaning a person who has expert knowledge in a subject.

Remmy
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 13, 2018, 04:35:02 PM
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

6 means “exclusively homosexual” on the scale.

Thanks Toe. And I learned a new vocabulary word: cognoscenti (plural of cognoscente) meaning a person who has expert knowledge in a subject.

Remmy


To put a finer point on it, being a member of the cognoscenti doesn't necessarily mean you're an expert. It's more like your "in the know."




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 13, 2018, 05:04:34 PM
Or Cognizant.  If that helps you remember better.

Regardless, nobody knows the rating system used by LGBT people better than LGBT people, and she was rating herself.  So, no cognoscenti know her personal rating, of her own sexuality, better than she does.  By invalidating Robert Kinsey, and the Kinsey Scale, by extension you're subtly invalidating her own sexual identity.  Using a big intellectual word in an Appeal to Authority doesn't really change how she feels about her sexuality.  

"Well, actually..."  That's been invalidated, she can't be a 6, because Kinsey is invalid.  

That's Ignorance, appealing to those in the know, to make her appear ignorant, in absentia.  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 13, 2018, 06:46:03 PM

Or Cognizant.  If that helps you remember better.

Regardless, nobody knows the rating system used by LGBT people better than LGBT people, and she was rating herself.  So, no cognoscenti know her personal rating, of her own sexuality, better than she does.  By invalidating Robert Kinsey, and the Kinsey Scale, by extension you're subtly invalidating her own sexual identity.  Using a big intellectual word in an Appeal to Authority doesn't really change how she feels about her sexuality.  

"Well, actually..."  That's been invalidated, she can't be a 6, because Kinsey is invalid.  

That's Ignorance, appealing to those in the know, to make her appear ignorant, in absentia.
  

If you scroll back you'll find that "she" is a fictional character, created by a novelist. "She" doesn't actually exist, and even "she" doesn't know her "personal rating."

Wait: "Personal rating"?!?

While your and my personal experiences clearly differ, I've yet to meet any "LGBT people" who employ a "personal rating system." Nor, for that matter, do they look to books written in the 1950s, or the early 1900s, to try to understand themselves better.

Labels are bullshit, and rating systems are even more bullshit.

And, for fuck's sake, can we please stop confounding gender, gender identity, sexual identity, and sexual orientation?

(Wait: Can I say "bullshit" and "for fuck's sake" in a non-1408 thread?)

The "novelist" who described his character as a "Kinsey-6 lesbian" (or who created a character who described herself as a "Kinsey-6 lesbian) is, simply put, a bad writer. "Describe, don't state," right? It shouldn't matter where she falls on some hypothetical, decades-old scale (of whatever viability). Even in creating her as a sexual being, who expresses her sexuality -- whatever it is -- she shouldn't be reduced to numbers.

I would assert that no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale, and that everyone falls somewhere in between -- whether they know it or not, or whether they admit it to themselves of not. Most important of all, by forcing people to define themselves, or to place themselves on scale like this, does damage to their process of understanding themselves -- and understanding others.





Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: IdleBoast on December 13, 2018, 06:55:56 PM

(Wait: Can I say "bullshit" and "for fuck's sake" in a non-1408 thread?)


You just did, so... yes?

Quote

I would assert that no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale, and that everyone falls somewhere in between --


I would further assert that most people slide up and down whatever scale you choose, as the mood takes them.  I know I do.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 13, 2018, 08:38:10 PM
I would assert that no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale, and that everyone falls somewhere in between -- whether they know it or not, or whether they admit it to themselves of not.

On that bullshit scale that is meaningless, you're asserting that all the straight guys are secretly a little bisexual, but just don't know it yet?  Interesting.  How did you come to this conclusion, did you ask anyone, or did you just Assert that?

No one, has ever been gay, or straight.  Did I read that right?

Also I didn't mention gender.  Not once, so you're confusing sexuality, and gender for me.

Onto the fictional nature of the character, a 100% lesbian, in a sexual fantasy.  That's a fantasy, right?  Not a real character.  Granted, written by a man, but regardless, we can accept fantasies about Magical Powers of Mind Control, which have no basis on reality. 

I would assert in somebodies' sexual fantasies, the basis in reality is moot.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 14, 2018, 12:37:14 AM

I would assert that no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale, and that everyone falls somewhere in between -- whether they know it or not, or whether they admit it to themselves of not.


On that bullshit scale that is meaningless, you're asserting that all the straight guys are secretly a little bisexual, but just don't know it yet?  Interesting.  How did you come to this conclusion, did you ask anyone, or did you just Assert that?


I said nothing of the sort. Stop putting words in my mouth.



No one, has ever been gay, or straight.  Did I read that right?


I didn't say that either. So no, you did not read that right.



Also I didn't mention gender.  Not once, so you're confusing sexuality, and gender for me.


I'm confusing nothing of the sort. Nor, if you read what I wrote, was I specifically referring to you.



Onto the fictional nature of the character, a 100% lesbian, in a sexual fantasy.  That's a fantasy, right?  Not a real character.  Granted, written by a man, but regardless, we can accept fantasies about Magical Powers of Mind Control, which have no basis on reality. 

I would assert in somebodies' sexual fantasies, the basis in reality is moot.


Yes, that was my point. Thanks for restating it.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 14, 2018, 12:46:07 AM
Then what the fuck were you saying?  If nobody is a 0 (Straight) nor a 6 (Gay) then what are they, exactly?  Because in case you weren't aware, that's what those numbers you say nobody is mean.

It kinda sounds like you're saying, and I quote:

no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale...  everyone falls somewhere in between

"Somewhere in between" would be somewhat bisexual, whether they want to admit it, or not.  Maybe they just haven't met the right guy?  (Says every guy when they're informed by a lesbian, that she's a lesbian)  So, you're going to have to explain how that's not saying that nobody is either gay (6) or straight (0)  There's no other way I can interpret that assertion.  You used very clear, and absolute (No one) language, with no room for variation. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on December 14, 2018, 01:19:49 AM
Like 0.01 to 5.99, but never approaching 0 or 6 like it’s a physical limit such as the speed of light?

Most things are quantifiable, but this particular attribute seems to be about as unquantifiable as they cum.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Athos_131 on December 14, 2018, 01:38:10 AM
If you scroll back you'll find that "she" is a fictional character, created by a novelist. "She" doesn't actually exist, and even "she" doesn't know her "personal rating."

Wait: "Personal rating"?!?

While your and my personal experiences clearly differ, I've yet to meet any "LGBT people" who employ a "personal rating system." Nor, for that matter, do they look to books written in the 1950s, or the early 1900s, to try to understand themselves better.

Labels are bullshit, and rating systems are even more bullshit.

And, for fuck's sake, can we please stop confounding gender, gender identity, sexual identity, and sexual orientation?

(Wait: Can I say "bullshit" and "for fuck's sake" in a non-1408 thread?)

The "novelist" who described his character as a "Kinsey-6 lesbian" (or who created a character who described herself as a "Kinsey-6 lesbian) is, simply put, a bad writer. "Describe, don't state," right? It shouldn't matter where she falls on some hypothetical, decades-old scale (of whatever viability). Even in creating her as a sexual being, who expresses her sexuality -- whatever it is -- she shouldn't be reduced to numbers.

I would assert that no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale, and that everyone falls somewhere in between -- whether they know it or not, or whether they admit it to themselves of not. Most important of all, by forcing people to define themselves, or to place themselves on scale like this, does damage to their process of understanding themselves -- and understanding others.


Holy shit, all this post is missing is green font.

(https://i.imgur.com/79qYPmO.jpg)

#Resist
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on December 14, 2018, 08:39:26 AM
*** Looks at 10 foot pole ****

*** Looks at topic ****

Nope. Nope.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 14, 2018, 03:00:47 PM

Like 0.01 to 5.99, but never approaching 0 or 6 like it’s a physical limit such as the speed of light?

Most things are quantifiable, but this particular attribute seems to be about as unquantifiable as they cum.


Many things are quantifiable, and many more are not.

You're right: That was my point. This whole exercise is an attempt to quantify something that is, by its very nature, not quantifiable.

And the effects of trying to strictly label people, and to put them in tiny little boxes, is clearly deleterious, or at best counter-productive.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on December 14, 2018, 03:05:22 PM

Then what the fuck were you saying?  If nobody is a 0 (Straight) nor a 6 (Gay) then what are they, exactly?  Because in case you weren't aware, that's what those numbers you say nobody is mean.

It kinda sounds like you're saying, and I quote:


no one is either a 0 or a 6 on that scale...  everyone falls somewhere in between

"Somewhere in between" would be somewhat bisexual, whether they want to admit it, or not.  Maybe they just haven't met the right guy?  (Says every guy when they're informed by a lesbian, that she's a lesbian)  So, you're going to have to explain how that's not saying that nobody is either gay (6) or straight (0)  There's no other way I can interpret that assertion.  You used very clear, and absolute (No one) language, with no room for variation. 


What I'm saying -- and I'm not sure I could have made this any clearer -- is:

"Labels are bullshit, and rating systems are even more bullshit."

You write, "You used very clear, and absolute (No one) language, with no room for variation." 

My point was the exact opposite. There's infinite room for variation. And attempting to view the amazing varieties of human sexuality using mathematics is, you guessed it, "bullshit."




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 14, 2018, 03:15:18 PM
"Labels are bullshit, and rating systems are even more bullshit."

So?  So you're here to tell people they're not Lesbians, because labels are bullshit.  Why, now that you've opened our eyes, we can go ahead and abandon such notionas as men, and women, anybody can fuck anybody, yay!  

Quote
My point was the exact opposite. There's infinite room for variation. And attempting to view the amazing varieties of human sexuality using mathematics is, you guessed it, "bullshit."

Right, but it's not attempting to view sexuality (Sex therapist, and researcher here) using mathmatics.  Any more than the pain scale (Also a scale of 1-to-10) is supposed to, it's a way for us to COMMUNICATE.  That's what labels are for, so we can say that apple, instead of just point and say "That."  That what?  That lesbian?  Sorry, I forgot there's not such thing as lesbians.

In attempting to obvuscate the point, you've completely overstepped the point of the Kinsey studies:  To better UNDERSTAND all the varieties of human sexuality, and take us out of the dark ages of the early 20th century, when we didn't want to talk about it.

Now, we can talk about it, even knowing that every time we do, In SEX TALK, some fuddy duddy is going to step in to "Well actually," and shut the conversation down.  Or derail it over semantics.  or invalidate the very foundations of research into the varieties of sexuality.

As long as we don't talk about it, your work here is done, Captain Obvious.

The effects of trying to strictly label people, and to put them in tiny little boxes, is clearly deleterious, or at best counter-productive.

It's not a "Tiny little box."  It's a start, we've already added LGBT, and sometimes A.  (For the purposes of Sex Talk, we can kinda leave off Asexuals, because it's not a sexuality, any more than Atheism is a religion.)  I'm sorry, am I confusing you with all these labels again?  It's a Foundation, to build on.  Not to tear down, because conservatives don't want to learn anything new.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 14, 2018, 03:25:05 PM

Now, we can talk about it, even knowing that every time we do, In SEX TALK, some fuddy duddy is going to step in to "Well actually," and shut the conversation down.  Or derail it over semantics.


(https://steemitimages.com/DQmbJANQUaM1ZnBBxZLyiB7j2kjb5obA39aR8z4RDCF5hKw/Irony.jpg)

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 14, 2018, 03:33:39 PM
One of the ways we can expand on it is actually removing the gay, and straight labels, as in the Bright scale.  (Named after Susie "Sexpert" Bright, who first proposed this in Out magazine.)  

Note the 0 is a hole, and the 6 looks phallic?  So, it is possible to view the 0 as a Gynephile, and the 6 an Androphile.  Attracted to men, women, or both to varying degrees.  Another proposed scale on this Axis (Roughly at right angles to Kinsey) would be to use the letters A-through-G to avoid confusion.  This allows for a more comprehensive understanding, without Quantifying, but Approximating our sexualities, so we have some sort of answer when somebody asks us "So, what are you into?"

This multi-axis orientation also takes into account the possibilites of Transgender, and Intersex.  Instead of Bisexual (Which implies a binary, but doesn't assume it) I could label myself, if I so desired, a 6D.  Just as a shorthand, for example on a dating site, if I had any desire to date men I met online through such a site.  (Realjock.com)

Or not, it's an Option.  Not mandatory, you can label yourself to make answering such faqs easier, or chose to live without labels, personally.  Taking away other people's labels is wrong though.  "I'm a Kinsey 6 Lesbian."  

No you're not.  Well, that's your opinion, and you're wrong.  If she says she's a 6, she's a fucking six, because nobody but her can thrust the label on her, nor take it away from her.  (Okay, in the special case of a fictional character, the author can call her anything he wants.  A blonde, a blond not realizing that speling is actually male.  A lesbian, a dyke, or a SJW feminazi, if that's his fantasy, because it's his fantasy.)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 14, 2018, 03:43:55 PM
Sexual fantasies are intrinsically symbolic, and therefore steeped in "Labels."  Like (Loli, Kogal, schoolgirl, cheerleader, bear, hunk, jock, twink, Daddy, slut, frigid, non-con, incest,..) and any number of things people pretend to be, or fantasize about, because that's how the Subconscious works.  

We literally can't communicate without labels, which is why we label our sex stories with codes.  Like any of the above, or Lesbian, if that happens to be the fantasy.  We can even add to them, like the portmanteau Leslita, which is easilly searched in Google, or Bing.  So no, they're not useless.  If we're Talking about Sex, quite the opposite.  They save us a lot of time, and scrolling through clunky descriptions like "She doesn't like guys that way, she doesn't even want to think about them sexually, or see one naked."

Or Lesbian, for short.  Such labels aren't a box to stuff people into, they're a stepping off point.  A start, so you can keep searching from there.  Lesbian, huh?  What kind of lesbian?..
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on December 14, 2018, 03:52:55 PM
(https://steemitimages.com/DQmbJANQUaM1ZnBBxZLyiB7j2kjb5obA39aR8z4RDCF5hKw/Irony.jpg)

Labels are bullshit.  Funny, because "Bullshit" is a label.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Remington555 on December 16, 2018, 02:19:38 PM
*** Looks at 10 foot pole ****

*** Looks at topic ****

Nope. Nope.

As they say in the Halo ads on TV: Good choice kid.  ;D

Remmy
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 16, 2019, 03:30:17 AM

The above post was deleted by the member.  All follow up discussion deleted by me.  Dusty has had his account removed.

NO UNDERAGE SEXUAL DISCUSSION ALLOWED
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on January 16, 2019, 05:33:34 AM
Glad to see you on the job Jules.

Thank you.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on January 16, 2019, 03:23:20 PM

The above post was deleted by the member.  All follow up discussion deleted by me.  Dusty has had his account removed.

NO UNDERAGE SEXUAL DISCUSSION ALLOWED

Did the member request to have their account removed?

Yes, he did.  Sorry, I was on my ipad last night and because I have such a difficult time typing on it, I keep things brief.  I should have explained that better.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: shaver on February 01, 2019, 10:27:19 PM
I have a question I noticed on KB I think it was bald pussy a woman using one of those cock vacuum pumps on her pussy, My question is to what purpose and is it a good idea could you cause some injury?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on February 01, 2019, 10:52:20 PM
I have a question I noticed on KB I think it was bald pussy a woman using one of those cock vacuum pumps on her pussy, My question is to what purpose and is it a good idea could you cause some injury?

There's no real "Purpose" other than stimulation.  It also makes it look puffy/swollen, which some guys seem to like.  Mimics some of the signs of arousal like flushing, swelling, warmth, only can be taken up to a cartoonish degree.  Also, it helps to shave the area to get a good seal, which you probably like.  It is possible that some indirect stimulation is increased due to swelling as well.

The likelyhood of a cervical prolapse, or uterine hernia is relatively low, unless you crank it up to the absurd degree.  Minor injury like nerve ending damage is possible just from living a normal life.  You only get so many neurons for life, and they don't last forever, kinda like Ova in that way.  At worse, you're talking accelerated loss of sensitivity, again more likely the more you crank up the vacuum.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on February 01, 2019, 11:03:00 PM
We enjoy vacuum pump on clit and nipples.  Make them pink and swollen like a plump berry, then go to town for a few orgasms.  I won’t post photos, but it is very enjoyable for everyone involved.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: shaver on February 02, 2019, 12:54:29 AM
Thanks very much for your response. I was just curious.
Title: girls ogling guys bulges
Post by: erielb on July 18, 2019, 03:28:38 AM
Question: how common is it for women to surreptitiously check out a guy's pants bulge, in a public or ordinary encounter setting? I do this quite frequently actually, but I'd like to know where on this behavior line I fall, in comparison to others.

Other related questions: if you do this, do you stare or mostly take quick repeated glimpses? Did the subject of your interest ever notice/catch you looking? Did you respond sheepishly, confidently, or indifferently, to being found out? Does your modus operandus change if you're with other women friends and/or mixed friends?

Last few for women: What instances, and attending circumstances, resulted in you experiencing sexual arousal or to fantasize about it later? Does the guy's age, race, appearance, or looks matter? To what extent? Did any one ever encourage your interest?

Thanks for your attention, I'm really hoping several people will share their experiences.

Thanks again, Eriel!
Title: Re: girls ogling guys bulges
Post by: RopeFiend on July 18, 2019, 03:46:17 AM

I've caught any number of women taking sneak peeks.  Some of 'em will be indirect and look at my shoes instead.  

Yes, it's really true:  GUYS WITH BIG FEET HAVE large shoes   ;D

In my case it's a little weird, as I work in a company with ~ 600 twenty-somethings and maybe 40-50 older people.  I'm 60, and the gals I catch doing sneak peeks are the twenty-somethings.  Maybe the older women are simply better at it and don't get caught.  8)

Some women prefer butts, some the junk... it varies.

I was up a ladder one day in the printer room next to a cube farm full of office-type younger folks, doing something above the suspended ceiling.  My butt was just about at eye level.  Over the 10 minutes I was up the ladder, EVERY SINGLE ONE of the young Asian women found a reason to come into the printer room.  At one point there were 5 of them in the room at the same time.  Usually it's in, grab your printout and out again.  I couldn't even keep a count of how many of 'em were in there to ogle my butt.  I guess I have a nice butt, at least to them.  :D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Kame on July 18, 2019, 04:25:02 PM
I rarely see guys with actual bulges. The only one I can think of was this guy I used to see on the bus ride home, and he'd have them rather often.  I called him StoneFace.  So... Yeah, I stared.  Or glanced.  I'm not sure he ever noticed I was looking.  He wasn't really trying to let it show, it was just there, and I could see.. about how big it was - I'm going to say 5 to 6 inches, normal thickness.  Mostly it was the idea that I could sort of tell he was perving, and that made him interesting to me.

He was in his 40s, just very average looking. With glasses.  He always seemed a little unhappy, that I could tell.  I assumed it was from not getting enough sex at home, so he'd have pervy fantasies on the bus.

How much do looks factor in to my fantasies?  Probably not as much as it does for men.  I look at... Well, this sounds so terrible, but, in a sense, I look at their wallet.   Do they seem stable, could they take good care of me?  I like them older.  I like the idea of being their little girl, and having them take care of me, so... yeah, sorry, but a show of some kind of financial stability is going to be attractive to me.  And, let me amend that it's not about the money as much as it is about him being a reasonably decent provider, a daddy type.

I'm not stuck on race, but the next thing I look for is gentleness, friendliness and playfulness.  I find ego incredibly unattractive, so if a guy looks at me like he expects I should be lusting after him, then I'm probably going to be turned off.  But if he's just average looking, with a warm smile, and tells me a cute joke and gives me a naughty wink, I probably won't care how big his tummy is or that his hair is disappearing.

And then I'll start looking to see if he's got a bulge. 0
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on July 18, 2019, 04:34:37 PM
Yo Kame, my eyes are up here!
Title: Re: girls ogling guys bulges
Post by: MintJulie on July 18, 2019, 05:07:00 PM
Question: how common is it for women to surreptitiously check out a guy's pants bulge, in a public or ordinary encounter setting?

Pretty much never.   The only time I may have noticed is when it's obvious, like a tight speedo at the pool.   But it is not, checking him out.....it's more because it's so flippin obvious that you can't help but look.   But that is the only look.   

If a guy is dressed so that you can get a good idea of what is underneath, then he likely is doing it on purpose (imo). 

That pretty much makes other questions you asked n/a


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on July 18, 2019, 05:19:50 PM
Probably a lot more common for men pretending to be women to ask “the women” about.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on July 18, 2019, 07:09:26 PM
Only Hershels.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on July 18, 2019, 07:33:29 PM
Only Hershels.



Does this mean I need to change my profile pic?

Never mind, the one up now is anatomically accurate.
Title: Re: girls ogling guys bulges
Post by: IdleBoast on July 20, 2019, 11:46:27 AM
Question: how common is it for women to surreptitiously check out a guy's pants bulge, in a public or ordinary encounter setting? I do this quite frequently actually, but I'd like to know where on this behavior line I fall, in comparison to others.


According to my wife, she and her friends are much more likely to check for the "typically male" shape - big chest, broad shoulders, firm stomach - and a firm voice.

They are much more into Thor & Captain America than Loki & Hawkeye

Nick Fury has the voice, but not the body (tiny, tiny Spiderman spoiler - and certainly not the legs!)

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: BurningSkeleton on September 09, 2019, 03:29:08 PM
Question for women here who have fantasies about submission to male authority. How difficult do you find it to reconcile these feelings with your actual lives?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: psiberzerker on September 09, 2019, 05:25:01 PM
How difficult do you find it to reconcile these feelings with your actual lives?

As with any sexual thoughts, and feelings, they tend to be more disruptive to our lives when they're not satisfied.  That goes for men, women, non-binary, dominant, submissive, switch, gay, straight, and bisexual. 

A pretty good example is Virgins, let's say at work, and daydreaming about their unsatisfied fantasies, instead of focusing on work.  Submissive women aren't especially different with regards to that.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hunter-Seeker on December 24, 2019, 02:47:14 AM
I've seen women at the beach wearing their one-piece swimsuit pulled or rolled down, sometimes just when lying down but sometimes when walking around. I was wondering, what's the reasoning behind that? It just seems weird to wear something in a way that it's not designed for, instead of a bikini bottom of some sort.

Is it to have a quicker way to cover up if the situation changes into one where being topless would feel uncomfortable? What sort of situations would these be?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
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Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
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Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on May 05, 2020, 01:36:53 AM

http://www.kristensboard.com/forums/index.php?topic=65854.0


This question popped up and was discussed somewhere else as well, though I can't recall where.

For the record, I can, but I never would...


I thought there was a thread also.  I think I might have been thinking of "Eat your own" or something like that.

You can?    Okay you guys are all WAY more flexible than me.  

And for the record, I wouldn't either.  

Maybe this is weird of me or maybe not.  If I could I most definitely would.  I would even during sex if the positioning is possible.  Switch between penetration and oral with moving... seems more pleasurable for the guys, but still.

I have put my fingers in my mouth before, during, and after masturbating. I have done the same with toys and men.  I don't hesitate to suck on my partner after we've had our fun.  I am very much aware of what I taste like.  So I'm not understanding why my fellow KB ladies would not orally please themselves if they could.  Surely you stimulate yourselves when the need arises what difference is it if it's your fingers, toy, or your own tongue?  Other than comfort because it cant be easy to breath bent in half like that.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 05, 2020, 02:53:46 PM

So I'm not understanding why my fellow KB ladies would not orally please themselves if they could. Surely you stimulate yourselves when the need arises what difference is it if it's your fingers, toy, or your own tongue?  Other than comfort because it cant be easy to breath bent in half like that.


You answered your own question. It's extremely uncomfortable to remain in that position for long, and yes, it quickly becomes hard to breath.

When seeking self-pleasure, comfort and relaxation are highly efficient...




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: FaceInTheFrost on June 10, 2020, 10:57:54 PM
I lost my virginity to a somewhat older woman (six years older, when that age difference meant quite a lot), and she later told me that she got off on the idea of being someone else's first, of being in a position of sexual mentorship, etc. I wonder, how common is that of a fantasy among women?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on June 10, 2020, 11:40:37 PM

I lost my virginity to a somewhat older woman (six years older, when that age difference meant quite a lot), and she later told me that she got off on the idea of being someone else's first, of being in a position of sexual mentorship, etc. I wonder, how common is that of a fantasy among women?


Anecdotally, it seems to be a relatively widespread fantasy. And if not "taking" someone's virginity, at least serving as a "sexual mentor" for a younger person, age and experience vs. youth and inexperience, etc.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on June 11, 2020, 01:56:15 AM
All I needed was a friend to lend a guiding hand
But you turned into a lover, and, mother, what a lover you wore me out
All you did was wreck my bed, and in the morning, kick me in the head
Oh, Maggie, I couldn't have tried any more
You led me away from home 'cause you didn't wanna be alone
You stole my heart, I couldn't leave you if I tried
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: watcher1 on June 11, 2020, 02:15:46 AM
All I needed was a friend to lend a guiding hand
But you turned into a lover, and, mother, what a lover you wore me out
All you did was wreck my bed, and in the morning, kick me in the head
Oh, Maggie, I couldn't have tried any more
You led me away from home 'cause you didn't wanna be alone
You stole my heart, I couldn't leave you if I tried


Rod Stewart,   Maggie May, 1971. Good song.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on June 11, 2020, 02:41:12 AM
All I needed was a friend to lend a guiding hand
But you turned into a lover, and, mother, what a lover you wore me out
All you did was wreck my bed, and in the morning, kick me in the head
Oh, Maggie, I couldn't have tried any more
You led me away from home 'cause you didn't wanna be alone
You stole my heart, I couldn't leave you if I tried


Rod Stewart,   Maggie May, 1971. Good song.
Good song and words to live by. :D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MrCasual on September 08, 2020, 10:28:02 PM
Do women actually have an interest in CFNM? Or is that just a male fantasy?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 09, 2020, 01:20:29 AM
Do women actually have an interest in CFNM? Or is that just a male fantasy?

I don't.  But I'm only one person.  I'm sure there are women who are into it.

There was this one time though....  um, yeah, but I can't won't talk about it.  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on September 09, 2020, 01:42:54 AM
Not really my thing.  It seems more like a female dom, male sub thing to me.  However, if you go the other way with it...
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Gonfalon on September 09, 2020, 02:17:20 AM
Rod Stewart,   Maggie May, 1971. Good song.

1971? For real?

Back in the day, one of my friends dated Rod. Just the one time and before he made it big.

And yes, I wear my age well.  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Athos_131 on September 09, 2020, 02:23:22 AM

Do women actually have an interest in CFNM? Or is that just a male fantasy?

I don't.  But I'm only one person.  I'm sure there are women who are into it.

There was this one time though....  um, yeah, but I can't talk about it. 

Can't and won't are different verbs.

#BlackLivesMatter

#BanTheNaziFromKB
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on September 09, 2020, 03:46:31 PM

Do women actually have an interest in CFNM? Or is that just a male fantasy?

I don't.  But I'm only one person.  I'm sure there are women who are into it.

There was this one time though....  um, yeah, but I can't talk about it. 
I dunno...maybe if I offer the right price...
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 09, 2020, 06:56:41 PM

Can't and won't are different verbs.

True.   I used the wrong one.  

Fixed.   Thank you, Athos.

Do women actually have an interest in CFNM? Or is that just a male fantasy?

I don't.  But I'm only one person.  I'm sure there are women who are into it.

There was this one time though....  um, yeah, but I can't won't talk about it.  
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on September 10, 2020, 04:21:27 PM
I'm fairly certain many of you girls have interacted with guys who have been absolute creeps. So how do you go about getting them to—for want of a better phrase—stand down? And does it always work?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on September 10, 2020, 04:32:51 PM
I'm fairly certain many of you girls have interacted with guys who have been absolute creeps. So how do you go about getting them to—for want of a better phrase—stand down? And does it always work?

Snobbery.  I act like a complete uptight self important bitch.  Basically a Kardashian.  If that doesn't really work we have our friends.  Wherever the guy is, whoever he is most interested in is placed on the other side of the group as often as possible.

Then if need be, we find another group of guys who dont really seem interested or are there for other reasons, and we do talk with them, or we speak with the bartender.  More often than not if you make a big enough seen near other guys, they will try to help...  I have slept with the help on two occasions.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on September 10, 2020, 05:35:37 PM
I'm fairly certain many of you girls have interacted with guys who have been absolute creeps. So how do you go about getting them to—for want of a better phrase—stand down? And does it always work?

Super easy, I would just start to talk. Usually, they look at me wondering if I'm drunk off my ass, at first.  Then realization kicks in and they walk away. 
Success rate:  100%
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on September 10, 2020, 06:04:50 PM
I'm fairly certain many of you girls have interacted with guys who have been absolute creeps. So how do you go about getting them to—for want of a better phrase—stand down? And does it always work?

Super easy, I would just start to talk. Usually, they look at me wondering if I'm drunk off my ass, at first.  Then realization kicks in and they walk away. 
Success rate:  100%

That's just awful.  Sure it needs out the absolute jerks, but that is just terrible.  Somebody should kick them in their tiny useless junk.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on September 10, 2020, 07:19:35 PM

I'm fairly certain many of you girls have interacted with guys who have been absolute creeps. So how do you go about getting them to—for want of a better phrase—stand down? And does it always work?


Super easy, I would just start to talk. Usually, they look at me wondering if I'm drunk off my ass, at first.  Then realization kicks in and they walk away. 
Success rate:  100%


This is slightly off-topic, since it doesn't deal with guys who are "absolutely creeps," just regular guys, and often nice guys.

Initially, when a guy would ask me out, I would politely decline. After a couple of years I realized that was silly and counter-productive, and now I typically say something like, "I'm gay, but if you'd like to go out with me for dinner or a drink, I'd like to do that."

It preserves their egos (and yes, I realize that's a stereotype), perfectly clarifies the situation, and I've made some wonderful "guy friends" in the process.

Although, there was one time about 10 years ago when I was in a bar with 4 or 5 other women. At one point, two slightly tipsy guys wandered over to our table, and started with the whole, "Hello, Ladies!" routine. Two of the women were very attractive, and they had their eyes on then. They tried polite brush-offs, they refused offered drinks, and they got to the point of direct and firm refusal. When that still didn't work, one of the two women screamed at the top of her lungs, "Get your hands off me you fucking pervert!" Everyone in the bar heard it, and the two guys were met with dozens of evil stares. They slinked away. 



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: BlakeMather on October 01, 2020, 03:06:18 PM
On the assumption you're straight... would it make a difference between a man or woman arousing you? If so, what's the difference. To answer it from my POV, I can't make that disconnect. Gotten plenty of hand and blow jobs from women. A guy gave me a hand job when I was drunk and I felt nothing, only guilt and disgust afterwards. Not being homophobic, just curious
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 01, 2020, 03:59:59 PM
Of course there is a difference, however, I wouldn't say that I'd feel guilty, and I probably wouldnt use the word disgusted.  Indifferent, maybe embarrassed, but I would probably be more curious as to what aroused me in the first place. 

I have no sexual attraction to other women, so if suddenly my friend Kim got me aroused, I'd most likely excuse myself and go have a session with my journal to try and figure out why. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: JimOfWales on December 17, 2020, 08:53:22 PM

Is it that scary for a girl to be asked to play rough with a guys junk. 

I like a good squeeze of my marbles.  Try to crush them in your tiny hand. it makes me so much harder.  Use your teeth on when sucking me.  I love the pain.

I have scared away a few girls over the past few years.  I am scaring awy girls of my age.  I might need an older woman with experience.  30 something.  But I am25 an not slick enough to be able to find a 30 something lady to bring pain to my johny boy.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on December 17, 2020, 10:33:04 PM
Obviously when we're new at it, we dont know how rough we can be.  We grow up believing that they are sensitive and you need to be careful with them.  We hear about how painful it can be for you guys when we hit or kick them out of anger or self defense, so during foreplay we generally to be careful and treat them gingerly.

When a guy asks us to be rough two things can go through out minds.  One, how rough can we go.  A little more pressure, or do you want us to try and crush them in our hands.  And more important, if he likes it rough, will he be rough with me.  Not every woman likes to be slapped or choked, so when you ask for us to get rough, we will wonder what you have in store for us.  That thought is probably what scares them away.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jbird4 on December 18, 2020, 10:21:18 PM
Depends on the person.  I am a man and despite what my wife may say, am still in possession of my balls.   I’ve never wanted anyone to be rough.   A caress actually can be a little scary for me.   Maybe I’m different. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: ObiDongKenobi on December 19, 2020, 09:00:31 PM
Depends on the person.  I am a man and despite what my wife may say, am still in possession of my balls.   I’ve never wanted anyone to be rough.   A caress actually can be a little scary for me.   Maybe I’m different. 

No you're not  ;D

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on December 19, 2020, 10:00:07 PM
We included rough play in our Femdom lifestyle until menopause hit and most activity stopped.

In addition to spankings and pegging, ball punishment was included.  There was hitting and kicking...all moderate without the danger of damage. Wife/Mistress would enjoy checking my "sack" after a session and seeing how red the skin got.

Most memorable was a period of a couple weeks when she had extra work that required lots of overtime. As a morning person, she preferred leaving at 5 AM and getting home by 5 PM. I was made to kneel in the open front door as she left. Turning around Mistress would deliver 4 or 5 kicks to "the boys". I was in full view of the neighborhood, but it was doubtful anyone was stirring. As she drove off, there was no doubt who was in charge in our home.

All though there is no play anymore, there is still a couple remnants. For instance, she just turned 82. We kept the tradition of the Birthday spanking. As her sub, I, of course, had to take her spanking.  Damn, 82 is a lot. Monday I'll be expecting my 75.

Back to topic of balls.  I'm still kept in panties. When dressing to go out, I have to stand before the wife for her approval of my panty selection. She then delivers three or four whack to my "package" as a reminder of who is still in charge.  With a dull ache between my legs, I finish dressing and leave to run errands. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 19, 2020, 10:05:59 PM
Two words come to mind.

Ouch.     

and the second word.

OUCH

I can flick Dan's testicles lightly with my pointer finger and he'll yelp like a little girl.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on December 19, 2020, 10:14:31 PM
I think some guys are more sensitive than others. Or maybe the years of "punishment" have toughened up my pair.

A friend I fool around with can barely stand to be touched. He curled up in a ball once when I got too aggressive while performing oral sex on him. My chin bumped into his "sacred sack", and he was out of action for a few minutes. ;D 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on December 20, 2020, 10:47:14 AM
Two words come to mind.

Ouch.     

and the second word.

OUCH

I can flick Dan's testicles lightly with my pointer finger and he'll yelp like a little girl.
Yeah, they are pretty sensitive things, unless you have rubber balls, or figurative steel ones like msslave. On the upside, light finger around the package feels pretty good, and can even help a guy relax enough to sleep.

Which brings up the question: what sensitive areas can guys run a finger around to help you relax, and especially enough to help you sleep?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on December 20, 2020, 02:33:13 PM

Which brings up the question: what sensitive areas can guys run a finger around to help you relax, and especially enough to help you sleep?

I love having my back rubbed.  Not massaged, just him rubbing his hand gently over my back.  That is the best.   We play a game where he writes words with his fingertip or draws a picture and I have to guess what it is.
Any touching on my front side, my neck, on my legs or feet, is exciting to me.

Touching that is relaxing enough to sleep?  Nothing.  Any touching is a stimulation and my synapse are pinging my brain.  Best thing for sleeping for me is spooning with my back to Dan and his arm over me holding me close.  It's my favorite place in the whole world.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on December 20, 2020, 04:40:40 PM
I'll agree with what MJ said.  Upper back, and you dont really even need to rub it, just having the warmth of you hand, or chest, will relax me.  Also I can find it a bit relaxing if you gently rub my forehead, run fingers slowly through my hair.  Like a slow gentle brushing with your fingers.  Foot rubs dont hurt either.

But there has been nothing where I'll say, "touch me there, I need to get some shut eye."
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Army of One on December 20, 2020, 09:13:24 PM
I'm beginning to sense a pattern here. My wife finds light touching on the back quite relaxing as well, although she especially likes it in bed before she sleeps. Maybe it's the same with all ladies?

But there has been nothing where I'll say, "touch me there, I need to get some shut eye."
Well, I didn't mean something like a Vulcan nerve pinch. I know it isn't a switch.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 20, 2020, 10:09:24 PM
Manhandling my cock and balls is not a question of submissiveness. To me it’s a question of dominance. When I slap my stiff pole on her face and tell her to hurt me, I laugh at her feeble efforts to do so. She can slap it, pinch it, bite it, nothing is going to dissuade it.  If anything, it simply swells larger.  It’s going deep in her holes, places no other man has ever been before.  I love the feeling of surrender, when she realizes she has no defenses left.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on December 30, 2020, 09:28:15 PM
Okay, get out the wet noodles.  I think I am in for a lashing.  I’m having sexy talk with a girlfriend and said, “Oh God, I’d love to rape you right now...”. TRIGGERED!  Apparently this is one word she does not want to hear in any shape, form, or fashion.  I guess in the post #metoo era, rape has become one of those taboo words, not to be uttered under any circumstance?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on December 31, 2020, 01:00:19 AM
This one strikes home hard for me.  No wet noodle needed, it wasnt what you said, but how you said it.

It took me over a year before I was comfortable enough to have sex after David.  It wasnt fully because I didnt trust men, it was because that intimacy was tarnished.  Whenever I got close to sleeping with somebody, I'd have flashbacks.  Just being nude in front of a guy made me shake.  Therapy, close friends, and a guy I trusted since childhood got me through that, so the word rape, is a touchy one for me.

I like it a little rough, and that should be no secret by now.  Push me into furniture, man handle me where you want me and what position.  Grab my neck/throat.  Even a few slaps here and there.  Call me some names and tell me that I belong to you.  Dont tell me you want to rape me.  After many many years, I've finally been able to whisper to guys that I want them to "rape me"  I know that what happens next is exactly what I want.

Just change up the words next time, see if that works.  You still get your point across, get your desires out there and use your word, and she may feel a bit safer/comfortable with it.

"I'm going to f@#$ you so hard you're going to think you've been raped."

I've been told that during some heavy petting. Nearly ripped the zipper on his pants trying to get them off.  That's just a person experience.

Im not going to tell you never say it, just be careful with it, love.  :emot_kiss:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on December 31, 2020, 07:22:09 AM
This one strikes home hard for me.  No wet noodle needed, it wasnt what you said, but how you said it.

It took me over a year before I was comfortable enough to have sex after David.  It wasnt fully because I didnt trust men, it was because that intimacy was tarnished.  Whenever I got close to sleeping with somebody, I'd have flashbacks.  Just being nude in front of a guy made me shake.  Therapy, close friends, and a guy I trusted since childhood got me through that, so the word rape, is a touchy one for me.

I like it a little rough, and that should be no secret by now.  Push me into furniture, man handle me where you want me and what position.  Grab my neck/throat.  Even a few slaps here and there.  Call me some names and tell me that I belong to you.  Dont tell me you want to rape me.  After many many years, I've finally been able to whisper to guys that I want them to "rape me"  I know that what happens next is exactly what I want.

Just change up the words next time, see if that works.  You still get your point across, get your desires out there and use your word, and she may feel a bit safer/comfortable with it.

"I'm going to f@#$ you so hard you're going to think you've been raped."

I've been told that during some heavy petting. Nearly ripped the zipper on his pants trying to get them off.  That's just a person experience.

Im not going to tell you never say it, just be careful with it, love.  :emot_kiss:

 I will happily choke,pull hair, tie up and fuck for hours, but any reference to rape is a total mood killer.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hood on January 06, 2021, 10:08:53 PM
We've always heard that gals are excited through touch but not by visual stimulation, and the opposite for men. I am surmising that that is a very individual matter for each person, but what say you ladies?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on January 06, 2021, 10:40:21 PM

We've always heard that gals are excited through touch but not by visual stimulation, and the opposite for men. I am surmising that that is a very individual matter for each person, but what say you ladies?


While I'll admit to having very few intimate experiences with men, I feel very safe in assuming that men are, in fact, very excited through touch. I mean there are likely thousands of posts on this board that give testament to that.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hood on January 06, 2021, 10:52:09 PM
Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on January 07, 2021, 01:11:44 AM
Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.

For me, I can easily be turned on by a visual.  It gets things started, but so can a scent or a few spoken words.  Anything done in a specific way that triggers that part of my brain turns me on.  Sometimes the suggestion is better than the actual visual.  Sets my mind wondering and gets me imagining.

Do I need to see him completely erect? Not necessarily, but I do appreciate the sight.

Does feeling it pressed against me during a deep kiss get me even hotter?  Oh hell's yeah.

I also don't need to see him thrusting into me.  I'm more focused on the feeling.  Where his hands are, his mouth.  Love feeling his body work against mine.

This is just me though.  My favorite position is prone, so I'm almost not even able to see anything, and I also like a good blindfold.  Keep me guessing what and where the next touch with be.

Not sure if that really answered you question. Seeing a man can turn me on, but I dont need to everything to stay there.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hood on January 07, 2021, 02:22:39 AM
Well, I know that this man is, but I also am aware that I am very visual. I just was not sure how many women are turned on by visual without the aid of actual touch from a partner.

For me, I can easily be turned on by a visual.  It gets things started, but so can a scent or a few spoken words.  Anything done in a specific way that triggers that part of my brain turns me on.  Sometimes the suggestion is better than the actual visual.  Sets my mind wondering and gets me imagining.

Do I need to see him completely erect? Not necessarily, but I do appreciate the sight.

Does feeling it pressed against me during a deep kiss get me even hotter?  Oh hell's yeah.

I also don't need to see him thrusting into me.  I'm more focused on the feeling.  Where his hands are, his mouth.  Love feeling his body work against mine.

This is just me though.  My favorite position is prone, so I'm almost not even able to see anything, and I also like a good blindfold.  Keep me guessing what and where the next touch with be.

Not sure if that really answered you question. Seeing a man can turn me on, but I dont need to everything to stay there.

Actually Shiela, you answered the question quite well, and I am deeply appreciative of your taking the time to give and extended and definitive response. I have often wondered but never felt inclined in a face to face situation to ask such a question. I truly am thankful for the short time I have been on this board that I feel comfortable in a more anonymous setting to ask questions that I have pondered often. So, once again, thank you for your frankness in your response. It helps me to understand more fully how a woman feels concerning these matters.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Renegade Gypsy on January 07, 2021, 06:14:09 AM
How many Females out there have ever met a man for a hook-up, where the man is only interested in pleasure he can give you ? I ask this, very young I was in a unfortunate accident. No ERECTION possible. Have tongue, long fingers and creative. Just curious
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Regna123 on March 23, 2021, 10:01:06 AM
I love aunt nephew incest any aunts with a good story :emot_kiss:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: purpleshoes on May 30, 2021, 02:01:41 PM
On the list of things I know very little about, menstrual cycles are near the top, so I'm not really sure how to ask this question, and it's possible that there is no definitive answer, but here goes.

If eight young women live in proximity (say college students sharing a 4-bedroom house) the question is... in any given week, how many of them are likely to be having their period?

This is not some weird riddle or even idle curiosity. The question is related to the storyline of a novel I'm editing. Unfortunately, the contract terms prohibit me from actually talking about the plot, so I can't really be much more specific, but any information provided would be appreciated.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on May 30, 2021, 02:52:24 PM
I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 30, 2021, 05:03:29 PM

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.


Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on May 30, 2021, 06:37:58 PM

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.


Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.






Thanks MissB, the issue of syncing was the first thing I thought of when I read the initial question.

Dispelling these myths, misinformation and otherwise things taken as gospel that aren’t true has never been more important than now.  We can see the incredible damage misinformation does by the example of the flawed and later debunked article claiming a connection of vaccines and autism that was the main trigger for these anti-vaxer kooks.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 30, 2021, 08:11:06 PM

I'm thinking back to when I was in the Army. In two rooms, there were 6 of us, and it almost seemed like when one was coming off, another was starting. We didnt all sync up and have them at the same time, but one of was having it every week. It just depends on the women. Sometimes they're stronger and last a day or two longer.  There is no set time as to when they start ot when they stop, so don't set your clock to them.

The difference for me, was that I was still taking birth control at the time, and since I would skip my placebo week, I really wouldn't get my period.  I actually stopped taking them for a month just to allow myself my natural cycle. After that month, I was back in them.


Sheila's correct. And this is more of a math question than a female anatomy question.

The whole thing about women's menstrual cycles "syncing" is pure myth. Back in the 1960s, a Harvard professor named Martha McClintock conduced a study among 135 women living together in a college dorm, and her date indicated a "syncing" of their menstrual cycles. This became known as the "McCintock Effect," and it was accepted as gospel. McClintock's study, however, failed to take into account a number of other factors that might have contributed to her observation, and modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.


Thanks MissB, the issue of syncing was the first thing I thought of when I read the initial question.

Dispelling these myths, misinformation and otherwise things taken as gospel that aren’t true has never been more important than now.  We can see the incredible damage misinformation does by the example of the flawed and later debunked article claiming a connection of vaccines and autism that was the main trigger for these anti-vaxer kooks.


I find the persistence of the menstrual cycles "syncing" myth to be somewhat puzzling. If nothing else, there are millions of women in same-sex relationships, and if it were a genuine phenomenon, there's be plenty if data available. I mean, two women in a relationship would "cause" it to happen much more than a bunch of girls living together in a college dorm.

Don't forget, as Sheila noted, there are many factors that might contribute to changes in the regularity of women's menstrual cycles, and those changes are scientific, and not the result of some mystical phenomenon of women living in close proximity to each other.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: _priapism on May 30, 2021, 08:35:21 PM
I think evolutionary forces, favoring the propagation of species, would disfavor synching.  Otherwise you’d have entire reproductive groups menstruating at the same time, and a narrow fertile window for the herd each month.  Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on May 30, 2021, 09:06:26 PM
modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.

Note to self.. vaginas do in fact not communicate with each other via bluetooth.  :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 30, 2021, 10:11:16 PM

modern studies indicate that syncing does not occur.


Note to self.. vaginas do in fact not communicate with each other via bluetooth.  :emot_laughing:


But they sometimes communicate via text and email...


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on May 31, 2021, 08:59:07 AM

I find the persistence of the menstrual cycles "syncing" myth to be somewhat puzzling. If nothing else,





Like any myth, it persists because something about it is appealing enough to be disseminated, either by being viewed as interesting or corroborating some bias, and once broadly disseminated becomes accepted as fact.

In world history in high school I heard the teacher repeating something from our history book about during WWII the Polish army attacked tanks with cavalry charges and the Polish Air Force was destroyed on the ground.  The cavalry charges never happened.  The Polish Air Force while having antiquated planes in comparison to the Luftwaffe shot down several dozen Nazi planes against overwhelming odds, later many escaped to France and fought there, then when France fell escaped to Great Britain where they formed the Kościuszko Squadron (303) instrumental in the Battle of Britain with the highest kill ratio.  Pretty good for an air force and pilots destroyed on the ground.  It turns out what ended up in my history book had started as Nazi propaganda.

As far as menses syncing, The Big Bang Theory had the character Amy Farrah Fowler hoping that would happen to the three women on the show.  I wonder if it was a male that wrote that episode?  I wonder if some men find that myth interesting?  I didn’t other than believing it had been a recognized phenomenon, and I find everything interesting.  I now find it annoying I believed something false, but I’m also grateful to MissB for setting the record straight.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: purpleshoes on May 31, 2021, 12:14:56 PM
As ignorant as I am about the subject, I've never believed that syncing was something that actually happens.

I can tell you that syncing did not have a part in the question. As MissB said, it was more of a mathematical question.

Thank you all for your thoughts. The information was very helpful, especially Sheila's response from a similar context.

Bluetooth.  :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on May 31, 2021, 06:46:37 PM
Bluetooth.  :emot_laughing:[/size]

What if vaginas did have bluetooth and you accidentally connected a bluetooth headset to one? What kind of music would you find vaginas like?  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on May 31, 2021, 07:10:56 PM
"You can't touch this"
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on May 31, 2021, 07:23:41 PM
"You can't touch this"

:emot_laughing:

Woo 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 31, 2021, 08:39:49 PM

I find the persistence of the menstrual cycles "syncing" myth to be somewhat puzzling. If nothing else,


As far as menses syncing, The Big Bang Theory had the character Amy Farrah Fowler hoping that would happen to the three women on the show.  I wonder if it was a male that wrote that episode?  I wonder if some men find that myth interesting?  I didn’t other than believing it had been a recognized phenomenon, and I find everything interesting.  I now find it annoying I believed something false, but I’m also grateful to MissB for setting the record straight.


I recall that line from TBBT, and I took at as satirical, i.e. Amy's character was poking fun of the myth.

Myths are persistent, and the advent of the internet has enormously contributed to forwarding and re-affirming myths. One example I see all the time is about the Catholic Church denying evolution. The Catholic Church has never denied or condemned evolution, and it has accepted it as scientific fact for well over a century. Yet I've seen these false assertions about the Catholic Church and evolution literally hundreds of times.

The cycles syncing myth is something that is patently false if you only stop to consider it for a few seconds. If it was a reality, there would be an enormous body of evidence to support it, since there are thousands of sample sets of women living in close proximity.

I'm a natural skeptic, so things like this are my bread and butter.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on May 31, 2021, 08:40:33 PM
"You can't touch this"


The answer when a man is asked why he calls his wife’s menstruation Hammer time.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on May 31, 2021, 09:09:37 PM
I was going to suggest a few more song titles but noticed I was always going for the overly easy and cliched 'blood' e.g. If You Want Blood, Sabbath Bloody Sabbath

My creativity sucks  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on May 31, 2021, 10:46:10 PM
I was going to suggest a few more song titles but noticed I was always going for the overly easy and cliched 'blood' e.g. If You Want Blood, Sabbath Bloody Sabbath

My creativity sucks  :facepalm:

And here I thought I was being obvious

🎶🎶🎶🎶
It's Raining Men! Hallelujah! - It's Raining Men! Amen!
I'm gonna go out to run and let myself get
Absolutely soaking wet!
It's Raining Men! Hallelujah!
It's Raining Men! Every Specimen!
Tall, blonde, dark and lean
Rough and tough and strong and mean
🎶🎶🎶🎶
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: FaceInTheFrost on July 13, 2021, 06:11:16 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on July 13, 2021, 06:27:55 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

I usually feel a little flushed in the face. Then I can feel my heart beating, and then the sexiest thing of all happens...

my palms get sweaty  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on July 13, 2021, 06:34:02 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

I usually feel a little flushed in the face. Then I can feel my heart beating, and then the sexiest thing of all happens...

my palms get sweaty  :facepalm:

Hey, natural palm lube for when you're 'handling' Big Ben with your hands  ;D :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on August 02, 2021, 09:57:52 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

Personally, I feel myself go very still, very focused: but that's my reaction to just about anything that is outside the most familiar and routine, because I am odd that way. Then I start this intellectual denial of how I feel, until I consciously stop myself doing that: and by that time the moment has usually passed. This is why I am so useless at flirting.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sweetums on August 03, 2021, 02:57:53 AM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

Personally, I feel myself go very still, very focused: but that's my reaction to just about anything that is outside the most familiar and routine, because I am odd that way. Then I start this intellectual denial of how I feel, until I consciously stop myself doing that: and by that time the moment has usually passed. This is why I am so useless at flirting.

Let's practice.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on August 03, 2021, 01:33:09 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

Personally, I feel myself go very still, very focused: but that's my reaction to just about anything that is outside the most familiar and routine, because I am odd that way. Then I start this intellectual denial of how I feel, until I consciously stop myself doing that: and by that time the moment has usually passed. This is why I am so useless at flirting.

Let's practice.

Why do you think I am here?  :emot_kiss:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sweetums on August 03, 2021, 06:00:03 PM
How do you find that light arousal (say, by seeing a person or an image that appeals to you in day to day life) first registers physically? That could mean something localized (like tingling in certain body parts) or more general, like feeling overall warmth.

Personally, I feel myself go very still, very focused: but that's my reaction to just about anything that is outside the most familiar and routine, because I am odd that way. Then I start this intellectual denial of how I feel, until I consciously stop myself doing that: and by that time the moment has usually passed. This is why I am so useless at flirting.

Let's practice.

Why do you think I am here?  :emot_kiss:

To be known in the space of the unknown, isn't it?  :emot_kiss:  :emot_kiss:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on August 03, 2021, 08:36:05 PM

I don't want to dampen anyone's enthusiasm here, not do I have the right to do so, but there's already a "flirting thread," and this thread, which is a very important source of information, is best served by being kept on topic.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sweetums on August 03, 2021, 08:49:45 PM

I don't want to dampen anyone's enthusiasm here, not do I have the right to do so, but there's already a "flirting thread," and this thread, which is a very important source of information, is best served by being kept on topic.


I'm appropriately chastened. Insight into what women really think is vital to the realism of my stories. I will do my best to restrain my desire for immediate gratification to the proper newsgroups.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on October 04, 2021, 05:20:11 PM

I copied this pic from the "If You Had to Pick One..." thread.


(https://i2.wp.com/4.bp.blogspot.com/-gKtVPpJWeQg/T1mQHkGUg7I/AAAAAAAAO3c/CHypISj9Xes/s1600/folsom-party.jpg)


If you don't mind, some questions:

What are those silver rings around the base of the shaft on the three men? What do they do?

Is the curve of the cock of the man second from right normal, or is the ring making it do that?

Does the fact that some are circumcised and some are not have any affect on your judgement?

Looking at the four men, is the fact that the guy on the far right's cock is flaccid a turn on, a turn off, or irrelevant?

And a very impertinent question: For a woman who sees men in this context, if your first thought "I want that inside me" or "I want to take that in my mouth"?

Thanks!




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on October 04, 2021, 05:25:40 PM
3 in and the little one to suckle
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 04, 2021, 06:32:26 PM

If you don't mind, some questions:

What are those silver rings around the base of the shaft on the three men? What do they do?

Is the curve of the cock of the man second from right normal, or is the ring making it do that?

Does the fact that some are circumcised and some are not have any affect on your judgement?

Looking at the four men, is the fact that the guy on the far right's cock is flaccid a turn on, a turn off, or irrelevant?

And a very impertinent question: For a woman who sees men in this context, if your first thought "I want that inside me" or "I want to take that in my mouth"?

Thanks!



The rings are cock rings. I've never had a guy use them, but I thought they were something used to keep them hard, like blood goes in, but doesn't come out kind of things but the guy on the end isn't hard so perhaps I'm wrong there.

I've seen/experienced a few curves, it's just how the guy is. All the ones I've seen had an left or upwards curve. The up curve made more a difference that the side curve, not much. Still felt pretty much the same.

I've only been with circumcised guys, so to me, yes it makes a bit of difference, and I'd lean more towards the guy who is "cut". I'll look at them all but that's what I'm familiar with. All that "extra" skin just makes me pause and think, "what do I do with that?"

Irrelevant to me. If I'm trying to get it to rise and it does nothing then it's a turnoff, and then I begin to doubt myself, and think what's wrong with me? Does he not find me attractive?

I'll look, and I'll admire, but if I saw that in real life, I would not think, "I want some of that." Most look the same and they're nice, and some look better than others. I make my jokes here on KB, and spend quite a bit if time in "cock of the day", but it isn't until I get to know the man attached that my need to put it to use increases.

This is all just Me specific though.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on October 04, 2021, 08:30:13 PM
What are those silver rings around the base of the shaft on the three men? What do they do?

Is the curve of the cock of the man second from right normal, or is the ring making it do that?


I had no idea, until Shiela enlightened me.

Does the fact that some are circumcised and some are not have any affect on your judgement?

I honestly didn't notice.

Looking at the four men, is the fact that the guy on the far right's cock is flaccid a turn on, a turn off, or irrelevant?

Irrelevant,  I think.

And a very impertinent question: For a woman who sees men in this context, if your first thought "I want that inside me" or "I want to take that in my mouth"?

Neither: I want to ask them to do that cock-swinging dance, in a line, like a line dance.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on October 04, 2021, 09:01:06 PM
I think the first two questions should be in Ask A Male, b/c none of us know the answer.


What are those silver rings around the base of the shaft on the three men? What do they do?

Is the curve of the cock of the man second from right normal, or is the ring making it do that?


As for the other questions



Does the fact that some are circumcised and some are not have any affect on your judgement?

Looking at the four men, is the fact that the guy on the far right's cock is flaccid a turn on, a turn off, or irrelevant?

And a very impertinent question: For a woman who sees men in this context, if your first thought "I want that inside me" or "I want to take that in my mouth"?


Never been with uncircumcised. So, I guess it does.  I've heard they are not as clean.  Just always been there in my mind. Heard it long ago and it stuck with me.  Sorry if I offend anyone that says diff.

Turn on, turn off, or irrelevent.  Irrelevant.

Lastly, no, that is not my first thought. 

And Staci made the comment, "the little one to suckle" .  I never really noticed that one was smaller.  It's kind of like boobs on women.  I don't take notice of those.  Yeah, HUMONGOUS ones you can't help.  Or Super small you notice.  But these here, three are a bit larger than normal size, and a normal size in my experience. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on October 04, 2021, 09:07:43 PM
Quote from: MintJulie link=topic=60783.msg610627#msg610627

Never been with uncircumcised. So, I guess it does.  I've heard they are not as clean.  Just always been there in my mind. Heard it long ago and it stuck with me.  Sorry if I offend anyone that says diff.

English men are rarely circumcised unless Jewish: but then they don't all have straight white teeth either :-) (nor do I)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: watcher1 on October 04, 2021, 09:09:53 PM
A better view for MissB...And straighter.  8)

(https://i.postimg.cc/RZ5Bjxvy/701-1000.jpg)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 04, 2021, 09:48:50 PM

And Staci made the comment, "the little one to suckle" .  I never really noticed that one was smaller.  It's kind of like boobs on women.  I don't take notice of those.  Yeah, HUMONGOUS ones you can't help.  Or Super small you notice.  But these here, three are a bit larger than normal size, and a normal size in my experience.

Exactly this. When I first looked at this picture, the first two thing that I noticed was the aviator sunglasses for not so good reason, the next thing was that the second guy looks completely sunburnt, which brought attention to the nipple rings, it wasn't until I got to that belt thing on the last guy that I started looking at their dicks.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on October 04, 2021, 10:20:55 PM
All that "extra" skin just makes me pause and think, "what do I do with that?"

Just pull it back  ;D

One interesting thing about CT Jr is that I actually don't know whether or not I'm circumcised. There is some skin, that can cover much of the head when I'm flaccid, but not actually hide the head like with most uncircumcised dicks. Meanwhile, you don't even see any extra skin when it's erect, other than if I or someone else are giving him some strokes, and then there's actually enough skin to move around to where I don't need any lube while masturbating or getting a hand job.  8)

It's not a cleanliness issue if the person washes regularly. Some people with foreskin develop a condition where the skin becomes too tight to pull back over the head, which then also makes washing tough or even impossible, and can lead to pain and infection. ..but either the doctor did a horrible job snipping me, or the good Lord cheated me out of some foreskin, so that's never been a worry for me. I've also never cared enough about the subject to ask my parents for clarification and explain why I'm even wondering about the subject  :emot_laughing:

Sorry if that was TMI  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on October 04, 2021, 10:23:55 PM
The extra skin?

In winter we use it as a hoodie  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on October 05, 2021, 05:22:42 AM
The extra skin?

In winter we use it as a hoodie  ;D

 :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on October 05, 2021, 02:19:40 PM

The rings are cock rings. I've never had a guy use them, but I thought they were something used to keep them hard, like blood goes in, but doesn't come out kind of things but the guy on the end isn't hard so perhaps I'm wrong there.


According to the Adam & Eve web site:

"It’s no wonder that cock rings are incredibly popular—they’re one of the few sex toys that can pleasure both men and women at the same time. Penis rings work by fitting snugly around the base of the shaft, limiting blood flow from the penis. Controlling the blood flow can boost girth and length, while also helping to delay ejaculation."






Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 05, 2021, 02:42:27 PM

The rings are cock rings. I've never had a guy use them, but I thought they were something used to keep them hard, like blood goes in, but doesn't come out kind of things but the guy on the end isn't hard so perhaps I'm wrong there.


According to the Adam & Eve web site:

"It’s no wonder that cock rings are incredibly popular—they’re one of the few sex toys that can pleasure both men and women at the same time. Penis rings work by fitting snugly around the base of the shaft, limiting blood flow from the penis. Controlling the blood flow can boost girth and length, while also helping to delay ejaculation."



So I was kinda sorta right. Didn't know about the lasting longer thing... these should be standard issue for all men. 18th birthday, no more minute men.  :emot_laughing:

The extra skin?

In winter we use it as a hoodie  ;D

 :emot_laughing:

I know I said extra, but I did the quotation marks. I know what is naturally, normally there isn't extra, but for me who has never had any experience with it, it kind of is.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: watcher1 on October 05, 2021, 03:58:30 PM
Adam and Eve is still around? Wow!  I remember when they had a magazine out.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: ObiDongKenobi on October 05, 2021, 05:35:30 PM

As Sarah said, most non-jewish men in the UK are un-circumcised. A longer foreskin can contribute to a build up of smegma (https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/how-to-keep-a-penis-clean/) unless regularly washed.  I find a frequent brushing with a stiff yard broom beneficial.  ;D

I have been told that circumsized men can last longer becuse of a desensitising effect of having the bell-end exposed all the time.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: SmuDoodel on October 05, 2021, 05:51:52 PM
The extra skin?

In winter we use it as a hoodie  ;D

Lookin' Goodie In The Hoodie
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 05, 2021, 06:56:28 PM

As Sarah said, most non-jewish men in the UK are un-circumcised. A longer foreskin can contribute to a build up of smegma (https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/how-to-keep-a-penis-clean/) unless regularly washed.  I find a frequent brushing with a stiff yard broom beneficial.  ;D

I have been told that circumsized men can last longer becuse of a desensitising effect of having the bell-end exposed all the time.

Even that word smegma... just has that eww sound to it.

As for guys lasting longer. Ha. unless uncircumcised guys last 30 seconds or less I've been with a few that prove that theory completely wronf..  Minute men indeed.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: watcher1 on October 05, 2021, 08:21:53 PM

As for guys lasting longer. Ha. unless uncircumcised guys last 30 seconds or less I've been with a few that prove that theory completely wronf..  Minute men indeed.

You would be hard pressed to find a man lasting more then a minute or two with you, sexually talking that is...  ;D ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: ObiDongKenobi on October 05, 2021, 09:08:12 PM

Even that word smegma... just has that eww sound to it.



I agree.  I was turned of off a very successful UK comedy series because one of the main characters kept referring to someone else as "smeg". As for that brand of kitchen appliance...................

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on October 15, 2021, 06:17:49 PM

Do straight women like making love in the 69 position?

How about straight men?

If so, is it a part of foreplay, or is it something you carry out to its natural conclusion?

Thanks!



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on October 15, 2021, 08:05:43 PM
How about straight men?
[/b]

I honestly prefer juvenile jokes about the number way more than the position itself  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on October 15, 2021, 08:27:50 PM

Do straight women like making love in the 69 position?

How about straight men?

If so, is it a part of foreplay, or is it something you carry out to its natural conclusion?

Thanks!



One of my best first dates ended in a 69
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 15, 2021, 08:32:43 PM
I'm not really a fan of it. I've done it a few times, and it just felt awkward to me every time. I dont feel I can give him a good proper blowjob when we're doing it. If I'm on top, then I cant really use my hands all the well, if he's on top I'm way more focused on choking hazards than pleasure. Being on our sides didn't feel all that right either.

Plus I like looking up at him seeing his face, instead all I see are his balls. Dont get me wrong I like them, like looking at them, holding them, and sucking on them, but it just seems odd seeing them upside down.

As for the recieving part, it still feels great, but it feels like it's missing something like he can't get a decent angle to really get in there.

It can be fun to do it, just to change things up a bit, but it isn't something I'd want to do all the time. Now it I'm giving him a BJ, and he can reach and give me so fingers. I'll take that every day please.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on October 17, 2021, 06:22:13 PM
Ladies, I have to ask. Twerking. Why in the name of satan?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Jed_ on October 18, 2021, 02:39:30 AM
Ladies, I have to ask. Twerking. Why in the name of satan?


Why do they twerk?  Obviously I can’t answer for the ladies, but in my experience it’s because I’m fanning dollars off my palm onto their bare ass and back.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 24, 2021, 02:53:42 PM
Ladies, I have to ask. Twerking. Why in the name of satan?

I have never twerked. Shaken my butt yes, and done a few other things on the dance floor (and bedroom), but I have never actually twerked. I dont think I actually could if i tried, and i dont feel I have the butt for it.

If I were to do it, it would be for Same reason I do anything else on the dance floor, whether it looks ridiculous or not. I'm have a good time and I just do something that shows I'm having the time of my life. If you find it appealing, or not is a different story, but if I do something on the dance floor, it's because I'm enjoying myself.

Obviously the women who do it on social media are all.doingnit because the kind of guy they like enjoy seeing it. Same reason I'll share a nude pic. I like the compliments, I like that some find me attractice and desirable, and I want to know it.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on October 25, 2021, 03:32:54 AM

If I were to do it, it would be for Same reason I do anything else on the dance floor, whether it looks ridiculous or not. I'm have a good time and I just do something that shows I'm having the time of my life. If you find it appealing, or not is a different story, but if I do something on the dance floor, it's because I'm enjoying myself.


SameSies.  The dance floor is for fun.

Oh, and I've never twerked. 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: ObiDongKenobi on October 25, 2021, 01:54:53 PM


I have never twerked. Shaken my butt yes, ......

I thought that was twerking.  What is an out of step old guy missing here?

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on October 25, 2021, 03:58:18 PM


I have never twerked. Shaken my butt yes, ......

I thought that was twerking.  What is an out of step old guy missing here?

It's about the motion and body position. Some will say that all butt movement is reconsidered twerking, but that's not it.

Butt shaking (what I will do)
(https://i.postimg.cc/Dw4gzPTT/ariana-grande-butt-shake.gif)
And
(https://i.postimg.cc/0Q4432GG/20211025-085217.gif)

Twerking, what I don't/wont do
(https://i.postimg.cc/Dfsn1tPJ/download.gif)

Then there is butt bouncing, a close relative to twerking, but that's saved specifically for the bedroom. I do that as well.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: ObiDongKenobi on October 28, 2021, 12:11:09 PM

Thank you, Shiela.  KB - an invaluable educational tool.

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Cthulus Voice on December 15, 2021, 02:30:34 AM
Is grey/silver hair attractive on a middle-aged man.  I got my first grey hairs in high school  at the tender age of 16 and now at 43 im pretty much completely grey.  Most of my beard has turned grey also, save for a few persistant patches of color.  I always said i didn't care what color my hair turned as long as it stayed there, thankfully is has. Maybe its vanity,  I can't help but feel my hair color makes me come across as much older than i am and limits my ability to attract a mate.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on December 15, 2021, 07:24:18 AM
I LOVE the salt and pepper look. It just looks so distinguished and is one of the more attractive attributes of an aging man. As it get further into the salt part, the attraction doesn't start to go away, you just look older, and is replaced with a different attractiveness. I've seen some guys who were pure white in the hair, and they were sexy as hell.

If the color, or lack there of, bother you, try changing the style that you think fits the color, and something you find comfortable having on your head.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on December 15, 2021, 07:36:42 AM
I've started to find gray in my beard. Go with it. If you want to colour it, have it done properly - there's a guy in our town that looks like he uses oxblood.  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 15, 2022, 08:21:44 PM
How sensitive in general relation to the entire vagina is the Labia Majora? My wife wont answer when I chew on them a little to see. But I almost have to draw blood on them to get a reaction. Is that normal?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on February 15, 2022, 08:27:35 PM
How sensitive in general relation to the entire vagina is the Labia Majora? My wife wont answer when I chew on them a little to see. But I almost have to draw blood on them to get a reaction. Is that normal?

That depends. Is your teeth in or out?  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 15, 2022, 08:31:57 PM
How sensitive in general relation to the entire vagina is the Labia Majora? My wife wont answer when I chew on them a little to see. But I almost have to draw blood on them to get a reaction. Is that normal?

That depends. Is your teeth in or out?  ;D

I nibble and bite, but she doesn't have large outer lips (Labia Majora) so its a little work, but fun to do. like when I leave a deep hickey just above her slit, to mark it as mine.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on February 15, 2022, 08:55:08 PM
hickeys in that region are not appreciated. Gentle is the word.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 15, 2022, 08:58:17 PM
hickeys in that region are not appreciated. Gentle is the word.

Very true, but last night she wanted one, so I must oblige. Shes been wanting it a bit rougher lately, so short of just hitting her, I try to not leave marks on her, but she bought a studded paddle and im like wah?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on February 15, 2022, 11:52:56 PM
How sensitive in general relation to the entire vagina is the Labia Majora?
Considering the labia major's main purpose is to protect, it isn't as sensitive as my clit or the entrance to my vagina, but it's more sensitive than say my inner thigh.


Is that normal?

What is normal? For her that is normal, for me, not so much. Definitely not that hard anyways. So, Is she the normal one or am I? Everything is different for each woman. Some of us can't climax without clit stimulation. Some, like me, are able to have an orgasm through penetration alone. And some of us have never experienced an orgasm, so to ask if it's normal is rather improbable to answer. However in my social circle, I can't remember any of my friends saying they think it feels great, or feels nothing when being bitten.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: weysally on March 01, 2022, 06:07:18 PM
A mirror thread for males that have questions about the female experience.

Answer to first anticipated question:

My nipples get hard in response to the temperature, not sexual excitement.
mine get hard when cold,  I think a lot of women experience this,   
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on March 16, 2022, 08:39:16 PM
I need advice. My goddaughter has a birthday tomorrow. Her mother has stopped talking to me. After what she told me, that doesn't bother me at all. We've had fights before but access to the kids was never blocked. Until the last time.

Do I keep reaching out to my daughter and son? It's just kills me that I went from being called before even before her father, to someone who seemingly does not exist.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on March 16, 2022, 09:00:46 PM
My advice from personal experience.

DO NOT STOP TRYING.

I wish from the very bottom of my soul that my dad had tried harder earlier on. Would have gone to the end of the earth to try with me. I now know that he did try, but my mother blocked ever single attempt which made me think he wanted nothing to do with me. Turned me against him, so when he put more effort into trying, I wanted nothing to do with him. She lied to me and instead of trying to figure it out for myself, I just stopped talking with him. Even after my Aunt and Cousin tried to get me to listen, I would not hear them out.

It wasnt until after all the emotional and physical abuse that i reached out to him, and regretted not doing so earlier.

I feel no harm can come from you showing that you care.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on March 16, 2022, 09:22:14 PM
My advice from personal experience.

DO NOT STOP TRYING.

I wish from the very bottom of my soul that my dad had tried harder earlier on. Would have gone to the end of the earth to try with me. I now know that he did try, but my mother blocked ever single attempt which made me think he wanted nothing to do with me. Turned me against him, so when he put more effort into trying, I wanted nothing to do with him. She lied to me and instead of trying to figure it out for myself, I just stopped talking with him. Even after my Aunt and Cousin tried to get me to listen, I would not hear them out.

It wasnt until after all the emotional and physical abuse that i reached out to him, and regretted not doing so earlier.

I feel no harm can come from you showing that you care.

Thank you. I think I just needed to hear that. It's just so disheartening to hit a wall time and again
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Asmodel on May 18, 2022, 06:09:29 PM
Is it really true?
That witnessing a guy catching things mid-air while they fall, (E.g. this  gif )
(https://c.tenor.com/LzgF8ZooJaQAAAAC/spiderman-spidey.gif)
Is considered as excitable for women/ can excite women?
Or is it just an urban myth?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on May 18, 2022, 06:28:53 PM
Maybe for some, I would be amazed, but I wouldn't use the word excited by it.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on May 18, 2022, 06:53:20 PM

Is it really true?

That witnessing a guy catching things mid-air while they fall, (E.g. this  gif )

(https://c.tenor.com/LzgF8ZooJaQAAAAC/spiderman-spidey.gif)

Is considered as excitable for women/ can excite women?

Or is it just an urban myth?


As everyone who has seen that movie knows, it certainly worked for Mary Jane Watson.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on May 18, 2022, 06:55:02 PM
If it were true, jugglers would get all the women
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on May 18, 2022, 07:00:37 PM
If it were true, jugglers would get all the women

And if actually be a baseball fan... I didn't lose my virginity to my first because he could catch, I lost it to him because he was funny and hot.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 01:46:56 AM
An odd question came to mind today.

I was looking at the pick a hole pic thread and noticed a flaw in a woman's design for her under carriage.

I noticed some vulva's and Labia do not cover what I assume they are meant to protect, the vaginal opening. I know all women are made differently but if the job of the labia is to protect and conceal the vaginal hole, then it seems its not doing its job in some cases. Weird?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on June 08, 2022, 01:58:44 AM
I will say that for the most part, 8n that particular thread the women are spread open. Their legs are open and in most cases in a position that makes entry easier. Or they are bent over and "presenting" which can have the same effect.  As I stand in my kitchen if I were to reach down between my legs, I'm 100% certain my labia are doing an excellent job...

...Yep, they are earning their pay.

As soon as I bend over and spread my legs, everything becomes more accessible for you fellas...

Check and check.

I'm not sure which picture you're referencing though, but I'm betting this is the case.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 02:14:45 AM
I will say that for the most part, 8n that particular thread the women are spread open. Their legs are open and in most cases in a position that makes entry easier. Or they are bent over and "presenting" which can have the same effect.  As I stand in my kitchen if I were to reach down between my legs, I'm 100% certain my labia are doing an excellent job...

...Yep, they are earning their pay.

As soon as I bend over and spread my legs, everything becomes more accessible for you fellas...

Check and check.

I'm not sure which picture you're referencing though, but I'm betting this is the case.

http://www.pezporn.com/media/images/4/shaved-teenage-pussy/shaved-teenage-pussy-72384.jpg

If you notice, her happy hole is just outside of her nice looking lips. My understanding from classes, my wife, even my daughters growing up (when their mother would hand me the ointment to help her with my oldest, when she was changing the second daughter.) was that the anus and vaginal was close to each other. But diagrams in the sex ed books and medical encyclopedias show that the vaginal opening was supposed to reside in the middle or slightly lower than the middle of the labia. My question remains, a mistake, or faulty quality control on mother nature's lady factory?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on June 08, 2022, 02:28:54 AM
Here. Do I have the same problem as her?

(https://i.postimg.cc/Hk518shH/20201129-134557.jpg)

It's all about her position.

Now you're talking about where "the hole" is with reality vs diagrams and pics in books. Well I've never seen medical books with an actual photo of a real vulva and vagina.  They have all been drawn pictures. So I guess the pictures were just interpretations of the artist, or maybe just made that way to help cypher the different parts of our genitalia.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 02:38:01 AM
Here. Do I have the same problem as her?

(https://i.postimg.cc/Hk518shH/20201129-134557.jpg)

It's all about her position.

Now you're talking about where "the hole" is with reality vs diagrams and pics in books. Well I've never seen medical books with an actual photo of a real vulva and vagina.  They have all been drawn pictures. So I guess the pictures were just interpretations of the artist, or maybe just made that way to help cypher the different parts of our genitalia.

A little. But yours is not as exposed as hers. Also, you have a yummy looking pussy, btw. One I could waste hours on with my tongue. Wife likes it too. But my point is, to me, the vaginal opening should be a little higher, for there to me, to do what I suppose they are supposed to do. Your labia minora is doing job of both in your pic. Your pussy looks like it received all the love it deserves, but that tight, not puffy labia major is just perfect. No flattery, but to me and my wife its exquisite.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on June 08, 2022, 03:49:29 AM
The space between the vagina and the anus is called the perineum. And I have always noticed that some women have a very small one, and some women have some real estate. Also, when you spread and pull the knees towards the tits, it seems to stretch that area out and increase the distance between the portals.  It’s a fun place to nibble and lick on your tongue’s journey between the clitoris and anus, and back. Lots of nerve endings. Very sensitive.

I’ve just always wondered if women who have their anus right next to their vaginal opening don’t get more infections, because of the proximity of fecal bacteria.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on June 08, 2022, 03:51:09 AM
Here. Do I have the same problem

No problems. Flawless.

(https://i.imgur.com/i0ZgfTD.png)

Woo. Woo! Woo!! WOO!!! WWWOOO!!! 💦

Sorry  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 05:16:01 AM
The space between the vagina and the anus is called the perineum. And I have always noticed that some women have a very small one, and some women have some real estate. Also, when you spread and pull the knees towards the tits, it seems to stretch that area out and increase the distance between the portals.  It’s a fun place to nibble and lick on your tongue’s journey between the clitoris and anus, and back. Lots of nerve endings. Very sensitive.

I’ve just always wondered if women who have their anus right next to their vaginal opening don’t get more infections, because of the proximity of fecal bacteria.

I nibble my wifes too. but she has a smaller distance, and scars from multiple Episiotomies. My ultimate point was that there was a flaw in the female design where the Labia Major, and Minora in some cases does not look like it protects the Vaginal opening. It seemed to me like mother nature wanted to protect the clit and urethra more than the baby hole. But thanks to you guys, I do not see it as a fatal flaw, but a curious one. Like how some male foreskins are longer or shorter than others.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: DeviationElevation83 on June 08, 2022, 04:08:43 PM
[/move]
Here. Do I have the same problem as her?

(https://i.postimg.cc/Hk518shH/20201129-134557.jpg)

It's all about her position.

Now you're talking about where "the hole" is with reality vs diagrams and pics in books. Well I've never seen medical books with an actual photo of a real vulva and vagina.  They have all been drawn pictures. So I guess the pictures were just interpretations of the artist, or maybe just made that way to help cypher the different parts of our genitalia.

A visual representation of me when I saw your picture   :o

https://giphy.com/gifs/hungry-winnie-the-pooh-food-oVfNppMFsuouI (https://giphy.com/gifs/hungry-winnie-the-pooh-food-oVfNppMFsuouI)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on June 08, 2022, 06:19:49 PM


My ultimate point was that there was a flaw in the female design where the Labia Major, and Minora in some cases does not look like it protects the Vaginal opening.


I find your choice of words here to be curious.

You imply that someone or something sat down and literally designed the female anatomy, but made a flaw in the design.

Sheila is correct: In the photos you have posted, the women have all stretched or contorted their bodies, thereby elongating things.

All women are different. And evolution happens.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 08:31:07 PM


My ultimate point was that there was a flaw in the female design where the Labia Major, and Minora in some cases does not look like it protects the Vaginal opening.


I find your choice of words here to be curious.

You imply that someone or something sat down and literally designed the female anatomy, but made a flaw in the design.

Sheila is correct: In the photos you have posted, the women have all stretched or contorted their bodies, thereby elongating things.

All women are different. And evolution happens.

I could tell that there is some minor elongation, but for the the hole to entirely not be protected in some cases is odd to me. I am not trying to start some metaphysical vs evolutionary debate. And yes Miss Barbara, I have pointed it out in the few posts on the subject that women are all wholly and wonderfully beautiful and unique. And my wife explained that some postures, and positions will make it look that way, but it still confuses me, as to how far it can leave its supposed protection. Evolution did some cool things, but in my honest opinion, it is, nor ever has been a perfect system, churning out perfect beings, its more "Does this work, if yes, lets roll with it, if no, find anything better." Because honestly, the almost perfect system of reproduction would be hermaphroditic.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on June 08, 2022, 09:18:54 PM
I could tell that there is some minor elongation, but for the the hole to entirely not be protected in some cases is odd to me. I am not trying to start some metaphysical vs evolutionary debate. And yes Miss Barbara, I have pointed it out in the few posts on the subject that women are all wholly and wonderfully beautiful and unique. And my wife explained that some postures, and positions will make it look that way, but it still confuses me, as to how far it can leave its supposed protection. Evolution did some cool things, but in my honest opinion, it is, nor ever has been a perfect system, churning out perfect beings, its more "Does this work, if yes, lets roll with it, if no, find anything better." Because honestly, the almost perfect system of reproduction would be hermaphroditic.

You should also take into consideration that the labia are there to protect during sex as well. The vagina stretches forward towards the clit and not back towards the butt. When you're thrusting in, the labia close around the penis and rub against it in an attempt to clear any unwanted things from getting inside our vaginas.

Some are.just more predominant than others, ita not a flaw in design or change in evolution, more a genetic trait of each person. After this we can go to ask a male a question and discuss why some foreskin is tight and others look like the nose of a diseased old anteater. 🤢
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: DomandBiM on June 08, 2022, 09:41:27 PM
personally .. I'm not seeing any problem there at all
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 09:46:18 PM
I could tell that there is some minor elongation, but for the the hole to entirely not be protected in some cases is odd to me. I am not trying to start some metaphysical vs evolutionary debate. And yes Miss Barbara, I have pointed it out in the few posts on the subject that women are all wholly and wonderfully beautiful and unique. And my wife explained that some postures, and positions will make it look that way, but it still confuses me, as to how far it can leave its supposed protection. Evolution did some cool things, but in my honest opinion, it is, nor ever has been a perfect system, churning out perfect beings, its more "Does this work, if yes, lets roll with it, if no, find anything better." Because honestly, the almost perfect system of reproduction would be hermaphroditic.

You should also take into consideration that the labia are there to protect during sex as well. The vagina stretches forward towards the clit and not back towards the butt. When you're thrusting in, the labia close around the penis and rub against it in an attempt to clear any unwanted things from getting inside our vaginas.

Some are.just more predominant than others, ita not a flaw in design or change in evolution, more a genetic trait of each person. After this we can go to ask a male a question and discuss why some foreskin is tight and others look like the nose of a diseased old anteater. 🤢

Too true, like the shape of the head of the penis is theorized to be a scoop, to remove a competitors load for the new fucker to deposit his load. It is a beautiful mystery. Thank you all for walking down this road with me. Even female Hyenas have a penis.

Do hyenas girls have penis?
All female spotted hyenas have functional penises. They use it pee, signal, anally mount males & females for dominance, and give birth. Intersex plumbing is found in ALL females of the spotted hyena (Crocuta crocuta) of Tanzania—in which the females have penises nearly indistinguishable from those of the males.

We live in a world.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 08, 2022, 09:46:45 PM
personally .. I'm not seeing any problem there at all

Neither do I, its as I said, a curiosity.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 30, 2022, 03:17:28 AM
a question: Does hose or panty hose count as underwear? or do you really need panties to wear them?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hilda on June 30, 2022, 03:21:36 AM
a question: Does hose or panty hose count as underwear? or do you really need panties to wear them?

Like this, you mean?

(https://i.imgur.com/KBjA4l8.jpg)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on June 30, 2022, 03:25:49 AM
(https://i.imgur.com/Gmh76Da.png)

  :emot_thdrool: :emot_thdrool: :emot_thdrool:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 30, 2022, 04:05:29 AM
Why yes to you both. Thank you.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on June 30, 2022, 04:16:57 PM
The images show exactly why I personally need to wear panties. Since they go down the leg and hold snug, too much movement can be quite uncomfortable with where that stitching. It'll move and rub, and even though you may think that sounds erotic, it's more like a saw after a while.

It all depend though, on the brand and quality of the hosiery, what you're doing, and how long you plan on wearing them. But if I'm going without panties, I'll either not wear any, or go with stockings.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on June 30, 2022, 04:52:02 PM
When I first met my present wife she wore only pantyhose. Much faster getting to the "heart of the matter". ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on June 30, 2022, 05:21:38 PM
I can’t remember the last time I noticed a woman wearing pantyhose. They’re just not in style now. 40 years ago, everyone wore pantyhose. And Russian women still wear pantyhose. But there is not a single woman at my office that wears pantyhose, and I haven’t seen them out in public. Maybe at church? I haven’t been in church in a long time. But if anybody would wear pantyhose, it would be the Baptists. Born again camel toes.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 30, 2022, 05:34:17 PM
I can’t remember the last time I noticed a woman wearing pantyhose. They’re just not in style now. 40 years ago, everyone wore pantyhose. And Russian women still wear pantyhose. But there is not a single woman at my office that wears pantyhose, and I haven’t seen them out in public. Maybe at church? I haven’t been in church in a long time. But if anybody would wear pantyhose, it would be the Baptists. Born again camel toes.

I noticed that too here at work, only the die hard office ladies wear them, while the interns, and low people on the totem pole don't. But I never knew why women would wear them, I asked my mom when I was younger, and all I got from here was "because." I like them, I think it adds a little professionalism to the attire, so that even if your works dress code is lax, it shows that you are caring about how you appear. I seen clients with their PA's who would wear whatever, even to the point of sweats. I would sit there and think, this deal isn't happening. But as sexy as they are, I agree with shiela, because I tried wearing a man thong, and all i can say is never again.The twig was uncomfortable, and it split the berries.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on June 30, 2022, 06:18:04 PM

I can’t remember the last time I noticed a woman wearing pantyhose. They’re just not in style now. 40 years ago, everyone wore pantyhose. And Russian women still wear pantyhose. But there is not a single woman at my office that wears pantyhose, and I haven’t seen them out in public. Maybe at church? I haven’t been in church in a long time. But if anybody would wear pantyhose, it would be the Baptists. Born again camel toes.


I noticed that too here at work, only the die hard office ladies wear them, while the interns, and low people on the totem pole don't. But I never knew why women would wear them, I asked my mom when I was younger, and all I got from here was "because." I like them, I think it adds a little professionalism to the attire, so that even if your works dress code is lax, it shows that you are caring about how you appear. I seen clients with their PA's who would wear whatever, even to the point of sweats. I would sit there and think, this deal isn't happening. But as sexy as they are, I agree with shiela, because I tried wearing a man thong, and all i can say is never again.The twig was uncomfortable, and it split the berries.


I can't judge based on my professional milieu, since the average age is around 20, and most of the women dress very casually.

I own one pair of panty hose, and I've one them exactly once in the past two years. And that was an event where the occasion on my dress seemed to all for them.

Sheila's right: They're very uncomfortable to wear., they're expensive, and they wear out or get runs very quickly. Plus, they don't stay in place, so you're constantly pulling and adjusting them. And while I wear panties with the on the rare occasions when I wear them, that means even more tugging and adjusting.

Otherwise, when it's cold out and I'm wearing a skirt or dress, I wear tights, as do most women under 60 these days.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on June 30, 2022, 06:25:32 PM

I can’t remember the last time I noticed a woman wearing pantyhose. They’re just not in style now. 40 years ago, everyone wore pantyhose. And Russian women still wear pantyhose. But there is not a single woman at my office that wears pantyhose, and I haven’t seen them out in public. Maybe at church? I haven’t been in church in a long time. But if anybody would wear pantyhose, it would be the Baptists. Born again camel toes.


My mom and sisters owned three pair each when I was growing up. One for church, one for formal dress, and one for special occasions. They were not very happy wearing them. My wife loves to wear them, even if not having to. I think they are pretty, but if they are such a pain in the ass, I wish I was talented enough to design a pair that works right, feels right and looks good.

I noticed that too here at work, only the die hard office ladies wear them, while the interns, and low people on the totem pole don't. But I never knew why women would wear them, I asked my mom when I was younger, and all I got from here was "because." I like them, I think it adds a little professionalism to the attire, so that even if your works dress code is lax, it shows that you are caring about how you appear. I seen clients with their PA's who would wear whatever, even to the point of sweats. I would sit there and think, this deal isn't happening. But as sexy as they are, I agree with shiela, because I tried wearing a man thong, and all i can say is never again.The twig was uncomfortable, and it split the berries.


I can't judge based on my professional milieu, since the average age is around 20, and most of the women dress very casually.

I own one pair of panty hose, and I've worn them exactly once in the past two years. And that was an event where the occasion on my dress seemed to all for them.

Sheila's right: They're very uncomfortable to wear., they're expensive, and they wear out or get runs very quickly. Plus, they don't stay in place, so you're constantly pulling and adjusting them. And while I wear panties with the on the rare occasions when I wear them, that means even more tugging and adjusting.

Otherwise, when it's cold out and I'm wearing a skirt or dress, I wear tights, as do most women under 60 these days.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: staci on June 30, 2022, 07:04:24 PM
own none wear none. Major college town here, never see them on coeds, just grandmas.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on June 30, 2022, 07:17:31 PM
I wore a pair during my cousins wedding, and I still have them tucked in the closet waiting for when Shannon gets married. I wore stocking once in the past two years, and because I didn't have a garter at the time, and I didnt want to keep.pulling them up, so I clipped them to the bottom of the blouse I was wearing tucked into my skirt.

I remember during my cousins wedding that I made a joke to her saying my date must think I've got the smallest bladder because I'm always excusing myself to the bathroom to adjust.

Oh, and full brief, or boy short panties. No thongs or string panties
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on June 30, 2022, 07:40:03 PM
Ok... fessing up. When I had my home delivery business years ago I'd wear them on chilly windy days. Days when it wasn't cold enough for long underwear, but something extra was needed to cut the wind. I remember pulling them up a lot. Wife enjoyed it as she also had me in panties. :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MintJulie on June 30, 2022, 10:38:25 PM

I had a pair, now I have none.  My brother in law needed a pair for a halloween costume.  Stretching it over his head as a bank robber.  My sister was a cop.  I'll see if I can find the picture of them.
 
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Hilda on July 01, 2022, 02:02:29 AM
Lots of creative uses for discarded pantyhose.

A couple I knew spent a great deal of money building their dream house. The basement was supposed to serve as a study, but anyone who ventured downstairs began choking and their eyes began watering. The construction company had used something very unpleasant in the wall coverings.

One option would have been to make the company re-paper and re-paint the entire basement, but my friends settled for option number two, suggested by a guy sent to evaluate the problem. They bought several sackfuls of activated charcoal and re-purposed the wife's used pantyhose by snipping off the legs, stuffing them with scoops of charcoal, and then hanging them from any available point.

It was definitely weird going down into their basement, and seeing all these massive skin-colored globules dangling from the ceiling, like alien pods waiting to burst.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on July 01, 2022, 02:09:34 AM

It was definitely weird going down into their basement, and seeing all these massive skin-colored globules dangling from the ceiling, like alien pods waiting to burst.

When I show women my massive skin colored globules dangling and waiting to burst, they tend to get offended. Just saying.

 :emot_laughing: :emot_laughing: :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Supersoftball on August 03, 2022, 01:58:50 PM
Have you ever squirted anything other than water and urine?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on August 03, 2022, 05:56:23 PM
Nope just that. Not sure what else we could. Cookaid?  But thanks for pointing out how gross it is.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on August 03, 2022, 07:32:53 PM
Nope just that. Not sure what else we could. Cookaid?  But thanks for pointing out how gross it is.

You mean you don't have a Starbucks machine installed down there, that can squirt out some Growlerccino whenever you orgasm?  ;D ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on August 03, 2022, 07:56:53 PM
Who let CT out again. :facepalm: :emot_laughing: :emot_kiss:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on August 03, 2022, 08:12:38 PM
Lol. Pull my hair slap my ass and call me your barista!
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: msslave on August 03, 2022, 08:23:07 PM
 :emot_laughing: :emot_laughing: :emot_laughing:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Clitical Thinking on August 03, 2022, 10:07:39 PM
Lol. Pull my hair slap my ass and call me your barista!

You bring the sugar, I'll bring the cream  :emot_laughing:

Sorry  :facepalm:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on August 04, 2022, 01:50:21 AM
Have you ever squirted anything other than water and urine?

Since our resident Squirtologist, Gina Marie, is not here, let me assure you that female ejaculation is real, and it is neither water nor urine. I have caused several lovers to squirt through the years, and have felt and tasted it. It is very exciting.

https://www.getfrank.co.nz/dating-romance-relationships/sex/myth-buster-female-ejaculation
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: B.anders on September 13, 2022, 10:10:11 PM
Have you ever pegged a guy? Would you? Do you do anal?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on November 23, 2022, 09:13:30 PM
Have you ever pegged a guy? Would you? Do you do anal?

That's three questions, not 'a' question :-)

No, no, yes
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on November 25, 2022, 04:53:43 PM
I do not know if its been asked but this is based off of some weird observations and discussions with my male friends:

A:) How is hierarchy established in a group of women? I noticed with my wife and her friends that there is always that one woman the group defers to in a conversation.
 
   To be juvenile: Is it based on the breast size? like "she with the biggest rack is Alpha that day?"
 
   or is it "She who is older is the leader?"

  or even "She who can kick our collective asses is Queen?"

Because sometimes its my wife who seems to be leader of the pack, and other times its the big busted lady, and a few times its been the jaded woman who calls the shots in the group. It is confusing to me, not to be derogatory or sexist. Please do not sic the Sisterhood on me, I am a poor humble man.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on November 28, 2022, 02:24:37 PM

I do not know if its been asked but this is based off of some weird observations and discussions with my male friends:

A:) How is hierarchy established in a group of women? I noticed with my wife and her friends that there is always that one woman the group defers to in a conversation.
 
   To be juvenile: Is it based on the breast size? like "she with the biggest rack is Alpha that day?"
 
   or is it "She who is older is the leader?"

  or even "She who can kick our collective asses is Queen?"

Because sometimes its my wife who seems to be leader of the pack, and other times its the big busted lady, and a few times its been the jaded woman who calls the shots in the group. It is confusing to me, not to be derogatory or sexist. Please do not sic the Sisterhood on me, I am a poor humble man.


I think the best way to answer this question is to ask yourself: How is hierarchy established in a group of men? Is it the one with the biggest cock? Is it the physically biggest guy, the guy who could kick everyone else's asses? Is there always an alpha male? What makes him the alpha male, his size or his personality?

With women, it's typically personality -- and not necessarily the dominant personality.

In the two main groups of women I get together with, M is the clear leader of the first group. She's very pretty, and very well endowed, but that has nothing to do with it. She's a natural leader and a take-charge person, and others naturally gravitate toward her. In the other group (which sometimes overlaps with the first group, C is the leader. She's nothing like M. She's extremely sweet and compassionate, and she's very funny (and she's also relatively flat-chested). People are attracted to her compassion and her sense of humor.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on November 28, 2022, 02:54:54 PM
With women, it's typically personality -- and not necessarily the dominant personality.

Agreed. When I get with my closest friends, Amanda is the clear "leader". She is by far the most outgoing of us, and she just has the confidence about her that makes you want to just agree and trust her decision. Not say we follow her blindly, but she just has that air about her that makes you want to.  Extraordinarily charismatic.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Sarah_1964 on December 02, 2022, 10:40:21 PM
How is hierarchy established in a group of women?

I don't know, but I know it's never me :-)
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on December 25, 2022, 05:00:35 PM
How is hierarchy established in a group of women?

I don't know, but I know it's never me :-)

I nominate Sarah as leader of the nice group of upstanding and fine ladies of KB for today.

Also, Miss. B, you are a lit buff, what is a woman called who loves dangerous things?

My wife for christmas got me the first volume of the Manga "The Duke of Death and His Maid." (Its saucy, but doesn't cross the line into porn.) The boy was cursed by a witch to kill every living thing he touches, but the maid, who obviously loves him no matter what, flirts hard with him, getting close to him, showing him her fishnets (think victorian morals about legs.) and her cleavage. But I do not know what kind of character she is, I think there is a name for it, but its lost on me. Also I like her uniform, a departure from the classic english and french style.

(https://i.imgur.com/cUYRNsb.png)

I think she might know something, or has an ace up her poofy sleeve. But I hope they do get together. How salacious, a duke and his servant -squee! (j/k) New fact about me: I love romance novels, if they are good, and not just some trope falls in love with a beefcake trope.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: NaughtyGeordie on November 04, 2023, 01:31:15 AM
I think as far as female orgasms go, you will be encouraged if you are providing pleasure or the right stimulus. If not verbally, her body's movements will soon let you know :aol_cunnilingus:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: NaughtyGeordie on November 04, 2023, 02:14:39 AM
I think as far as female orgasms go, you will be encouraged if you are providing pleasure or the right stimulus. If not verbally, her body's movements will soon let you know :aol_cunnilingus:
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 28, 2024, 04:43:15 PM
I found a funny Hentai to watch with the wife last night on our rare night off together. But despite it being a cartoon, there is some real life stuff mixed in. It reminded me and the wife of a fight my cousin had with his now wife, but at the time they just started dating.

Hentai:

Dude brings an old high school classmate home cause she broke up with her boyfriend, and had no place to sleep. She stays at his apartment, but quickly gets bent that he does not want to try having sex with her, and they argue until she learns he was holding back because he thinks sex should be done with people you love.

My Cousin:

Just started dating a girl when he was in college, the co ed dorm loses power and water during the winter and me being the closest, hits me up for a room in my house. We hadnt lived in the house we are in now less than a year. He brings her over, with some luggage, and I give them an unused room (this was before my last daughter was old enough to leave the nursery.) And the fight broke out that he wouldn't touch her, and he was arguing that he actually loves her and thinks that in the middle of a crisis isn't the best time to fuck. They had not even reached the third dates so... They ended up doing it out of rage, anger and spite. They now have 5 kids and are very happily married, lol.

My question for the Upperclass Ladies of KB:

Is this really a thing among women? I mean I know some guys will do anything to get a lady in bed, but in this generation of #metoo, and cancel culture, Men have to be careful. But to a woman does actually crashing at a man's place equate to consent, or at least implied consent? Or is it just a libido thing? I am confused.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on February 28, 2024, 06:43:21 PM

I found a funny Hentai to watch with the wife last night on our rare night off together. But despite it being a cartoon, there is some real life stuff mixed in. It reminded me and the wife of a fight my cousin had with his now wife, but at the time they just started dating.

Hentai:

Dude brings an old high school classmate home cause she broke up with her boyfriend, and had no place to sleep. She stays at his apartment, but quickly gets bent that he does not want to try having sex with her, and they argue until she learns he was holding back because he thinks sex should be done with people you love.

My Cousin:

Just started dating a girl when he was in college, the co ed dorm loses power and water during the winter and me being the closest, hits me up for a room in my house. We hadnt lived in the house we are in now less than a year. He brings her over, with some luggage, and I give them an unused room (this was before my last daughter was old enough to leave the nursery.) And the fight broke out that he wouldn't touch her, and he was arguing that he actually loves her and thinks that in the middle of a crisis isn't the best time to fuck. They had not even reached the third dates so... They ended up doing it out of rage, anger and spite. They now have 5 kids and are very happily married, lol.

My question for the Upperclass Ladies of KB:

Is this really a thing among women? I mean I know some guys will do anything to get a lady in bed, but in this generation of #metoo, and cancel culture, Men have to be careful. But to a woman does actually crashing at a man's place equate to consent, or at least implied consent? Or is it just a libido thing? I am confused.


I am definitely not "upper class." I grew up with three siblings, and my dad was a lower-level accountant and my mom was a teacher. They owned a house in the suburbs, had a car, and helped put four kids through college, but we grew up on a fairly tight budget. And I live pretty much the same way today. I live in a small apartment, and I only have one clothing item that cost more than $200 (and only one pair of shoes that cost more than $150, and they're running shoes).

Meanwhile, all of this has absolutely nothing to do with the #MeToo movement or "cancel culture."  To be honest, I'm not even sure what "cancel culture" means in this context.

Consent means consent, that is, a free agreement to engage in the act that is about to occur. Walking in the front door of someone's home, or staying over at someone's home, is not consent, nor even implied consent. As Toe can explain, "implied consent," is a legal term. It applies, for example, when a person drives a car down the street, and is stopped by a police officer for potential drunk driving. The fact that the person was driving a car is considered implied consent to a breathalyzer test. To take another example, if a customer takes a seat in a restaurant and orders a meal, it is implied consent that owner is obligated to provide the food, and the customer is obligated to pay for it.

Implied consent can occur in a sexual relationship. For example, a husband and wife are lying in bed, he begins stroking her body, and she turns to him and eagerly kisses him, and strokes him, etc. It is implied, without words being exchanged, that she consents to the act which is beginning.

This doesn't mean that a woman crashing at a man's place cannot consent to have sex with him. Yes, libido is very much a thing, and contrary to popular belief, women can get just as horny and yearn for sex as much as men. But it still requires consent on her part, with nothing implicit or assumed.

I hope that clears things up for you.




Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 28, 2024, 07:23:51 PM

I found a funny Hentai to watch with the wife last night on our rare night off together. But despite it being a cartoon, there is some real life stuff mixed in. It reminded me and the wife of a fight my cousin had with his now wife, but at the time they just started dating.

Hentai:

Dude brings an old high school classmate home cause she broke up with her boyfriend, and had no place to sleep. She stays at his apartment, but quickly gets bent that he does not want to try having sex with her, and they argue until she learns he was holding back because he thinks sex should be done with people you love.

My Cousin:

Just started dating a girl when he was in college, the co ed dorm loses power and water during the winter and me being the closest, hits me up for a room in my house. We hadnt lived in the house we are in now less than a year. He brings her over, with some luggage, and I give them an unused room (this was before my last daughter was old enough to leave the nursery.) And the fight broke out that he wouldn't touch her, and he was arguing that he actually loves her and thinks that in the middle of a crisis isn't the best time to fuck. They had not even reached the third dates so... They ended up doing it out of rage, anger and spite. They now have 5 kids and are very happily married, lol.

My question for the Upperclass Ladies of KB:

Is this really a thing among women? I mean I know some guys will do anything to get a lady in bed, but in this generation of #metoo, and cancel culture, Men have to be careful. But to a woman does actually crashing at a man's place equate to consent, or at least implied consent? Or is it just a libido thing? I am confused.


I am definitely not "upper class." I grew up with three siblings, and my dad was a lower-level accountant and my mom was a teacher. They owned a house in the suburbs, had a car, and helped put four kids through college, but we grew up on a fairly tight budget. And I live pretty much the same way today. I live in a small apartment, and I only have one clothing item that cost more than $200 (and only one pair of shoes that cost more than $150, and they're running shoes).

Meanwhile, all of this has absolutely nothing to do with the #MeToo movement or "cancel culture."  To be honest, I'm not even sure what "cancel culture" means in this context.

Consent means consent, that is, a free agreement to engage in the act that is about to occur. Walking in the front door of someone's home, or staying over at someone's home, is not consent, nor even implied consent. As Toe can explain, "implied consent," is a legal term. It applies, for example, when a person drives a car down the street, and is stopped by a police officer for potential drunk driving. The fact that the person was driving a car is considered implied consent to a breathalyzer test. To take another example, if a customer takes a seat in a restaurant and orders a meal, it is implied consent that owner is obligated to provide the food, and the customer is obligated to pay for it.

Implied consent can occur in a sexual relationship. For example, a husband and wife are lying in bed, he begins stroking her body, and she turns to him and eagerly kisses him, and strokes him, etc. It is implied, without words being exchanged, that she consents to the act which is beginning.

This doesn't mean that a woman crashing at a man's place cannot consent to have sex with him. Yes, libido is very much a thing, and contrary to popular belief, women can get just as horny and yearn for sex as much as men. But it still requires consent on her part, with nothing implicit or assumed.

I hope that clears things up for you.





I call bull on you not being upperclass. But not in the traditional meaning of upperclass, but my meaning, being a woman of high caliber, nice, polite, not garish. I was implying by upperclass, is that the lady's of KB are great women. Thanks for the clarity. But is it a thing with women, putting consent aside, to get mad at a man for not wanting to put out when things are falling into place for it?

In the Hentai the lady was like "I am a pretty woman here in your house crashing the night, why wont you make a move on me? she accuses him of impotency, which is kind of a nuclear button for men, and then she gets what she wants but more than she expected.

The hentai in question:

Mitasarete Mezameru Asa ni, Jimi na Choushoku o The Animation

Basically, do women get frustrated over things like that?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Pornhubby on February 28, 2024, 07:43:09 PM
Lawyer’s comments: Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. Consent should be clearly and freely communicated. A verbal and affirmative expression of consent can help both parties to understand and respect each other’s boundaries.

Consent cannot be given by individuals who are underage, intoxicated or incapacitated by drugs or alcohol, or asleep or unconscious. If someone agrees to an activity under pressure of intimidation or threat, that isn’t considered consent, because it was not given freely. Unequal power dynamics, such as engaging in sexual activity with an employee or student, also mean that consent cannot be freely given.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on February 28, 2024, 07:48:46 PM
I'm not sure about the cancel culture thing either, but my mind goes to those gym incidents where women attack men for looking at them even though they show up in skimpy skintight clothes and do squats with their ass sticking out in the middle of the gym.

What I'm getting from this is a complete double standard as well. A guy approaches and starts flirting, if she's not interested she'll turn him down and thats too bad for him, but if she approaches a guy, and he turns her down, he's an unbelievable asshole, he's stupid, and that is just rude. How dare he!

Just because they are in the same building or room, doesn't mean he's free to make whatever move he wants to and vise versa. There needed to be better communication, and understanding on both parties. If he wants to wait or he doesn't feel right about it, she needs to swallow her pride accept that, just like men do. Some of us have become too arrogant and feel we are better than we actually are.

To elaborate just a little more on the drunk driving example MissB used, there needs to be a reason to suspect drunk driving. There needs to be more signs than just a person driving. Swerving, slow driving, fast driving, etc. These all communicate a possible drunk driver, and therefore implied consent to being pulled over and given a breathalyzer. If they are just driving, and doing nothing wrong, it would be illegal for the officer to pull the person over.

There needs to be more than just staying over that says she's interested. I slept at my friends Shannon's home last weekend. If her husband suddenly came into the living room and started trying to have sex with me on the couch, regardless of how good looking he is, I'd have been mortified. Just sleeping there wasn't implied consent for him to try.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Dirtymind on February 28, 2024, 07:50:17 PM
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"I am a pretty woman here in your house crashing the night, why wont you make a move on me?

If that it's what a woman wants, and doesn't get, the answer is simple. We're morons. We don't see hints.

My ex flirted with me. Nothing. She flirted more aggresively. I missed that.

Finally, she sent me a text saying, "I've shaved my pussy. Are you coming?". And frankly I still wasn't sure  ;D
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Potnoodles on February 28, 2024, 09:33:52 PM
I don't think that crashing at a guy's place is an automatic come on for sex.[although it is a wonderful opportunity]
 I don't see why the girl should've got upset because he didn't make a move on her. If she had wanted sex then she should have left the sofa and climbed into his bed . Don't ask me how I know ,lol.

An interesting point was raised by MissBarbara  - girls are just as horny and sometimes yearn for sex as much as guys-  This is SO true and some men do not understand this or believe it [ despite our very best efforts] . Maybe the hentai film producer was trying in a weird way to say this .ie that girls are just as if not more so horny than guys and that's why she gets mad at the " whimp" Clumsy though.

Nicky x [ I don'tgive a f**k cos today I got a quad ,yey]
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on February 29, 2024, 02:33:01 PM

I found a funny Hentai to watch with the wife last night on our rare night off together. But despite it being a cartoon, there is some real life stuff mixed in. It reminded me and the wife of a fight my cousin had with his now wife, but at the time they just started dating.

Hentai:

Dude brings an old high school classmate home cause she broke up with her boyfriend, and had no place to sleep. She stays at his apartment, but quickly gets bent that he does not want to try having sex with her, and they argue until she learns he was holding back because he thinks sex should be done with people you love.

My Cousin:

Just started dating a girl when he was in college, the co ed dorm loses power and water during the winter and me being the closest, hits me up for a room in my house. We hadnt lived in the house we are in now less than a year. He brings her over, with some luggage, and I give them an unused room (this was before my last daughter was old enough to leave the nursery.) And the fight broke out that he wouldn't touch her, and he was arguing that he actually loves her and thinks that in the middle of a crisis isn't the best time to fuck. They had not even reached the third dates so... They ended up doing it out of rage, anger and spite. They now have 5 kids and are very happily married, lol.

My question for the Upperclass Ladies of KB:

Is this really a thing among women? I mean I know some guys will do anything to get a lady in bed, but in this generation of #metoo, and cancel culture, Men have to be careful. But to a woman does actually crashing at a man's place equate to consent, or at least implied consent? Or is it just a libido thing? I am confused.


I am definitely not "upper class." I grew up with three siblings, and my dad was a lower-level accountant and my mom was a teacher. They owned a house in the suburbs, had a car, and helped put four kids through college, but we grew up on a fairly tight budget. And I live pretty much the same way today. I live in a small apartment, and I only have one clothing item that cost more than $200 (and only one pair of shoes that cost more than $150, and they're running shoes).

Meanwhile, all of this has absolutely nothing to do with the #MeToo movement or "cancel culture."  To be honest, I'm not even sure what "cancel culture" means in this context.

Consent means consent, that is, a free agreement to engage in the act that is about to occur. Walking in the front door of someone's home, or staying over at someone's home, is not consent, nor even implied consent. As Toe can explain, "implied consent," is a legal term. It applies, for example, when a person drives a car down the street, and is stopped by a police officer for potential drunk driving. The fact that the person was driving a car is considered implied consent to a breathalyzer test. To take another example, if a customer takes a seat in a restaurant and orders a meal, it is implied consent that owner is obligated to provide the food, and the customer is obligated to pay for it.

Implied consent can occur in a sexual relationship. For example, a husband and wife are lying in bed, he begins stroking her body, and she turns to him and eagerly kisses him, and strokes him, etc. It is implied, without words being exchanged, that she consents to the act which is beginning.

This doesn't mean that a woman crashing at a man's place cannot consent to have sex with him. Yes, libido is very much a thing, and contrary to popular belief, women can get just as horny and yearn for sex as much as men. But it still requires consent on her part, with nothing implicit or assumed.

I hope that clears things up for you.


I call bull on you not being upperclass. But not in the traditional meaning of upperclass, but my meaning, being a woman of high caliber, nice, polite, not garish. I was implying by upperclass, is that the lady's of KB are great women. Thanks for the clarity. But is it a thing with women, putting consent aside, to get mad at a man for not wanting to put out when things are falling into place for it?

In the Hentai the lady was like "I am a pretty woman here in your house crashing the night, why wont you make a move on me? she accuses him of impotency, which is kind of a nuclear button for men, and then she gets what she wants but more than she expected.

The hentai in question:

Mitasarete Mezameru Asa ni, Jimi na Choushoku o The Animation

Basically, do women get frustrated over things like that?


Perhaps "classy" would be a better word than "upper class." To my mind "upper class" defines someone who is at least relatively wealthy. Either way, I'm thankful for your compliments.

You write, "Is it a thing with women, putting consent aside, to get mad at a man for not wanting to put out when things are falling into place for it?"

If you're asking whether women get frustrated when they're ready to go and their partner is not, then the answer is undoubtedly yes. Both Shiela and Julie have described this exact thing, and several times.

The question whether two people in the situation you describe -- e.g. a house guest or visitor who is a relative stranger to the homeowner -- would have sex, the answer is more complex. In fantasies, they almost always do. In real life, it entirely depends on the people involved. You described a man not wanting to do so because he isn't in love with or in a committed relationship with the woman. I respect that, and it's entirely his choice. But is he sees a hot woman who's ready to go sitting across from him in the living room and decides to engage with her, I respect that as well, and it's also entirely his choice.

I would suspect that the times when a man is ready to go and the woman is not vs. a woman is ready to go and a man is not fall somewhere around a 10:1 ratio, and perhaps even higher. While this is generalizing, women get just as horny and crave sex as much as men, but women are more selective in their choices of when and how frequently to have sex. Again, this is just my impression, but it seems that most men are ready to go 2-3 times per day, every day, and more often on weekends. Most women, in general, are not.


Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Potnoodles on February 29, 2024, 04:22:41 PM
" Most women, in general, are not "

Dammit , in the minority ,again !

Nicky x
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on February 29, 2024, 08:57:59 PM
The video in question:

https://sendvid.com/1xyvf9fx

Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on March 31, 2024, 07:43:54 PM
Another question thats nagging me:

Can a woman actually have an orgasm so big that it breaks her mentally, and do women actually like and want those mind destroying orgasms? Wife says no to the whole thing, but I need a second opinion.
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: MissBarbara on March 31, 2024, 10:59:16 PM

Another question thats nagging me:

Can a woman actually have an orgasm so big that it breaks her mentally, and do women actually like and want those mind destroying orgasms? Wife says no to the whole thing, but I need a second opinion.


Your wife is correct: No.

I've had orgasms that have left me temporarily mentally incapacitated, but never broken mentally.

Though, based on her descriptions here, Shiela would be a better person to ask.



Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Vela Nanashi on March 31, 2024, 11:55:09 PM
I do not think you can break a mind permanently like that no. At best you can temporarily overwhelm, make the person maybe even briefly incapacitated as Barb says, maybe forget where, who, when, what they are and just be in intense pleasure, maybe also pass out into wonderful sleep after, and leave a nice lasting memory, to think back on, but that forgetting thing is not permanent, the memory can be though, and like any memory can alter what one seeks out again later, and how one feels etc.

That I think goes for pleasure and, for some, pain (those who enjoy and seek that out, and go into 'sub'space, though when it comes to that you probably need to ask someone who is into that).
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on April 02, 2024, 04:56:22 PM
100% agree with your wife, MissB, and Vela.

To say mentally broken gives the impression of damage, and the best of best orgasms is anything but damaging.

Incapacitated is a great way to describe it when it first hits. Being lost in pleasure. My mind is just drifting through it. From intensity to total relaxation and just wanting it to last forever. When it does unfortunately end, it's like waking up from the greatest sleep I've ever had.

Vela also hit the nail on the head about remembering it. Living it, recalling it, and describing it will never be the same
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Writers Bloque on April 12, 2024, 05:03:13 PM
Thanks, because it seems like in most media from anime to real movies that women seek out the most incapacitating orgasms, but I cannot complain, as I like giving them, but it seems not to be too much fun if you can barely function afterwards.

Also:

What other than the penis on a man, do women like to look at, or look for as attractive in a male?
Title: Re: Ask a female a question.
Post by: Shiela_M on April 13, 2024, 12:40:07 AM
What other than the penis on a man, do women like to look at, or look for as attractive in a male?

For starters, his dick isn't even #1 on that list. Yes, I do enjoying seeing them, but it's just a part of the bigger picture. Strong jawline, broad shoulders, a confident stance (don't slouch, stand tall and proud of who you are), strong hands with clean fingernails, a chest and back that isnt too hairy, a good smile...
Even a fully clothed man if he knows how to dress can be sexier than when he's nude. Rare, but possible.